To wait or not to wait

[Liselle]

(Added: I think I'd see it that way in addition to what you said:

People in harmony, people in the home, needing a wall (dog) to secure the home where I live solo in the countryside or my dog sitting on the wall watching all this from afar.

I agree it's his blessing to you, in all those ways, practical, emotional...)

 

[flashlight]

Thanks Liselle, and for being on line and responding so fast! Yeah, that question was important to me

I'm having the 'will it all turn out OK pangs' many (serious, responsible) adopters have. This little guy has gotten very attached to his foster mom (and feeling something's up, returning to separation anxiety habits) and I know from experience that a dog can be happy and behave well in home A and be very different in home B (even with a bipede well versed in canine communications!) - and that it can take 3 to 6 months for an adult dog to reveal his true self. Wish us luck!!!!

 

[Liselle]

The perils of fostering

But if foster parents kept everyone who bonded with them or vice versa, whoosh, there would go foster homes up the chimney.

I'll try to keep fingers figuratively crossed for the next 6 months

 

[flashlight]

Circling back --

So far, so good. The foster mom did a fantastic job re-educating him. He is testing me and negotiating inch by inch, but that I'm not having any of that has enabled me in 24 hours to pet him on his head (only owners can do that, it is a dominance signal for canines) without him turning his head and looking at me sideways with the whites showing (level 2 signal on the scale of aggression warning). Now it's "oh yeah pet my head, brush my head, let me look into your eyes). We are working on the superglue reactions, it takes LOTS of patience and not giving up even if it takes 54 orders to go to your place for it to stick. His recall outside (5 meter lead on the ground without my holding it) is good even if I have to turn into a drama queen to be interesting enough . Cat is a bit shaken, she doesn't even come out of her hiding place when I'm alone in the BR though she normally is Miss Cuddles. But no one is being aggressive, so that's cool.
As to some of the previous readings and how they are panning out:
What should I know about him? 34 UC
He's the kind to stand his ground and has to learn the basics of the hierarchical organization in a household, everyone in their right place to live in happy harmony
Spot on true. Making sure he sees me as pack leader is the ONE key to having a good rel with him and for him to be stable and happy.

Please tell me about his personality: 58.1 >47
If the resulting hex is the context, then it makes sense, though the dog is not "confined", he is in a host family,not a cage. If it is indeed the resulting hex, then I don't grasp the message about his personality from contented joyousness (he is happy in his host family) to confined... I'm never sure when to consider the resulting hex the backdrop or the outcome...hints???

Very much relates to 34 UC. Confined as "go to your place, don't scotch tape me, don't follow me around" That's what helps bring him joy as a stable dog.

Still not sure what to make of 52.3.6. And the 48hrs before the adoption, I was admittedly anxious and asked too many questions and Yi kept giving me assorted 52s, and 7s, and my hated 23s and 36s. Did not put me in the best peaceful (52 stilled) frame to drive all the way over there!!

I learned his history was worse than I thought. I believed I was home 5 in 5,5 years. I am home 8 or 9. Christ, how can humans abandon a dog every quarter or some such, beat him, mistreat him like that? No wonder he had (has?) behavioral issues. That foster mom saved him in fact. I doubt I could have dealt with him right off without him being reframed by her. That he can make, at his age and with what he's lived, so much progress with the right person (she trains horses, her natural authority comes out of every pore, I wish I were more like her!), then he can be fully rehabilitated and finally have a normal happy doggy life. Some days, I really don't like humans... How anyone could do that to this little guy

 

[Liselle]

It is heartbreaking what happens to pets sometimes.

Have now learned a dog term: "superglue reactions." Lol. I can see how that wouldn't be good for him, as then he'd be anxious every time you have to leave him.

Glad things are going so well!

(Poor kitty. But I'm sure it'll be fine eventually, and if there's no actual fighting - yay.)

 

[flashlight]

She never fights, spits, scratches or bites. If I do something to her she does not like (ie meds), she turns into mercury, no way to hang onto her. She keeps all her stress and upset inside. Translates into "digestive upset".

Yeah superglue /post it/suction cup dogs -- need to learn to be autonomous to prevent separation anxiety and all that goes with him (destructive behaviour, barking etc.)