surprise return and hexagram 3 unchanging

[folledeschiele]

Hello to everyone.
About six months ago, my long-term partner left me. I thought I'd never heal from the grief, and part of me is still struggling with sadness. Yet after a long period of estrangement, we seem to be warming to each other again-- on a friendly, not romantic level. I still love her but for the first time feel persuaded in my gut that right now we're better off not being a couple, and part of me is just really relieved to have her back in my life in some form (no one knows me better, and despite all the pain of these past months, I adore her). I am concerned though that maybe attempting a whole new kind of relationship isn't realistic. I want to try, but am not sure I can do it. I asked the following:

--Can we really start over and have a whole new kind of relationship: Drew hexagram 3 unchanging. (New start but some difficulty? seems somewhat promising)

--What approach should I take with her: drew hexagram 53 unchanging-- (hmm, lots of patience and slow growth. don't want to project too much hope on the marriage connotation of the hexagram though)

--Will we likely end up as a couple again, or just be friends?-: drew 51 unchanging (Shock? not sure how to interpret).

Any help is much appreciated. For the first time, I'm not even sure I'd want to get back together even if she wanted it, and in general I'm feeling heartened by our renewed connection, but also very shaky for obvious reasons. Many thanks!

 

[flor05]

Hi there,

Just a couple of brief comments, I'm new with the IChing and far from being an expert.
I think you've got the reading just right. And it's curious you got all unchanging hexagrams...

Hex 3. Everything points to a new beginning. With some difficulties, but overall positive and with potencial for success. It's funny because you could have gotten 24, return, but you got this one instead. So though I coulnd't possibly say if this is romantic or not, it seems pretty clear that you will build a NEW relationship (either friendship or romantic), that will be different from what you had in the past.

Hex 53. I think this is the most important message here and what you have to focus on: Going step by step, taking one thing at a time. Don't rush into things. My personal advice, don't rush into labeling the relationship neither. Just let it flow, try to remain were your comfortable and keep things natural.

Hex 51. Is an hex I'm not very good at interpreting. My guess is that is related to your fears. To me, the idea behind this hex is to transform fear into something useful and creative. May be you need to overcome you fear inorder to build something long term with her? Or you should learn from what scares you in order to achieve that? I'm not sure...

In any case, hope this helps.

Best,

Flor.

 

[rosada]

51. in this instance reads to me as a warning that if you were to try to be a couple again now there would be fear and trembling, thunder and lightening - very unstable. As the Image of 51 says, you're better off to use this time 'to set your life in order and to examine yourself."

-rosada