Two other questions 37 Unchanging and 9.6>5

[samoyedgrrl]

Since I was on a roll, had to ask Yi a couple of other questions....one of which is about my romantic interest, Rodney. You may remember him, we went out and the day after our first date, he was in a car accident. The next day, he lost his job. We decided to put things on hiatus while he figured himself out. We kind of kept in touch but have lately not been communicating at all. I've tried, but it has been met with silence. So I've also decided to sit back and be quiet.

I asked Yi "What can I find peace with in regards to a romantic future between Rodney and me?" and received 37 Unchanging. I take that to mean Rodney wants me as part of his family? It seems to indicate someone who wants a deeper commitment, but since we really don't have a relationship at all, I thought I'd cast again for clarity.

I then asked, "What is a realistic expectation to have in regards to Rodney in my life?" and Yi responded with a 9.6 > 5. I think I was told that although we've had some tough times here and that it seems hopeless, I need to sit back and chill out. Success will come shortly. When asking about Rodney, I do tend to get a lot of 24's and 5's about him. I take that to mean optimism is encouraged here. But what do you think?

 

[pocossin]

I asked Yi "What can I find peace with in regards to a romantic future between Rodney and me?" and received 37 Unchanging. I take that to mean Rodney wants me as part of his family? It seems to indicate someone who wants a deeper commitment, but since we really don't have a relationship at all, I thought I'd cast again for clarity.

37 (with changing lines) recently came up for a woman in an oppressive situation.

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?p=127815#post127815

I then asked, "What is a realistic expectation to have in regards to Rodney in my life?" and Yi responded with a 9.6 > 5. I think I was told that although we've had some tough times here and that it seems hopeless, I need to sit back and chill out. Success will come shortly. When asking about Rodney, I do tend to get a lot of 24's and 5's about him. I take that to mean optimism is encouraged here. But what do you think?

9. The Taming Power of the Small. Things that seem insignificant will loom in importance. Line 6 counsels against further perseverance, yet the rain comes and there is rest. Hilary says that there comes a point when the drive for more certainty is counterproductive. Hexagram 5 is Waiting. So, yes, sit back and chill out seems to be to prescription.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

The 37 post had me a bit confused there, but thanks for providing that link.

I wonder what insignificant things will in actuality be rather important? Hmm, makes me wonder. *Sigh* looks like it's time to "take a chill pill" and focus on other things. I guess I should count my blessings, at least Yi didn't say "Give it a rest, he's never coming back!"

Thanks for looking at this one for me, Pocossin!

 

[tigerintheboat]

The Rain Has Come and Gone

I then asked, "What is a realistic expectation to have in regards to Rodney in my life?" and Yi responded with a 9.6 > 5. I think I was told that although we've had some tough times here and that it seems hopeless, I need to sit back and chill out. Success will come shortly. When asking about Rodney, I do tend to get a lot of 24's and 5's about him. I take that to mean optimism is encouraged here. But what do you think?

H9.6 says the situation has gone about as far as it can go. The potential is realized, and will not go further, and in fact may decay from here. So for the woman to persevere, danger. For the superior person to go forth and act, misfortune.

To me, this reading is not encouraging that anything more will develop, or that there is anything you can do.

Tiger

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Thanks, Tigerintheboat! Granted, I don't like a single word you wrote (as I'd hate for that to be true), it is a good perspective to hear. Perhaps that's the way it is afterall. Thank you for posting that. Only time will tell, but regardless of outcome, I'm not doing anything towards him anymore. If he does return, it is because he wants to.

 

[elias]

24-Return is easily misinterpreted as "my love will return to me." Not so much. More about you returning either to the path of correctly dealing with the universe or, sad but true, returning to a cycle of unproductive relationships.

5 is a bit more hopeful. "Waiting in the correct attitude empowers the Creative." Slow -- painfully, glacially, slow -- progress toward a goal so long as you allow the organic processes to unfold. You can't push the river.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Thanks, Elias for your input. I have usually interpreted a 24 response as a "return to myself" rather than a return to the relationship. I figured Yi is trying to tell me it is time to look inwardly instead of to the man in question. There is something more important that needs my attention. However, getting 24s more than once made me wonder what was going on.

I agree with your interpretation of the 5s....glacier speed, baay baay! I think I'm now starting to see the 5s of my previous relationship finally unveil themselves - about 9 months later! LOL! Now the romantic side of that friendship is over and the friendship has begun. I think that was the 5 seen back last March or so. Hopefully the 5s with Rodney won't take as long (I bet it will - or longer) and when things thaw, it'll be romantic stuff that I'll still be interested in....but who knows.

I do appreciate you mentioning what you saw there, Elias!

 

[samoyedgrrl]

I just came across this thread and realized that I had never updated what happened here. In an odd turn of events, I decided to move away from my city. It brought me to the same place as Rodney. I found a roommate situation and moved in, only to find out that he was the upstairs neighbor! It was really strange! I wasn't seeking him out - it just happened that way. For a city of 4 million people 100 miles away, to choose this location was certainly weird.

He and I talked a few times, but no relationship or friendship really developed. It had definitely run its course. However, the location was awesome and I moved to another property in the same community and lived there for four years. I really enjoyed it and felt that location was kismet for me - not the relationship. I formed some really incredible bonds with new friends and changed my life for the good by making that move.

Thought you might be interested in the feedback!