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I'm still hanging out in my dear friend, S 's sudden and inexplicable silence. I've texted a few times over the past week, but no reply.

I'm still concerned what caused this drastic, sudden, random unbreakable silence... Nothing like this wall of silence for no reason has ever happened to me before. It's upsetting and unsettling :-(

I'm debating sending him an actual message telling him my feelings and worries and asking what happened, but with the absolute silence, my first thought is to assume whatever it is, I should try to forget and let it go. He will contact me when he's ready to talk and/or resume our friendship again.
Yet, I sometimes feel that with the nature of several things I've said to him being rather aloof and insensitive to his romantic attempts, that perhaps I *should* tell him my real feelings for him that I've not shared.

Asked the IC:

Please give me insight into if I send S a message telling my feelings:
Reply 42 UC.

That seems like a bountiful, feel good kind of answer... almost too good under the circumstances?:confused:

My interpretation seemed too good to be true, so I asked IC, "please give me insight into if I don't send a message to S of my feelings and try to just forget it all?
Reply 14.3. -->38
Opposition/separation ...feels where we are right now, at least the separation part...there's been no opposition.
But 14.3?? It seems positive in some interpretations and pretty negative in others?

I would be deeply grateful for some thoughts on these 2 readings/option.

I also asked IC, "what is S's sudden silence about?"
Reply 21.2.6 -->54
I can think 21 as sorting through things maybe? Lines 2 and 4 speak of deserved punishments? Is this indicating I *have* hurt or upset him and that created his wall of silence?

Thank you:bows:
 
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I also asked IC, "what is S's sudden silence about?"
Reply 21.2.6 -->54
I can think 21 as sorting through things maybe? Lines 2 and 4 speak of deserved punishments? Is this indicating I *have* hurt or upset him and that created his wall of silence?

He is punishing you a little too vigorously. It could be that his feelings were hurt when you rebuffed his romantic attempts. So he feels justified in not speaking to you.
 

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Ginnie...thank you so much for your insight!! This is really confusing, strange, and hurtful! Do you have any thoughts about my readings regarding expressing my feelings to him? I don't want to chase him, but I don't want to let misconceptions sit between us either...
 

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I would really be so grateful for thoughts on sharing the feelings I wouldn't admit to my friend before the wall of silence was thrown up.
This is really important to me. I fear making things worse and I fear letting misunderstanding sit still as well...
 

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Please give me insight into if I send S a message telling my feelings:
Reply 42 UC.

It will be the beginning of a time in which you might have to give a lot of yourself, maybe in the form of needing to explain yourself. Yet in some way this action on your part would be setting a good example.

"please give me insight into if I don't send a message to S of my feelings and try to just forget it all?
Reply 14.3. -->38

The situation feels overwhelming and you have difficulty managing your emotions. You probably won't be able to forget it all so easily.:)
 

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If I send S a message telling my feelings? 42.0

Positive response from Yi, time of increase, the tree is growing stronger and it brings benefits to all.
It will benefit not only you but him.

Insight into if I don't send a message to S of my feelings and try to just forget it all? 14.3 → 38
14.3 Sharing your feelings will bring good fortune. This is what a great man should do.
a positive side of 38 is interplay of opposites, taking turns.

What is S's sudden silence about? 21.2.6 → 54; 21.2 → 38.6 → 54
He doesn't want to be constrained by rules(21) into an inferior position (54).
He wants an interplay, biting through the soft/best part (21.2 → 38).

I think 38.6 describes you as a stopping power of his feelings, confining him into 54.

38.6, Wilhelm:
One sees one's companion as a pig covered with dirt ...
First one draws a bow against him, then one lays the bow aside.
He is not a robber; he will woo at the right time ...
 

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