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Hey Cris. Before I respond, I'm wondering are you looking only for an answer (e.g. the Yi says the neighbors two doors down are stealing from your folks)? Or are you perhaps open to a solution or advice to address the situation, e.g. what you 'need to know' about the situation?Thanks for your reply, dfreed. Can you shed any light on the reading?
Yes, I like open questions, and those fashioned in an open-ended way! I will try to take a look at the specifics of the reading soon! Best, dMy question was intentionally formulated in an open fashion (what I need to know),
Hello Cris.“What do I need to know about these cash withdrawals?”
50.2,3,4 > 23
Line 3, Wilhelm: A sphere of influence opens up for the great man. His fame begins to spread.
The masses flock to him.
Line 5: Here the great man has attained the sphere of the heavenly beings.
At one point I tried to 'rationalize' or explain to my mom what was happening with her, but either because she didn't want to see, or could not see what was happening, she didn't see nor understand what was going on. And when I realized this - and also realized that I was trying to make my mom be someone she no long was - at least one burden had been lifted (but only one of many).Having gone through a similar experience with your mum, you'll probably know that memory loss implies the affected person most of the time does not realize they have a problem - and when they do, it causes such emotional distress that they tend to deny it, or anyway react negatively. My attempts to establish order in their own interest have been met with regular violent opposition.
I will try and take a closer look at this. In the meantime, I wonder, is it possible for you to remove the valuables from your parent's home, so they are not available to be stolen? (And since they won't remember they are missing, they won't know they are missing.) It's just a suggestion, one small piece of 'fixing the cauldron'."Housekeeper's involvement in cash disappearance?"
1.3,5 > 38
Hey d.,At one point I tried to 'rationalize' or explain to my mom what was happening with her, but either because she didn't want to see, or could not see what was happening, she didn't see nor understand what was going on. And when I realized this - and also realized that I was trying to make my mom be someone she no long was - at least one burden had been lifted (but only one of many).
This has become a major issue and struggle for many of us - and each situation is different. I hope my interpretation and 'advice' may be of some use to you, but I realize too that it may not be specific enough for your situation. I will take a look again at what you've shared here, and see if there's any more I can glean from it.
As to fixing the 'system' - by way of example: for me, I had to get a medical diagnosis of alzheimer's so I could take over my mom's finances and making decisions for her. I had to find her medical directives and 'will' to see what they said; I had to arrange for caregivers (whom I trusted and whom earned my trust); ....
(Another friend of ours had to 'fix the cauldron' but selling her husband's car, since even though he had dementia, he'd find where she hid the keys, sneak out and go for drives, and then be found later wander the streets, no knowing where he was.)
As an aside, I asked the doctor who did my mon's medical diagnosis why, when she didn't know where she was, nor whom most of the people around her were, and she had little memory of her family, friends, etc. why did she still have the ability to rationalize away stuff she did, etc. He said that was a particular trait of Alzheimer's. I asked if there were types of dementia where people lost the ability to rationalize; he said 'yes, but it's not a pretty picture.'
A few times, I tried to involve my mom in the decision to move her to a care facility, that she did not want to move to. Finally, I said, 'mom, let's go for a vacation' and I flew with her 1,000 or so miles to where I live and brought her to a nearby dementia care facility and left her there. It was gut-wrenching for both of us, but it was exactly what I needed to do.
As you probably know, people with dementia have a wide range of reactions to their condition and to what others want to, or need to do to care for them. My mom never wanted to go to the facility - and was confused and unhappy because of the move - but she was not angry, nor violent, which is a reaction some people have.
I will try and take a closer look at this. In the meantime, I wonder, is it possible for you to remove the valuables from your parent's home, so they are not available to be stolen? (And since they won't remember they are missing, they won't know they are missing.) It's just a suggestion, one small piece of 'fixing the cauldron'.
Best, D.
Thanks D. Indeed it's hard. This lady has been my only ally in this situation, she's like family to us, and the mere thought that she could be taking advantage of our ordeal horrifies me. If this is the case, anyway, I'd rather know.Housekeeper's involvement in cash disappearance? 1.3.5 > 38
For me, line 1.3 almost always plays out as 'you've got very valid reasons to worry, you should indeed worry about it'. So I'd say that yes, you are right to worry about her. Perhaps you'll need to involve 'officials' of some sort (1.5), or professionals as you put it, and part ways with this housekeeper (38).
Which I'm sure would be yet another struggle for you. It all sounds so tough, especially you trying to help and receiving violent opposition in return.
How do you see the two castings combined? Could it be that the housekeeper inadvertently destroyed the cash?Because of lines 50.3, and 50.4, and resulting 23, it sounds to me like the money got accidentally lost/destroyed, i.e. nobody got to enjoy or spend that money. It was stashed away by someone, then got lost or destroyed.
I'll try to take a look. So I don't have to hunt and peck, can you tell me which post contains that rewsding, or just state it again? Thanks.Let me know if you can make anything out of my last reading...
#13. Fellowship...I'll try to take a look. So I don't have to hunt and peck, can you tell me which post contains that rewsding, or just state it again? Thanks.
How do you see the two castings combined? Could it be that the housekeeper inadvertently destroyed the cash?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).