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The best possible outcome - hex 39.1.4.6 to 13

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Hi guys, just before I cast this reading tonight, what was on my mind was that I am actually running out of energy to fight off the obstacles and am afraid I may end up giving up my dream as I cannot carry on defending my position for much longer, everything seems such a struggle and I am not a match for the person I am up against. I desperately need some guidance how to get through the difficulties, so that's what was on my mind when I asked: "What should I do to get the best possible outcome?". The changing lines 1, 4 and 6 of hexagram 39 seem like such a hard work, definitely like the way I feel... obstacles almost impossible to overcome, unless great help is found (or am I misinterpreting it?). What about the hexagram 13, Fellowship...? I keep getting this hexagram but I cannot think of anyone who could support me other than the lawyers whom I cannot really afford...

Can anyone shine some light on this reading please?
 

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I dofind this hard to interpret re your question..but noone else has come up with anything. My feeling is that yes as you say it seems you need expert help..How do you feel about the help you are getting ? Do you need to seek out further or more expert help ? Sorry can't be more use, not sure what to make of this.

13 is making me wonder about support groups etc, you know apart from legal help sometimes there are groups and organisations where people have been through the same as you and can give alot of support.
I know theres support groups for fathers who have trouble getting access to their kids in this country simply because the legal side was getting so hard. Wondering if there is anything similar for you...its just when you meet people in the same situation they all kinds of ideas and solutions you haven't thought of plus valuable emotional support. Sorry not totally clear on your situation but I think you feel bullied by your husband/partner..i think you intimated such in other threads..if so perhaps some moral support as well as legal support may give you extra milage if you feel worn down with it
 
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Hello Trojan, thank you so much for your help, it arrived just when I was giving up hope anyone was going to respond :)

Yes you are spot on, this is pretty much about the same situation, i.e. my ex partner using my concern for my son's wellbeing as a wepon to manipulate and bully, successfully. He wants me to go back with him and is using various ways to indicate that if I don't he will make my life and our son's life very difficult. He has always had regular contact with our son, despite the angry and violent outbursts in the past but he is now demanding to have more contact i.e. overnight, which I am very reluctant to agree to. He will not give up, and I feel so desperately trapped by the situation and unable to change it. I am unable to create distance geographically due to my existing work contract which does not end till August. I have no money to fight a legal battle and I don't qualify for legal aid. I am dealing with an emotionally unstable person, who can be very malicious when angry and upset so I end up doing what he wants most of the time, to avoid the dramas. I am hoping for something to happen that will aid my situation but the days seem to drag on. What's with all this coming and going in the changing lines? Going leads to obstructions, coming leads to union... ??

At the moment I feel that I am not strong enough to fight against a person like him, who is a master manipulator. He will not let me go, I feel trapped in my current situation and start thinking that although I have made that brave move to actually move out a year ago, I am not any more free as a result of it. I merely exist. So whether I go back with him or stay as I am will not make much difference. I don't know what else I could do to break free. What about hexagram 13, Fellowship with men?
 

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13 is making me wonder about support groups etc, you know apart from legal help sometimes there are groups and organisations where people have been through the same as you and can give alot of support.
I know theres support groups for fathers who have trouble getting access to their kids in this country simply because the legal side was getting so hard. Wondering if there is anything similar for you...its just when you meet people in the same situation they all kinds of ideas and solutions you haven't thought of plus valuable emotional support. Sorry not totally clear on your situation but I think you feel bullied by your husband/partner..i think you intimated such in other threads..if so perhaps some moral support as well as legal support may give you extra milage if you feel worn down with it

Your question was how best to get through this, and you said you thought the answer indicated you needed more support but you couldn't see how you'd get more support as you already had lawyers etc. I was suggesting that you take other support from those who will support you morally and emotionally too, wherever you can find it. may be friends, family, or support groups. You are now feeling weary and worn down and lawyers can't help with that feeling. I was suggesting the 13 may indicate wider support networks that could help you. Whatever else you need not fall prey to hopelessness, it won't help..and all i could see in your answer was your social network might help and if you lack one perhaps seek one out.

i think previous answers of yours have suggested you cease seeing this so much as a battle, i recall in another thread you got 34.5.6. It might be your own attitude is providing some resistance to the problem being resolved...but i think other answers also said to cool it on the struggle for resolution now. One way to cool it might be to go and have a good gossip with others about it. in 39 loney striving does no good. Not intending to sound glib BTW I appreciate it must be very difficult
 
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Trojan, many thanks for your response. To try and find the needed support network/group I actually asked for the best piece of advice regarding this and got 45.1.2 to 58, which I think only reinforces the need for a joint effort. (Not sure about 58 advising to be joyous, the last thing I am able to be right now :-(

Anyway, just to let you know that a few days ago I got a phone call from a health visitor initially involved with Paul's suicide attempt and ensuring Oliver was safe. She rang to check if I managed to progress things and suggested to put me in touch with a support network of people who can help me (including mothers in a similar situation, a social worker etc.). These people meet up I think and can advise me regarding my situation. Im waiting to hear from them but I just wanted to let you know that something has appeared out of the blue and hopefully will work.

If you have any further comments please let me know!

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Thats great ! I think it can make a huge difference to how you feel and how you cope if you are able to share with others in similar situations. It may not look like this helps to your goal of solving the issues but i think indirectly it helps alot. It can help you reappraise your options, get perspective and just feel better so that the mountains of 39 don't seem so daunting.

45>58 does reinforce that its helpful to connect with others about this. I think Wilhelm says of 58 that even grave hardships are much more easily borne in the atmosphere of friendliness and open discussion. Thus while you may not feel joyful now, the warmer feelings stirred up by sharing with others actually strengthen you...and so strengthen your position and things don't seem as hard. Let us know what happens
 

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