Trying to understand a guy 18.3 to 50

[Perola]

I live with my ex husband in a life of appearances to raise our children for the sheer impossibility of maintaining a home. After we decided to separate, life improved a lot, but we shared the same roof and of course, no chance of having a romantic relationship in this context.
It turns out that for some time now I feel a very strong energy every time I meet a boy from the neighborhood. We have talked several times and he is always involved in the social projects that I usually lead (kind of to forget the tragedy of my love life ...)
Anyway ... I fight against this energy that I feel when I meet the boy and he smiles at me. Not that I'm a frivolous housewife? On the contrary. I don't give an opening, although some funny ones always approach…
I asked I Ching what is the life between the two and I received 18.3 mutating to 50.
I was uneasy with the answer because when it comes to emotion, I lose my reason ...
I asked what my behavior should be regarding the boy and received 19.5.6 mutating to 61.
Somebody give me a light please !!!

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

I live with my ex husband in a life of appearances to raise our children for the sheer impossibility of maintaining a home. After we decided to separate, life improved a lot, but we shared the same roof and of course, no chance of having a romantic relationship in this context.
It turns out that for some time now I feel a very strong energy every time I meet a boy from the neighborhood. We have talked several times and he is always involved in the social projects that I usually lead (kind of to forget the tragedy of my love life ...)
Anyway ... I fight against this energy that I feel when I meet the boy and he smiles at me. Not that I'm a frivolous housewife? On the contrary. I don't give an opening, although some funny ones always approach…
I asked I Ching what is the life between the two and I received 18.3 mutating to 50.
I was uneasy with the answer because when it comes to emotion, I lose my reason ...
I asked what my behavior should be regarding the boy and received 19.5.6 mutating to 61.
Somebody give me a light please !!!

Hi! I'll try only with the first cast, as too many casts can confuse you. I think the first one is extremely clear.

18 mirrors you: you have to work to build up yourself again. Something is broke. Matbe your heart. In 18 is said how to construct again something broken. Line 3: even though there's something which has to be construct again, you should not hurry. Just because you meet this new guy, it doesn't mean, this new situation will replace the old one. So, no worries! It's a pleasure to speak with something new, that we want to know. Don't put too much energy and expectations in it. Just enjoy the nice moments, even if little, that you share. The line cleqrly mirrors your regret: you feel as a "bad housewife" just because ypu speak with him. But Yi says: no spot in this. There's nothing bad, no blame on you!

Well, to me, 50 is pretty clear: it can be that there'll be something between you and the guy!

Good luck

Clavdia

 

[Perola]

Hi! I'll try only with the first cast, as too many casts can confuse you. I think the first one is extremely clear.

18 mirrors you: you have to work to build up yourself again. Something is broke. Matbe your heart. In 18 is said how to construct again something broken. Line 3: even though there's something which has to be construct again, you should not hurry. Just because you meet this new guy, it doesn't mean, this new situation will replace the old one. So, no worries! It's a pleasure to speak with something new, that we want to know. Don't put too much energy and expectations in it. Just enjoy the nice moments, even if little, that you share. The line cleqrly mirrors your regret: you feel as a "bad housewife" just because ypu speak with him. But Yi says: no spot in this. There's nothing bad, no blame on you!

Well, to me, 50 is pretty clear: it can be that there'll be something between you and the guy!

Dear Claudia,

Your thoughtful response brought tears to my eyes... First, because I really carry a broken heart in my chest. Tired of the clashes in a relationship where ex-partners look at each other on a different side. And I feel a rush to get out of this deteriorating situation, but I know that this construction will be slow and gradual until I can be independent again to continue trying to harmonize my desires and the flow of life, because I definitely do not want to leave a toxic relationship to enter another. I want to be free and you have just clarified that Iching does not see this as a fault.Thank you very much for wasting time clarifying someone you do not know. I'm glad I had the courage to come to this forum to ask for help! from today, when I meet the boy again and answer his smile with another smile I will no longer feel guilty.

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Dear Claudia,

Your thoughtful response brought tears to my eyes... First, because I really carry a broken heart in my chest. Tired of the clashes in a relationship where ex-partners look at each other on a different side. And I feel a rush to get out of this deteriorating situation, but I know that this construction will be slow and gradual until I can be independent again to continue trying to harmonize my desires and the flow of life, because I definitely do not want to leave a toxic relationship to enter another. I want to be free and you have just clarified that Iching does not see this as a fault.Thank you very much for wasting time clarifying someone you do not know. I'm glad I had the courage to come to this forum to ask for help! from today, when I meet the boy again and answer his smile with another smile I will no longer feel guilty.

Hi Perola, I'm sorry if i made you cry. I definitely not waste my time helping you or other people.

I perfectly understand what you feel. I'm near to you. Feel free to write again in this beautiful forum!

Clavdia