Still Heart Broken please help 64>31

[tien]

Hi everyone,
I'm super new here and I need your thoughts on my iching reading. The question I asked was "How to get him back?". I was dating this guy for off and on for almost two years and one not-so-sunny- day he got himself a girlfriend. It has been almost 6 months now since the event and I still really miss him. We talk and text once in awhile on the phone, but we both avoiding talking about his new love life at all cost. There are so much I want to tell him and be venerable about my feelings, but I don't want to go to that dark place again where I was super sad and depressed. I do what him back though, but should I have let go. The iching was 64>31. Thank you.

 

[pocossin]

Should I have let go?
64.2.3.5.6 > 31

Some things simply aren't in our control. The image describes sorting things out for oneself.
The talking and texting on the phone may be heady, but lines 2 and 6 suggests that things are best left as they are. Lines 3 and 5 don't encourage an initiative. So however your heart aches, I'd take 31 as advice to seek a new boyfriend.

 

[long yi]

This is a sexual attraction and not a love attraction. The relationship is at a tender stage. One party try to force for commitment. This is a very unstable situation: too many change lines.

神煞：天乙—酉亥　福星—子戌　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—申　桃花—卯　华盖—戌
干支：壬辰年　丙午月　丙午日　癸巳时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　寅卯　　午未


六神　 伏神 　　　离宫：火水未济　　　　　　　　兑宫：泽山咸
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟己巳火　应○→　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丁未土　应
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙己未土　　×→　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财丁酉金　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财己酉金　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼丁亥水　　
滕蛇　官鬼己亥水　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟戊午火　世×→　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财丙申金　世
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙戊辰土　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟丙午火　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母戊寅木　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙丙辰土　

Six line analysis
There is no marriage promise (see line marriage document). Line 1 sits empty under the day and month of reading (house of spouse and house of marriage).

The man is not available because there is a man hidden under line 3. The character in line 3 can be you or an opponent to this relationship.

Line 6 is a change line and so is line 5. There is someone younger in this picture. There is one man and two female in hexagram 31.

Sex does not buy love. There are issues that need to be resolved. Giving him sex and make up does not solve the problem (3rd line yin becomes yang).

Since line 6 is a change line, he is moving away from you. Your situation is very complex. You have to sort things out. Who is he and what he thinks other than the sexual intercourse? Is there anyone else in the equation.

You mention that he has a girl friend. It is better to be hands off. Line 1 of hexagram 63 tells you that there is no marriage hope or being together what so ever.

 

[meganj]

hi i was just wondering where it says anything about sex and she got line 2 not 1.
in my view line 2 - progress is halted the next goes on to say that there will be an opportunity.
just trying to understand how you see that through this reading because i apparently do not....
thanks

megan

 

[meganj]

oh and i must add that her question said "how to get him back" and not " should I have let go"

 

[tien]

Thank you everyone for the comment. We were friends for a long time and we became lover, but he couldn't commit to me, and yes there is someone younger now in the picture. I just having a hard time letting go. I do miss him. I feel as if I lost my best friend.