Ttravelling repeatedly 56.3.6 to hex 16 or to 55

[luigirouge]

Dear All, i have asked Yi repeatedly on different things and hexagram 56 comes out as if i wasn't in the right place.
First question the situation between someone and myself?
56.3.6 to 16 this one i didn't understand very well

What is the recommendation for this relationship to work (the same person as above)?
56.1.6 -55 i was wondering if this one means, stop being of passage and decide to settle, burn the nest !

What is happening within me sentimentally speaking in general?
56

Uff i don't know what to think, I'm not in the right place, and i need to take a decission on settling down about my feelings? Thank you for the insights

 

[canislulu]

I do not understand Hexagram 56 to mean that one is in the wrong place. If one wants to be a traveler then traveling is the "right" place to be. If one wants to enter in and grow roots somewhere, then penetrating (57) is the "right" place to be. Sometimes we are traveling and sometimes we are settling in.

I think Yi is perhaps observing that you haven't settled into this relationship yet.

Recently I have been thinking of Hex. 56 as "Exploring". Ideally, I think, one "explores" a relationship and one's feelings about it before "settling."

56.3.6 < 16 "Traveler's Enthusiasm"... Someone who is more enthusiastic about traveling than settling may be at risk for loosing a helper and a place to settle.

When you ask about how to make the relationship work, what do you mean by "work"? How would you know the relationship is "working"?

Perhaps when Yi answers that question as 56.1.6 < 55, "Traveler's Abundance" Yi is telling you to recognize the value of the relationship. 56.1 --- don't sweat the small stuff and things that aren't perfect and 56.6 --- don't burn it down if it feels like a place you want to make "home". Or I notice Bradford refers to "executive decision". Yi could be saying "Traveler's Decision". If you don't want to settle on this one --- travel on.

Do you want to settle into the relationship or do you want to move on?
You may not have to worry about deciding. It may be that if you don't decide the other person will decide for you. If they are wanting a commitment and you aren't inclined to give it, they may move on.

I notice that Trojina asked you about the outcome of a previous thread:
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?19563-What-should-I-do-with-him-17

Is this the same relationship or a different one?

 

[luigirouge]

Dear jumpinmouse,
Thank you for your reply, it is not the same relationship as before, I mean the one in the other post was not a relationship, it was only a friend. I DO want a real romantic relationship with this person but we do not live in the same city, that does not block me at all, I just would like the commitment not to be a waste of time, he traveled already to meet me. I'm also a foreigner in the country I'm living in right now. At the beginning I thought that Yi was talking to me about traveling to spend time together, but as he is being replying the same hexagram repeatedly and as a recommendation I thought he was trying to tell me something more important about my own circumstances at the momento. Thank you a lot for your reply, it is very insightful

 

[luigirouge]

Dear jumpinmouse,
Thank you for your reply, it is not the same relationship as before, I mean the one in the other post was not a relationship, it was only a friend. I DO want a real romantic relationship with this person but we do not live in the same city, that does not block me at all, I just would like the commitment not to be a waste of time, he traveled already to meet me. I'm also a foreigner in the country I'm living in right now. At the beginning I thought that Yi was talking to me about traveling to spend time together, but as he is being replying the same hexagram repeatedly and as a recommendation I thought he was trying to tell me something more important about my own circumstances at the moment. Thank you a lot for your reply, it is very insightful

 

[canislulu]

Perhaps Yi is talking both about your own circumstance and the relationship.

Perhaps exploring a relationship is never a waste of time regardless of the outcome.

There is a thread in the Exploring Divination forum about 56.3 which you might find of interest.

 

[luigirouge]

I'll look at the thread, thank you!

 

[luigirouge]

I went to see him and we had a great time together, nothing is sure about us in the future, but we had this magic time and we are still in contact, I have asked Yi again, what do I need to do to see him again, and the answer included the traveller/travelling once more:
25.1.3.5>56

Is Yi answering me literally all this time? you need to travel if you want to see him again, but with innocence, without entanglement or the innocence of the travel, travelling without entanglement? travelling with innocence?
Does 25 always has a negative background that comes from the circunstamces? i do not have this idea at all, to the contrary, I think that if I stick to what I am I will never make a mistake, but reading at the different posts on the 25 and to Hillary's explanation it seems that there is something negative around that won't affect at the end, or does it mean it won't be as you expected, but it doesn't have to do anything with you? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/learn/gua/hexagrams/hexagram25.php

Any way, this is where I am, with the same person, still travelling, if you have an extra advice on this new reading, it will be more than wellcome.
Thank you!

 

[mirian]

Hi luigirouge,

I suppose 56 can be taken literally as a foreigner living in a strange land or just someone who is always on the road, but personally I usually take it as someone facing unfamiliar circumstances and/or surroundings. That could be a relationship, a new job, a new town. So, the Traveller struggles to figure it out how things work and could be and/or feel in an awkward position. Then sometimes you have the Traveller who decides to keep a low profile, being more observant and trying to assimilate the new circumstances. Or you have the Traveller who is oblivious to the new circumstances and just carries on regardless. I have just had hex 56 this week just because I was doing a different task for the organisation I work for, as it was all new to me and I didn't quite know what to expect. Also, even though some lines can be the bearer of really bad news, sometimes they are much more dramatic than the reality of the situation in hand.