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angeleyes

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Hello everyone!

I try not to post readings about relationships (though i have done so a few times).I've noticed how i often find it difficult to comment on other people's "relationship readings", probably because they seem to be of sych a personal nature... However, this one i wanted to share. I'd love to hear you opinions on this repetition of the same hex...

I am in a point in my life where insecurity seems to rule everywhere.. I would love to be able to turn to my "other half" for support but this cannot be the case due to the fact that he's going through hard times aswell.. What is more, the relationship itself is kind of fragile right now. He's thinking about leaving in September and go to the other end of the world in search of a better reality..He's asked me to go with him but i refused..It's hard here for everyone but what he proposes is just too far away...I love him and don't want to lose him..He says he doesn't want to go but sees no other way and doesn't know what to do...We're both scared and stressed and we no longer talk about it, pretending the whole issue is not there..

So, enough with the background. Here are my three questions:

"Please give me general advice regarding my relationship with X"
46 unchanging


Is this telling me to "grow up" and stop being so scared and insecure all the time? I've read in some previous threads about 46 describing someone who has outgrown the situation..Am I outgrowing him?

"Where are we right now in the relationship?"
46.4.5>28


This reminds me of the stress one is under when they're growing up and have to deal with life in a mature, adult manner. It seems to be true for the both of us that we're now called to take responsibility of our lives..

"What is the potential of the relationship?"
46 unchanging


Ok. So, we're both growing..But does this mean that the relationship is about to grow or that we're going to outgrow the relationsihp..

(how many times have i spelled the word "grow" until now??:eek:)

I'm also thinking of the judgement in 46:
Departure toward the south
Brings good fortune.

He's going to leave and that's a good thing for us both?? That's sad...
Any ideas would be more than welcome. I'm sure there's a bigger picture here somewhere that i'm failing to see...

Thank you all..
A.:bows:
 

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46 is taking one step at a time.

PUSHING UPWARD has supreme success.
One must see the great man.
Fear not.
Departure toward the south
Brings good fortune.

towards the south, get some support from friends. The omen is good though.

I pulled this from the wiki wing:

Pulling seedlings doesn’t make them grow faster.

:)

... and now i cant get the new kids on the block song out of my head..."step by step...ooooo baby...." (sorry, guilty nostalgic pleasure)


lines 4 and 5 both have 'good fortune'. Is going with him such a bad thing? maybe its mt Ch'i, maybe not... it does lead to 28, an image of you standing on your own and of too much. Another case of lines which look easy and a relating hex that seems the opposite.

Because of the prominence of 46 though I think moreover the readings give a sense of you wont be able to see the end of the staircase, you have to have a little faith and take it step by step. Although I must say with unchanging readings often I experience the enrgy of the hexagram as having no place to go.

Judging from the questions you asked though it looks, to me, like yi is saying cant tell you much more right now other than than take another step, or rather the next step... and dont worry...fear not.
 

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46 to me is always a sign that good forces are with the
situation and to strive forward. It could mean deepen your
relationship and commit at a deeper level. A relationship is not a feeling it is
a commitment. I learned this through being a mum - you
vow to look after your kids even when they behave badly.
Why not go with him on this one and prepare everything in case
you have to turn back. Looks like in 28 the rel is under major strain.

I take it as take a leap of faith with him and commit to making
it work - it should turn out well on some level and i am feeling you
are young enough to start over?
 

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Thank you both so much for your input..

That is exactly why i like shared readings. I get to read other people's interpretation of my reading, then blend them with my own, then sleep on it for a night or two and finally realizing that i already knew but for some reason(s) it wasn't clear enough..

Actually, 46 is a pretty accurate description of the situation between us at the moment. We seem to have agreed to take it one day at a time since we're both so unclear us to what our next steps are going to be..However, as time goes by, feelings of tension and anxiety arise (46>28) as we try to "pull the seedlings" and become disappointed by the fact they don't seem to be growing any faster..;)

yi is saying cant tell you much more right now other than than take another step, or rather the next step... and dont worry...fear not.

Yeap! That's my feeling exactly..I guess i needed a strong reminder of my decision to take it "step by step" and keep the faith.. Afterall, all fears aside, 46 is a promising place to be..no?

I loved what you wrote Hopex about love and commitment.. Maybe that's something to consider of. To what extend are we actually willing to commit?? Not sure i can tell..
In any case going where he suggest is too hard for me..It simply is too far away and i could leave my country but i would like to go to someplace where i would be able to return to my family and friends more often than just once every 2-3 years..

I am not too old, not too young.. I guess i'm in the perfect age to start making my life what i want it to be..Step by step..;)

Love,
A.:bows:
 

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I loved the image for 46 that is on a cd I have...it is of bamboo growing strong and tall. 46 is a hexagram of strong solid growth upward, and since you got it three times, it seems pretty meaningful. You might surprise yourself with being able to move where you feel you simply cannot.......or maybe your boyfriend will surprise you by finding something closer to present home.........bear in mind that the relating hex 28 mostlikely describes the context of the situation you find yourself in, and not the outcome.

There was a movie called Family Man where the couple are deciding what to do about jobs and home, conflicting ideas and the theme they return to is not one of choosing this or that but of saying "I choose US what ever that might mean". Jobs come and go, but a solid relationship of love is a foundation that is the most important thing. maybe this is a point where you two realize that, and decide to build on that foundation, making a decision together...that is very 46ish for the relationship and relates to line 4 especially.

I know it must feel sad to have him say he is going and wants you to come along rather than saying "should WE go here.."...but maybe it is a time to solidify that essence of foundation, commitment as someone said. this would not be just a matter of you saying, 'ok, I will go because you are going'.....a commitment to you from him is equally important. but no matter, 46 seems to say the relationship is growing strong, so it might be a good time to address the subject of being a team in this decision.
 

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I know it must feel sad to have him say he is going and wants you to come along rather than saying "should WE go here.."...but maybe it is a time to solidify that essence of foundation, commitment as someone said. this would not be just a matter of you saying, 'ok, I will go because you are going'.....a commitment to you from him is equally important.

Thank you so much for that, bamboo..It's amazing how you got to the underlying feeling of this whole situation..We both tend to rationalize it but the truth is i do need to hear that WE are together in this. It's not easy to talk about it though. Whenever i try to, he becomes defensive and it leads nowhere. At the moment, trying to talk to him about US and feelings and commitment is like hex 28, you never know when the roof is gonna fall on our heads..

Anyway, i guess time will tell whether we can find this sense of togetherness that you're describing.I sure hope we do :)

Thanks again..felt like talking to a friend..
 
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"Please give me general advice regarding my relationship with X"
46 unchanging


Looks like it could go somewhere. Worth the effort.

"Where are we right now in the relationship?"
46.4.5>28


You're stressing over it a lot. Be willing to be without him, and you'll be with him for the right reasons, should it go that way.

"What is the potential of the relationship?"
46 unchanging


Looks like it could go somewhere. Worth the effort.

Looking for the future misses the potential of the present. Rather than looking at "the relationship" as a noun, consider it as a verb: relating. That decreases the sense of urgency, and allows things to develop gradually, naturally.
 

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Decisions...

Hello again to all!

So, decisions were made..I'm not going into details here, but the point is he decided to go..And he's leaving today!

The last couple of months have been really tough for both of us. I've experienced all sorts of feelings regarding his decision, from absolute anger to deep support and loving. He still wants me to go along and the truth is that my reality has changed in so many ways that it no longer feels that impossible to me. Everyday life is getting harder here and we're all trying to figure out ways to survive this physically, spiritually and emotionally.However, it is still difficult for me to imagine living so far away from my family and friends.So, I asked for some time to clear my head and make a firm decision on my own, make sure that if i do this it would be for the right reasons..

I now believe that 46 was in fact about his departure. He is going south afterall and leaving from autumn to go to spring..Soon I'll be in winter and he'll be in summer..The nature of 46, with all its positive and creative energies,has been an inspiration for me since he first told me he was leaving.

When we parted today his last words to me were "see you there"... I did not consult the I Ching often lately, mainly because i felt completely confused and could not think of a question that would help..But today i could not resist..

Right after he left i did an e-reading asking "Now what?" and got..46 unchanged!!

I do trust manual readings more ,however, so i threw the coins asking the same thing and got
6.2.5>20

It is quite clear to me that the conflict is inside me and i should take time to observe it..

Although i knew it was too soon for that, i also asked
"Please, comment on my thoughts about following him.." and got

31.1.3>17

Yeap..It has to be for the right reasons..

Thank you for you patience if you managed to read through this..I would love an insight on the readings if you have one. Mostly though, i'd like to ask for your help regarding the questions themselves. Can you think of something i could ask that could help me come in touch with my real intentions so i could make an honest, clear decision for myself in the months to come??

Any help appreciated..
Love,
A.:bows:
 

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46 unchanging is about something that is builded slowly and steadily with a lot of work and love..... a day by day job... not a one step effort.
expressed in one words its to "resist"
 

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Well, thanks for stressing out the "gradual" aspect of 46 patro! I guess i needed a reminder on that.. We're still in the process i suppose..
 

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