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I'm going through a divorce and thought I'd start looking around for another longtime companion to be with. I asked the iChing about a several acquaintances and mostly received "stay away" responses, except for one, "The Charming Woman," who will hitherto be referred to as CW. I've never really met CW but know of her through friends and her online presence. She's going through her own divorce, lives a distance away, and has children. My first question to the iChing about a month ago was simply how should I proceed with CW.
I received 31 (no moving lines), which really confirmed for me this feeling that she was the one out of all the women that I inquired about. And so I started communicating with her on a friendly basis through email and became friendly enough to even share a little of our emotional sides, specifically the sadness related to our personal divorce situations. This friendliness went on for a bit. I felt we were connecting.
I then asked the iChing about the need I felt to make an "I'm interested" contact with CW, and how should I proceed?
I received 49.2 and 6 changing to hexagram 1. I'd never received 1 (Chien) before and thought that was auspicious to say the least. So based on 49.2 I thought I could move forward and ask to meet with her at some point in the future. It took her a couple of days to respond, but she was agreeable to meet at some point, still friendly and cordial. I also felt 42.6 was okay too because I felt that as our situations unfolded I wouldn't have the need to do anything.
I then proceeded to ask her to meet on a specific date, soon. It was then that I noticed that she was not really communicating in the way she did normally with me online. In fact I didn't hear from her at all. It was then that I realized that specific date was not a good date because it fell on a holiday and would be problematic all around, so instead of waiting further for her response, I sent another email giving her an out because of the holiday. And suggested that we do this some other time, "maybe in the future." I received no response from her and haven't since.
Well, I felt this was a new possibly not so favorable juncture, even tho' I started to see much more compatibility between us. I still felt we'd be great together. So I asked the iChing again, how should I proceed with CW, given these new circumstances.
I received 44.1 changing to hexagram 1 (Chien) again. This second receiving of hexagram 1 (Chien) really threw me. I came away with the possibility that if we did get together there would be a radical shift in fortune that would be life changing and that it was up to me to take pause and really dig deep into myself to find out if this is what I wanted to do because it would be with me for the rest of my life.
Getting hexagram 1 (Chien) a second time made me think that on the one hand establishing a relationship with CW would create this massive positive creative energy, and that was super great for us. But I also started to think the opposite, that if I didn't get together with her and stayed solo, had more time to myself to deal with the divorce, that that would encourage hexagram 1 to fruit within me. So this is where I am a little confused. But the fact that I received hexagram 1 twice with regards to CW still leads me to believe that CW will instrumental in this, and that possibly we were supposed to be together.
Days have gone by and I still haven't heard from her. And I am now at the point where I really want to communicate with her again. But I'm wary. So I asked the iChing one more question, what would be the consequences if I tried to re-establish friendly communication with CW? I felt the need to at least be friends.
The answer I received was 54.3 changing to hexagram 34.
There it is. I'm not sure how to read 54.3 after all said and done. It seems to suggest not attempting communication at all with her at this point. Staying the course and getting back to 44.1, just waiting things out and seeing if things come together on their own without any ulterior motives involved. Let time move on and maybe in the future say a year from now when all the divorce dust is settled, see about making contact again with her.
Or, 54.3 also suggests to me that our contact at the moment would lead to more than a casual relationship, which seem a far cry from what I'd like to have ultimately, a long term relationship with the energy of hexagram 1 manifesting.
It seems the more I dig into this the worse the situation becomes.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I so apologize for the length of this one.
Kitoman
I received 31 (no moving lines), which really confirmed for me this feeling that she was the one out of all the women that I inquired about. And so I started communicating with her on a friendly basis through email and became friendly enough to even share a little of our emotional sides, specifically the sadness related to our personal divorce situations. This friendliness went on for a bit. I felt we were connecting.
I then asked the iChing about the need I felt to make an "I'm interested" contact with CW, and how should I proceed?
I received 49.2 and 6 changing to hexagram 1. I'd never received 1 (Chien) before and thought that was auspicious to say the least. So based on 49.2 I thought I could move forward and ask to meet with her at some point in the future. It took her a couple of days to respond, but she was agreeable to meet at some point, still friendly and cordial. I also felt 42.6 was okay too because I felt that as our situations unfolded I wouldn't have the need to do anything.
I then proceeded to ask her to meet on a specific date, soon. It was then that I noticed that she was not really communicating in the way she did normally with me online. In fact I didn't hear from her at all. It was then that I realized that specific date was not a good date because it fell on a holiday and would be problematic all around, so instead of waiting further for her response, I sent another email giving her an out because of the holiday. And suggested that we do this some other time, "maybe in the future." I received no response from her and haven't since.
Well, I felt this was a new possibly not so favorable juncture, even tho' I started to see much more compatibility between us. I still felt we'd be great together. So I asked the iChing again, how should I proceed with CW, given these new circumstances.
I received 44.1 changing to hexagram 1 (Chien) again. This second receiving of hexagram 1 (Chien) really threw me. I came away with the possibility that if we did get together there would be a radical shift in fortune that would be life changing and that it was up to me to take pause and really dig deep into myself to find out if this is what I wanted to do because it would be with me for the rest of my life.
Getting hexagram 1 (Chien) a second time made me think that on the one hand establishing a relationship with CW would create this massive positive creative energy, and that was super great for us. But I also started to think the opposite, that if I didn't get together with her and stayed solo, had more time to myself to deal with the divorce, that that would encourage hexagram 1 to fruit within me. So this is where I am a little confused. But the fact that I received hexagram 1 twice with regards to CW still leads me to believe that CW will instrumental in this, and that possibly we were supposed to be together.
Days have gone by and I still haven't heard from her. And I am now at the point where I really want to communicate with her again. But I'm wary. So I asked the iChing one more question, what would be the consequences if I tried to re-establish friendly communication with CW? I felt the need to at least be friends.
The answer I received was 54.3 changing to hexagram 34.
There it is. I'm not sure how to read 54.3 after all said and done. It seems to suggest not attempting communication at all with her at this point. Staying the course and getting back to 44.1, just waiting things out and seeing if things come together on their own without any ulterior motives involved. Let time move on and maybe in the future say a year from now when all the divorce dust is settled, see about making contact again with her.
Or, 54.3 also suggests to me that our contact at the moment would lead to more than a casual relationship, which seem a far cry from what I'd like to have ultimately, a long term relationship with the energy of hexagram 1 manifesting.
It seems the more I dig into this the worse the situation becomes.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I so apologize for the length of this one.
Kitoman