Trying to start a new relationship after a breakup

[lamethy]

Hello clarity members,

I had a difficult breakup a few months ago and now I would like to start a new relationship with someone.
Iching has helped me a lot to go through this hardship. I guess the strength to overcome this situation has always been there in me and Iching helped me to find and use it.
But when it comes to relationship questions, I have a hard time interpreting Iching's answers.
There is a girl, K. She is reliable, smart and fun and many more good points, but she hides it. She reminds me of the hexagram "Hidden Light".
I am attracted to her and I would like for us to try to walk the same path for sometime so I ask
How does she see me as a potential candidate for a couple relationship? 41.6 > 19

When it comes to relationship questions, I've noticed that I always see the answer as positive as well as negative both being contracdictory and that is the case here.
So I would like to have some help from members of this forum.
Thanks in advance.

 

[Trojina]

Hello clarity members,

I had a difficult breakup a few months ago and now I would like to start a new relationship with someone.
Iching has helped me a lot to go through this hardship. I guess the strength to overcome this situation has always been there in me and Iching helped me to find and use it.
But when it comes to relationship questions, I have a hard time interpreting Iching's answers.
There is a girl, K. She is reliable, smart and fun and many more good points, but she hides it. She reminds me of the hexagram "Hidden Light".
I am attracted to her and I would like for us to try to walk the same path for sometime so I ask
How does she see me as a potential candidate for a couple relationship? 41.6 > 19

When it comes to relationship questions, I've noticed that I always see the answer as positive as well as negative both being contracdictory and that is the case here.
So I would like to have some help from members of this forum.
Thanks in advance.

Interesting you used those words underlined as I see 41.6 as very much a journey. Line 6 is the end of decrease, its a time of expansion of horizons, walking new paths, meeting new people. It isn't a line of settling down though, thats why it says 'he finds no home but has many friends' something like that.

perhaps you and her are walking the same path, perhaps its a time you expand each others horizons...but things are still forming in all sorts of ways, its an active time (relating hex 19) you and her may have lots to do together...but i don't think you can try to make it too settled just yet, its not a time for making a home....but it is a time of going out and having fun and such like so.......maybe you should let this develop a bit more ?


You asked from her perspective.....which makes things hard to interpret IMO but thats the general feel of 41.6


I like 41.6 it always feels like new life, like spring...and the relating hex is 19 of course which is spring like. But things are going every which way in spring aren't they, can't settle things , things aren't stable yet, still developing, still exploring. If I were to take the answer that it was definately about her POV I might say she would like to keep her options open at the moment...which doesn't mean she doesn't like you...or that you shouldn't let her know how you feel,,,but just be aware things aren't ready to be very settled yet and theres lots more for both of you to explore with others as well as each other


Exclusivity is not really featured in 41.6 so maybe you should see other girls too

 

[lamethy]

The image of a path is the way as I see life. We all have our own path, and you need to be on your path to be able to find people to walk with you. If you lost your path, you need first to get back on track first so that the people that walk with you are the ones that really needs you and that you really need.

I think your interpretation about her not wanting to settle with someone now is right. Now that you said it, it makes sense.
I was seeing 41.6 as the end of a bad period ( ie. mine) but my interpretation might not fit here, as I was asking a question from her POV.

I will take your advice and not focus exclusively on her. If we become a couple, great! If not, she will make a great and faithful friend
Time to put my Indiana Jones leather jacket and go on new adventures

 

[Trojina]

The image of a path is the way as I see life. We all have our own path, and you need to be on your path to be able to find people to walk with you. If you lost your path, you need first to get back on track first so that the people that walk with you are the ones that really needs you and that you really need.

I think your interpretation about her not wanting to settle with someone now is right. Now that you said it, it makes sense.
I was seeing 41.6 as the end of a bad period ( ie. mine) but my interpretation might not fit here, as I was asking a question from her POV.

I will take your advice and not focus exclusively on her. If we become a couple, great! If not, she will make a great and faithful friend
Time to put my Indiana Jones leather jacket and go on new adventures

But I think I'd agree with your interpretation underlined too. I also have found 41.6 to often herald the end of a bad time...as if after a period of loss one begins to explore again...very much that feeling of coming out of the emotional 'coma' of a break up.

It is an adventure yes.....so

enjoy your adventures in your jacket

 

[lamethy]

Hi, just a little update about this situation.
The situation was settled 2 months ago : we had a little talk back then and though we appreciate each other, we finally decided to be good friends. She doesn't want a love relationship at the moment as Trojan said.
I was a bit disappointed at first, but now retrospectively, it was the right choice.

Hope my post will be helpful for others