Support

[Lodestar]

I asked: what are my social skills like generally? 2UC

How could I improve my ways to receive more support from others? 60.2-3

How can I best deal with highly competitive self-promoting people?
(I'm tired of opting out and letting them have what they want in order to avoid the stress and negativity - because I've realised that means I lose out)

5.3-60

 

[goddessliss]

60.2^3 this reading says to me that you either expect too much from others and/or give too much or too little of yorself when relating which makes things difficult right from the start. Only you know which one it is.

Your whole post suggets to me that there's a need to change yourself energetically possibly because I've just done it myself and can recognise it here. Liss

 

[Tim K]

Social skills in general? 2.0 - passive and receptive person.

60.2 Be more active. Allow yourself to go out more, engage in new activities more freely.

5.3 Don't get stuck with them, limit the contact.
OR don't stop/slow down in the middle of the way, grab the opportunity when it arises. [same idea as 60.2]
I don't know what has more weight here, the line or 60.

 

[Lodestar]

Thank you guys!

Yes I feel the same about these, sounds right. Another question just popped into my head
'What is my 'true-nature social behaviour'? 26uc
Because I now have a feeling that this passive receptive person is not the real me, I'm a cardinal sign, I'm a doer an adventurer, but many set-backs have rendered me passive.
However I have read 26uc means restraint - which echoes the above?
Or could it mean being self-reliant and in control of/harmony with my emotional and psycic energies?

 

[goddessliss]

You haven't found it yet as you've been holding your true self back all your life.

 

[rosada]

Thoughts about 60:
60.1 is a situation BEFORE Limitation kicks in. It's as if the person is in their house and doesn't even know about all the wild temptations that exit in the world so they aren't aware of any limits. They haven't tested their limits yet because there hasn't been any opportunity.
60.2 says limit the limits. When you spot your opportunity don't hold back, step up and go for it.
60.3 Once a person realizes they are capable of recognizing opportunities and of going beyond what they thought were their limits then there is danger of ignoring all limits.

To apply this to how one might receive more support from others:
60.2 Watch for opportunities for doing what it is you are wanting to do.
60.3 Be respectful of what others are trying to do and don't disrupt.

I think of someone trying to change lanes on a busy freeway.
60.2 Watch for an opening and then take it.
60.3 Don't drive recklessly now, don't be changing lanes back and forth and disturbing the flow.

Or trying to join a group conversation where a lot of people are talking.
60.2 Watch for an opening and then speak up.
60.3 Don't interrupt or talk to much of try to take the conversation in a totally different direction.

So as far as advice on getting more support from others it reads to me as not so much a guide to getting support from others as advice on how to navigate your path so you don't particularly need support from others. 60.2 seems to encourage getting in a position to take advantage of opportunities, like get out of the "house" so perhaps you need to be clearer in your own mind what it is you are wanting to do and get yourself in a position to take advantage of any opportunities and to then do it.
There also seems to be a need to be aware of the protocol for how to move forward. 60.3 seems to emphasize the need to be aware of necessary LIMITS in any situation. Perhaps there is a need to wait and take turns or maybe there are limits to what other people can do to support you. Perhaps you have been looking for support from people who just aren't capable of giving support. Maybe you have friends who rather than encouraging you, tell you your successes are accidents and urge you to limit yourself.

Anyway, I think 60 could be telling you to have the approach that you'll make your own opportunities and not to worry too much about getting others support just as long as you aren't breaking the rules and doing things to lose support.

As to the question about true nature and social behavior, I think 26's Image about sharing stories from the past suggests you are by nature a very social animal and might particularly enjoy conversations where people are sharing stories of their experiences - the way we do here at Onlineclarity!

 

[rosada]

Rethinking 60. Limitations:

How about
60.1 is no opportunities
60.2 THE opportunity
60.3 Unlimited opportunities

60.4 Inner abilities and outer opportunities synchronize, flow.
60.5 Self limitations, self control, not responding to inappropriate opportunities. Set a good example.
60.6 Control self, not others.

 

[Lodestar]

Thanks so much Rosada! I will reflect on this when I get back home.
Just to clarify though it's 60.2 - 3 rather than 60.2.3..
However comparing .2 with .3 is extremely useful, so it worked out really well this way
I will post a response later, thanks again.

 

[rosada]

Oh! My bad. But good! Glad it was useful...

60.2 - 3 . I was once in a play where I had a non-speaking role. At one point in the performance one of the actors forgot his line. I had a chance to give him a cue, a hint, and it would have helped him out. I think that would have been an example of 60.2 - 3, going past the limit, grabbing the opportunity and speaking up = would have 3., brought order out of the confusion. However I stupidly decided to let the other actors, the professionals, handle it and let my golden opportunity go by. The play stumbled in confusion for a moment but it was okay...

btw, I did not get 60.2 - 3 in reference to that incident, I just mention it cause it seems like that would qualify as a 60.2 - 3 situation. Maybe meaning, don't hesitate to be supportive of others if you want them to be supportive of you!