True love

[cornucopia]

I've been dating but I haven't found someone significant yet. Someone whom I would want to be with long term. I was curious so I asked if I will find true love this year.

I received hexagram 41 lines 1,2 and 6 changing into hexagram 2

Hexagram 2 is a bit of a mystery for me. Apparently it does not bode well for relationships?????
I'm wondering if someone could offer me a more analytical overview on this...thanks! :bows:

 

[littlebuddha]

Cornucopia, i was thinking "Decrease" might be saying your soul mate won't "fit" into the preconceived image you have of them? Maybe it's speaking of 'decreasing' of what's expected of them - and (related Hexagram) wait for whose coming your way (as they won't pass you by ) ?
The 6th like might be literally describing a philanthropist, someone involved with charities... or if you volunteer for some causes (shelters?) - maybe the surrounding in which you'll meet. It might be that they are a lawyer or some other profession that you don't really see yourself with... but it'll work. (I am not sure about timing though, that's a tricky one as in my experience a year can extend up to 2y.)

I've been dating but I haven't found someone significant yet. Someone whom I would want to be with long term. I was curious so I asked if I will find true love this year.

I received hexagram 41 lines 1,2 and 6 changing into hexagram 2

Hexagram 2 is a bit of a mystery for me. Apparently it does not bode well for relationships?????
I'm wondering if someone could offer me a more analytical overview on this...thanks! :bows:

 

[Trojina]

Any feedback here ? Could you relate to Little Buddha's thoughts on this ?

 

[cornucopia]

I been thinking alot about what littlebuddha wrote. It was different than anything I expected and very specific. I've been thinking to send feedback (I didn't want to just click the thank you button just to show I read it) but I wanted to wait to see what would develop first and then give my feedback. To be honest I didn't understand how littlebuddha saw this in the lines but something happened recently that surprised me that's why I've been thinking alot about it.

I always like to keep an open mind to what people tell me and don't question them. At the moment I'm sitting on it to see what will happen. I still would like more feedback on hexagram 2 tho. I see it as a negative hexagram for relationships. Am I wrong?

 

[ginnie]

Hexagram 2 is not negative for relationships. I take it that it means you were in an open and receptive relationship with Yi at the time you asked the question ...

I think line 6 moving in hex 41 is very auspicious for your making a love connection. The lower moving lines seem to suggest not getting carried away in the quest for your true love, but rather taking a "steady as she goes" attitude. (The text warns against going on expeditions.)

 

[cornucopia]

RE: Long Yi posts

Hi Ginnie
I've been influenced by Long Yi who says that pure hexagrams do not bode well for relationships.

These are hexagrams:
1
2
29
30
51
52
57
58

This is because upper and lower canons are the identical.

I've discovered through experience to be true. I don't know if he meant they do not bode well when unchanged without relating hexagram. I wonder if the meaning changes when hex 2 is the relating hexagram. I'll have to ask him.

Hexagram 2 is not negative for relationships. I take it that it means you were in an open and receptive relationship with Yi at the time you asked the question ...

I think line 6 moving in hex 41 is very auspicious for your making a love connection. The lower moving lines seem to suggest not getting carried away in the quest for your true love, but rather taking a "steady as she goes" attitude. (The text warns against going on expeditions.)

 

[meng]

I've been dating but I haven't found someone significant yet. Someone whom I would want to be with long term. I was curious so I asked if I will find true love this year.

I received hexagram 41 lines 1,2 and 6 changing into hexagram 2

Hexagram 2 is a bit of a mystery for me. Apparently it does not bode well for relationships?????
I'm wondering if someone could offer me a more analytical overview on this...thanks! :bows:

I see this as saying to turn down the gain/volume, and listen more carefully. It's like raising your antennae, and maybe your standard: what you believe you deserve. If you wait for someone else to set your standard, your feet will never touch the ground.

 

[mirian]

Dear cornucopia,

Just a thought. I just find it interesting that in your other post (about life changes) you got Hex 27. And now with this reading (41.1.2.6) the Yi seems to be pointing again to the same aspect of giving and receiving. I mean, how much to give to others and how much to receive (or expect) from others.
It might be my impression but there seems to be some sort of connection there that the Yi might be trying to highlight. As for Hex 2 I have never seen it as negative for relationships. It all depends on circumstances.:bows:

 

[cornucopia]

Wow Meng this..
(If you wait for someone else to set your standard, your feet will never touch the ground.)
blew me away.

This is like psychotherapy. I know, but cannot describe the workings of my psyche and the I Ching like a therapist hits on it with a phrase! I don't know if this makes sense to everyone.

Also Mirian helped me alot when she analysied my casting about the next 5 years and in a nutshell I would be focusing on getting to know myself. KNOW THYSELF - Yes this is my journey at this point in my life.

 

[cornucopia]

Dear Mirian, I cannot thank you enough. This has turned into a therapy session for me

(I mean, how much to give to others and how much to receive (or expect) from others.) This definitely needs pondering!

I usually save people's analysis on my laptop and go back to them at some point so as not to repeat myself. But now I think it's time to start a logbook I have to stop repeating myself on the same thing over and over and start working on and taking my issues to the next level

 

[cornucopia]

After much pondering this is what I got out of it.

Firstly my question was about finding true love. A mutual love. My inner issues or hang ups is how do I go about giving and receiving love in equal measures? This is really what the I Ching is bringing out in the open for me. The oracle went to the heart of the matter.

This is what I feel the sage is telling me.

I need to be unselfish in my aims. I need to learn to offer my love freely for all people to willingly give (increase my love) without feeling I might lose out in the process. The more I give the more I'll benefit and so will others. I can increase my feelings of love without worrying of decreasing my value or standards or being taken advantage of. I should not have to feel that I have to take something away (diminish others) in order to benefit myself. In other words I should not use others for my own interests or personal gain. To constantly increase what I have to offer to others without expect them to fall in love first and give first, is not wrong and it is the best way to gain constant increase of love.

Moreover if I fall in love first and the feelings are not mutual. It can not always be love at first sight for both I should not go over board. I should not give more than I receive in order to increase someone's interest or feelings for me. not everyone loves the same way. If everything is done in equal measures. A balanced give and take, then I'll have support even from people I think are not up to my standards and I will obtain love in great measure.

Hexagram 2 advises me to learn to yield and let go of control. I should not be the one to take the lead or make the first move. I should let the man make all the moves and the man lead me. I should accept and bear with all kinds of people and see where it will lead me. I should be alert for hidden forces in my situation that lead me on the right path. Furthermore, I will be given a hint of what is to come. If I yield I will be guided on the right path. Alot of the love process is also based on instincts. I should follow my instincts about the other person. Be in sync with them. We are in it together. I should not go off on my own and do it my way. (Which is a bad habit of mine) I should not try to control others or situations to fit my idea of what true love should be. I should have an open mind and not preconceived ideas of what true love should be. Just because someone does not give me what I want or say what I want to hear does not mean that they do not love me or have feelings for me. I have to lower my high standards and go with the flow if I want to find true love. Then I will find the right partner for me. An equal partner. I need to let go of control issues.

 

[cornucopia]

Hello Ginnie this is good what you say about hexagram 41 line 6. I just had a brainstorm. Can Hex 41 line 6 also be about compromise? All together with hexagram 2 as resulting hexagram. Would you think the I Ching is telling me that with compromise and learnig to yield to others I have a good chance of finding true love this year?

 

[chingching]

I was looking for a James Joyce quote that inspired me sometime ago, from his book Ulysses, and in the wikipedia entry it states that Joyce considered the word yes 'the female word' and that it was the "acquiescence and the end of all resistance." immediately this reminded me of Hexagram 2, the receptive.

This was in reference to this beautiful sentence written for the character Molly Bloom:

"...I was a Flower of the mountain yes when I put the rose in my hair like the Andalusian girls used or shall I wear a red yes and how he kissed me under the Moorish wall and I thought well as well him as another and then I asked him with my eyes to ask again yes and then he asked me would I yes to say yes my mountain flower and first I put my arms around him yes and drew him down to me so he could feel my breasts all perfume yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes I will Yes. "

2 is not compromise but the absence of resistance. I would say any hex isn't negative for a relationship, the book of changes guides you how to change, and most of us expect, for our higher good. As one hex transforms into another to reflect how we are to transform for our current state to the desired one.

If you want to find true love this year, ask what can I do today, what do i need to be being, what do I need to let go of, or even better what time is it for my relationship and love life, who knows there may be a part of you that generates anxiety because for one reason or another its not ready to let go of resistance. Then take action, even if that action is to acquiesce resistance for me those two words together look like 41 > 2

From my experience, letting go of what I thought love looked like was a huge help, to change my point of view from "I have to get the relationship that looks like this, the man that looks like this" to instead opening my eyes up to the ways I already had men interacting with me and accepting what they had to offer me instead of being blind to what was being offered to me because it wasn't matching up to an idea I had in my head. That 41 emptying leads to the 42 filling up which is the tipping point described in 41.6. yes I said yes I will Yes...

 

[chingching]

just edited the post, to any hexagram isnt negative for relation (or anything) sorry bad grammer, should have written , hexagrams aren't negative, they are instructive and catalytic to insight and understanding

 

[cornucopia]

Thanks Chingching I should read Ulysses shame on me and I have a bachelor degree in English Lit.

That bugger hexagram 2 is a bugger! LOL It has many meanings and goes deep. Be receptive to love and I'll find love. I guess is the simplified version

On a more practical level I've found that hexagram 2 gives me the ingredients of a successful partnership. It tells me to yield to the masculine energy and allow myself to be lead. To take a passive stance and go with the flow. Together with hexagram 1 positive active energy and hexagram 2 feminine negative passive energy. Both are opposites forces but need each other to procreate. I need cooperation and support if I want to create a successful partnership. If there is no teamwork it's finished nothing can be created.

If I want to succeed I should get rid of people that do not have similar interests and common goals and cannot contribute to to my growth (North East). I should not waste my time with unproductive situations and relationships that do not contribute to my growth and who are of no benefit to me. I should seek new partners (South West) who are like-minded with common interests and willing to cooperate with me to reach a common goal. In this way we both benefit from an equal partnership. It also advises that I cannot go about it on my own. I am not in a strong independent position to do all the worrk and create something on my own. In other words it take two to tango

 

[mazaru]

It's the end of the year now. I hope you have found what you were looking for.

 

[cornucopia63]

Hi there I did meet someone amazing way back in June 2013 when I posted this thread. It felt like he could have been my soul mate. Instant mutual attraction. But circumstances out of my control did not allow anything to materialize and the opportunity was lost. It was not my fault.

 

[mazaru]

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out. But thank you for the update cornucopia.

 

[cornucopia63]

Hi Mazaru,

Looking back I figured out what the casting is saying. I should not try to control things. I should not try to lead. If I follow along and allow things to develop naturally all will go well. Hexagram 2 also shows someone in a secondary position not in a leading role. Unfortunately in my case the man I met wanted me to follow along and do things his way. He was separated and his young children were his main priority. I came second. I was not willing to put in the effort. I did not want to waste my time. I did not want to date someone with young children who did not have the freedom and time to build and maintain a long term relationship.