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Tea With the Local Laird: Hex 49

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Matters have begun to fall into place a bit lately. For anyone unaware of the long-winded story that's progressed over various castings, I've spent the last few years shuttling from pillar to post, having no work, no money and few expectations. Then early this year got landed with the job of taking back the family home where my Ex has lived for three years rent-free; a property that he should have managed to sell a couple years ago, but didn't, having turned down a good offer early on. Heedless of my struggles, he let the property go and I've just given up my flat and sold all I managed to accumulate here, returned to the family home [in another country] and had it sold in a month after I'd done all the proper repairs and maintenance.

Why am I telling you this? Well, because it seems the fog may be lifting a bit and yesterday was downright extraordinary -- the subject of my enquiry.

I've had a hugely difficult time after giving up my flat to find a new place to live -- that is until yesterday. I'd applied for longterm let. but the place I'd wanted was going to be unavailable for quite a while -- the decision on the tenant [and many applied] wouldn't happen until next month. I was planning to hang in the wings waiting -- or perhaps find an alternative if one came along. BUT I loved this little place. I drive past the lane often on my way to visit family, and just think how IDYLLIC.

In any case, I suddenly had a phone call from the owner, who owns a number of places locally, the literal laird of the manor. And he wasn't just acknowledging my application for the place, but invited me to tea. Along I went, and we viewed the house and he asked was there anything missing, anything I thought he should have done to prepare it to let? I couldn't see a thing in fact. It's just lovely. Down to the manor we went for tea and had an engaging chat.

Now this fellow is widely known as purely business, even formidable. But he was downright jovial and we had a great conversation besides. He has dropped the idea of waiting to make a decision, apparently dismissed a pile of other applications, and let the house to me on the spot! The occasion was so friendly and he so outgoing, walked me to the car, still chatting, and waved me off with a big smile.

What has happened here? I am very pleased -- but baffled. I've asked the Yi in all sincere bafflement: "What has happened with him?" And the reply was quite definite: Hexagram 49 unchanging.

Well, not entirely specific, but distinct. This is a transformation. But what kind or why? Anyone have experience with this unchanging hexagram, as I don't. Has this more likely to do with him, me, the situation, something spiritual, something personal? Or do we know? Because I'd love to know more about this interesting situation and the person who is about to be my nearest neighbour.:hug: Arabella
 
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Great news! :pompom:
Have you told his special lady friend about your desire to get the place for yourself?
I think something happened to make him change / clear his doubts. Perhaps even that other applicant fell out..
But since he was so friendly, he must have had some insight into your personality, no? Who could have given him that imput?
I get the feeling he fancies you maybe, the way he went about the whole thing....:rolleyes:
Very Jane Austen feeling when you described it, :Dme like and wish I could say "I told you so" at the end of the day as it runs in my family:mischief:
 

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Great news! :pompom:
Have you told his special lady friend about your desire to get the place for yourself?
I think something happened to make him change / clear his doubts. Perhaps even that other applicant fell out..
But since he was so friendly, he must have had some insight into your personality, no? Who could have given him that imput?
I get the feeling he fancies you maybe, the way he went about the whole thing....:rolleyes:
Very Jane Austen feeling when you described it, :Dme like and wish I could say "I told you so" at the end of the day as it runs in my family:mischief:

I mentioned in a few directions that I hoped people who know this fella through local affairs would speak for me -- and his lady friend as well. She said only if it "came up" because otherwise it would seem rather suspicious -- and i haven't heard from her that she approached him, which I think she would have said. I don't know that anybody has spoken to him. And, if they did, I can believe he would have put on such a production as THIS just to make them happy!

BUT something, whatever it was, has transformed the guy and his usual dour attitude toward estate business. He was just rather giddy and lit up. Strange no?

When I look at hexagram 49 there doesn't appear to be a particularly emotional angle to what it is saying about regeneration. More that it is happening TO the person in question, some internal process that is causing them to shed the old and get on with something entirely new. I don't think a recommendation of my tenancy could have inspired all of that??

Whatever inspired him, he is definitely different, at least with me. He is actually a partner in a large real estate operation as well, so this entire transaction could have been done through them. But he has handled this himself, took down my email address to advise on utlity companies, and is even ordering oil for the tank in case it's chilly when i move in! Maybe an epiphany? Too much coffee? I guess the epiphany is closer to hex 49 unchanging.

You were right Dragona -- I needed some kind of an edge -- and I guess I've got it. I wish I knew what it was/is????
 

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if your friend who he is helplessly in love with Did mention it, then I can see him thinking that by letting you the cottage and being your friend, he may finally gain some sort of advantage in getting closer to the object of his affections. (no, I have not been reading too many romance novels)

I'd only add this: you asked What has happened to him, not Why. just saying..
 

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Darn, can`t take all the laurels :p PG nails it :bows:.... could be a change of policy in that sense. It is quite a significant coencidence - you knowing her.

Furthermore, he must be quite free of selfish aims and must really relieve the need of the people.W.
Perhaps, as a great landlord, powerful figure in the community etc, it gives him some sort of pleasure and recognition to be helpful to a single lady trying to settle down and start anew.:)
You could always cast for the reasons he decided to lend the house to you (tho, the answer was in the previous cast, IMO) or what are his motives...but enjoy, that is the good thing!
 

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Darn, can`t take all the laurels :p PG nails it :bows:.... could be a change of policy in that sense. It is quite a significant coencidence - you knowing her.

Furthermore, he must be quite free of selfish aims and must really relieve the need of the people.W.
Perhaps, as a great landlord, powerful figure in the community etc, it gives him some sort of pleasure and recognition to be helpful to a single lady trying to settle down and start anew.:)
You could always cast for the reasons he decided to lend the house to you (tho, the answer was in the previous cast, IMO) or what are his motives...but enjoy, that is the good thing!

His interest in her as a teen-ager was legendary, because they grew up together and have lived all their lives in this valley -- but that is thirty five years ago too. I can see they are still good friends, but they travel in quite different circles now. Even so, if she recommended something to him he might do it – but I’d guess the idea they would be “sweethearts” is well past -- although people still joke about it. And I’m not sure she spoke to him as she was rather reticent and it’s unlikely she saw him so soon. But who knows??

Well, I just got copied on an email to his agent saying he is so glad to have invested in upgrading the property if this has brought him such a wonderful tenant; it’s been worth the expense if he has attracted someone like this to the property?? Wow, I may have some trouble living up to such a billing. :eek:

I’m in a bit of shock, having received four email from him now on various subjects. It’s all to do with the property, of course, but as the head of a major estate agency, he could have turned this over to somebody else. My curiosity is sufficiently piqued to ask:
Why is he being so especially kind to ME and giving me the property?

Answer from the Yi: Hexagram 22.1.3 becoming 23.

So, this looks like someone coming down off their perch to extend a hand in line one. Maybe just trying to be kind -- but WHY? In line three trying to establish another side of his personality; trying to be more expansively personable? What is 23 doing in there?
 

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Ahhh Grace. So basically, I've made him do it (Precisely 23) ;) My magical powers are legendary but evenI am surprised at this :D
 

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Ohohoho, This looks like its not going to go away...
Got 22.1 for a man once, a very willful, seemingly single- minded man..well, in relating to me:rolleyes:
"Line 3 is strong, and between two weak lines, which adorn it, and bestow their favours on it. But this happy condition is from the accident of place. The subject of the line must be always correct and firm to ensure its continuance." Legge
Perhaps this speaks something to you. Without correctness or firmness there will be splitting apart.
I`d say he has hidden motives:D
 

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Ohohoho, This looks like its not going to go away...
Got 22.1 for a man once, a very willful, seemingly single- minded man..well, in relating to me:rolleyes:
"Line 3 is strong, and between two weak lines, which adorn it, and bestow their favours on it. But this happy condition is from the accident of place. The subject of the line must be always correct and firm to ensure its continuance." Legge
Perhaps this speaks something to you. Without correctness or firmness there will be splitting apart.
I`d say he has hidden motives:D

Yes, it gives me that feeling a bit. I had the sense of him being rather protective, but I couldn't easily sort out what it was about, knowing he is a "confirmed" bachelor. Hmmmmm.:blush:
 

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Mmmmmm...I still remember "dragons in the field"..you never said how that turned out...perhaps this is the field :-D
 

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Mmmmmm...I still remember "dragons in the field"..you never said how that turned out...perhaps this is the field :-D

OH! Remind me of the thread and I'll tell you whatever happened............:)
 

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The outcome of this in relation to dragons fighting and spilling blood in all directions actually did happen -- in a symbolic way of course. I decided not to have this guy join me in France because it was a closing of a phase of life I did instead with my children and one good friend who came along toward the end of the project. We sold our family home and a lot of the furnishings and packed the rest to move on with.

When I got back from that, this guy and I did get together and the occasion was downright weird. He invited me to dinner and then proceeded to take phone calls and acted like he was somewhere else. I went home and thought about it a bit and then I called him up and said I wanted to come talk to him. When I got to his place I confronted him about his vascillating behaviour and the way he treats me -- that it's just odd. He sort of retalliated by saying he wasn't romantically interested [oh yeah, sure] and had actually had a relationship the year before with somebody he proposed to and she turned him down [no surprise there if it's true!] and he wasn't "hurt" so I shouldn't be "hurt" thinking he wasn't interested in me. He said, after all, we knew each other as friends -- not intimately -- he thought he'd been clear it was a "friends" thing.

I told him, look, I'm not even talking about romance, this is about basic good manners when you take somebody out -- and if he couldn't muster those after four years of friendship and pay attention for the length of a sensible conversation then I wasn't missing much. He said he had a lot on his mind, he was buying a property as a summer home and there were problems, he'd had a phone call at dinner from his daughter and he wanted to respond. He said a few things to try to bait me into an argument, but I didn't take him up on it. I just said "bye" and made my way to the door.

It didn't end horribly, but it was chilly. Because he's a player. He was definitely trying to keep me on the hook -- and he's still in touch with the other woman as I've come to find out -- although he says she turned him down flat. THEY are now talking about touring France together -- a preoccupation with French that stems from his deceased wife's career as a French instructor it would seem. And he said that the reason he's interested in her is that when he looks at her from the distance her silhouette reminds him of his deceased wife. I told him, that's a pretty flimsey interest in anyone -- that he's just superficial with women and is going to crash and burn. I know I shocked him being so blunt. But he's got to be kidding.

Hexagram 2.6 to Hexagram 23 -- Dragons crashing around the field with blue and black blood running all over and all of it splitting apart -- sounds like it me! That's the end of that tale. Frankly, it was a great relief.
 
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Yea, that was...disappointing. And I think he felt a bit embarrassed but it certainly was not as dramatic as the image describes...more like a final duel where different colors were displayed and parties parted.
 

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Yea, that was...disappointing. And I think he felt a bit embarrassed but it certainly was not as dramatic as the image describes...more like a final duel where different colors were displayed and parties parted.

In fact, after four years of regular involvements that began as mysteriously wonderul and potentially romantic, traversed realms of friendship and camaraderie, but ended in upset and confusion, we've never spoken again.

This was building over time, the odd encounters that made no sense whatever, the hot and cold moodiness. I could be anything from his closest compadre on one day to somebody he "didn't really know" as he told me on the night we parted. I think the guy is insincere and doesn't know what he wants -- from anybody. I also think he's depressed and has had various kinds of treatments that may leave him spinning. He alluded at one point to medications he was taking that "encouraged" him to drink a lot.

He just wishes he had his wife back and that's not going to happen. I suppose the aspect of drama is all relative. This guy is renowned as the soul of propriety, but it's a thin veneer and now he has seriously lost face, which is probably why the line of communication is now dead. But I simply couldn't stand it anymore and there had to be a showdown of some sort.
 

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