Speechless 18>15

[becalm]

Recently my landlord and I had a run in (This thread post #7) https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/index.php?threads/introvert-and-boundaries-15-2.29350/

I thought we'd moved past it but today I went out and when I got back my painting project I'd been working on, which was outside in our shared space drying, was damaged - someone had obviously run their fingers through the wet paint a number of times and also put something like a tin on it that left an obvious mark.
I asked the landlord about it never thinking he would deliberately do something like that and he denied knowing anything about it and then I noticed he had the same colour paint on the end of his fingers. I pretended not to notice because I just cannot deal with it and what can I do anyway. Was it deliberate or did he just not realise it was still wet?

What do I need to know about the landlord deliberately damaging my painting? Hex 18.2.6>15

That definitely looks like he did it deliberately, Hex 18 Deterioration, and the Hex 15 is me doing the right thing by just maintaining my integrity and letting it go.
Wow how low can you get!!

What is the best thing to do about my current living circumstances

Hex 61.1>59

I will not get any peace from the landlord and use my intuition to know what to do and when to move.

I have found a place I could move to for the very least 28 days and wondering if I should just use this as a stop gap until things change again. I'm far from happy about this but it is what it is for now....
How would it benefit me to move to this stop gap accommodation Hex 20.3.5.6>15

It looks like it would give the space to contemplate my next move.

 

[Liselle]

Really sorry your painting got ruined.

Looking at the other thread and then this one - you had 15 for your primary hexagram over there, and it's the relating hexagram here.

15 means down to earth, ordinary, having integrity, a state of balance - it's exactly not its paired hexagram 16: recklessness, wanton disregard, imagination or over-imagining, etc.

18.2, "mother's corruption" - think about motherhood, and how it might be corrupted. Not caring enough, or else caring too much and not letting her children have their own lives. From what you said in the other thread, it seems maybe the latter's more likely than the former - does that make sense?

In other words, maybe this happened because he was trying too hard to do something he sincerely thought was the right thing to do. No idea what that could have been. If he thought it should be moved for some reason and merely tried to move it, it's hard to see how so much damage could have happened.

18.6 changes to hexagram 46, Pushing Upward - Hilary says in WikiWing "Pushing upward beyond corruption means going beyond inner or outer politics to the real work, 'honouring what is highest.'

I wonder if Yi's endorsing what you actually did - you asked him about it, got a denial, and then you stopped pushing, even when you noticed evidence (paint on his fingers).

18 can be about investigating, seeking causes. At line 6 you move beyond that. That's exactly what happened, you stopped trying to get to the bottom of it. Maybe 18.6 means that's best, it's more important not to have another ugly scene (which can't fix your painting, anyway). Your landlord knows what happened, maybe he suspects you know that he knows, yet a scene was avoided. Maybe he's mortified enough to finally get the message now?

 

[becalm]

Thanks Liselle, I really appreciate you responding to this post although thank goodness I'm over the shock of it now!
I do understand what you mean re Line 2 about caring too much - he tells me he does think about me and care and just wants what's best hence his entering my property to get the heater which caused all this. I could've also overlooked that but who knows what would have happened re boundaries. Well having said that, I could've made more of a big deal about it especially as he still thinks he did nothing wrong so I guess that's where the Hex 15 comes into it there too.
In regards to the damage on the painting I don't really know in what way he thought he may have been helping especially because the marks are all over the painting and not just in one place but then again he's an alcoholic and most of the time he is highly intoxicated and forgets a lot. A couple of hours after he'd done this damage it started to rain and he sends me a text message thanking me for bringing in his washing, so lucky with the rain we just had. The guys lost his marbles for sure I never touched his washing obviously he forgot he himself brought it in earlier which I saw him do.
In the bigger picture the painting itself doesn't matter it's something I could sand back and re do it's more the denial of him doing it - a bit like the entering of my house I guess - he's in denial he did anything wrong.

 

[Liselle]

In regards to the damage on the painting I don't really know in what way he thought he may have been helping especially because the marks are all over the painting and not just in one place

Yes, exactly. It's strange.

he's an alcoholic and most of the time he is highly intoxicated and forgets a lot.

And there we might have the explanation. I don't see drunkenness specifically in the reading, but maybe Yi knew you know about that, so it told you something else as we've discussed (since your question was "What do I need to know...").

He feels "motherly" towards you as his tenant, wants to take care of you, that impulse gets corrupted. Your best response (at least about the painting) is not to keep pushing about it - maybe he actually doesn't remember, like the laundry.

I wouldn't like it, either. Seems like a nice place to live, otherwise; I hope you can straighten it out.

 

[becalm]

I've ditched the painting, it just wasn't worth my time and cost to fix it tbh but my anger isn't subsiding at all. When I'm not home I'm fine but when I get back whether I see or hear him doesn't matter I'm just very angry....So weird to me to feel that way but I guess it will subside eventually.

 

[Liselle]

Oh dear... sorry to hear this. Don't blame you, can't imagine having a drunken landlord behaving this way. Ugh.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello becalm,

it's a bit late, but I think:

18.2.6>15 says you can't persist in making him clear his intention; so do your own business and go on with your ordinary life.
You have evidence he's done it, but what to do then?


And 61.1>59 mean the peace is lost, so you've better leaving this place.

20.3.5.6>15 says examine the conditions, the move isn't likely to be a mistake, that's a normal thing to do.

What did you do?

 

[ontheroad]

I just saw this response marybluesky and although it's a bit 'late in t
the day' I moved out in the October. Actually I snuck out with the help of a friend because I knew he would make it all dramatic!!

I sent him a text a few hours after I'd left telling him and yes he became all needy and dramatic about it all begging me to come back and not understanding because HE thought I was happy there.....sheesh!!
About a month later I ran into him at the shops - all was good, we were fine.