TWO readings TWO different people

[PrincessS]

I like TWO people and i’m dating them both. So i asked TWO questions. One person calls it “Y” and the other one “X” 1) what does it feel for me y? Hexagram 31 unchanging. 2) what does it feel for me x? 14.5>1.
31 usually speaks of love or courtship. Hexagram 14 on some sites speaks of ownership. Does he consider me his property? Line 5 it seemed to me to speak of affection. As always i know that i can count on you for a bit of clarity with affection.

 

[Freedda]

I don't know what all this means exacly, but I find myself wondering, how do you feel about these two people?

While it's always nice to want to know what another feels towards us, or what we assume the Yi is saying about that - I don't think that should ever be a replacement for one's own feelings, thoughts, and intuition.

Best, D

 

[PrincessS]

I don't know what all this means exacly, but I find myself wondering, how do you feel about these two people?

I like them both. and now I can't describe the feelings only know that I feel something for both of us but not what .. do you think they are positive hexagrams? the typical hexagrams of love? and then I'm really going crazy for that damned 14.5 that I don't understand. speaks of dignity to keep confidential but everyone describes it as a fabulous line

 

[PrincessS]

@rosada can you help me?

 

[Freedda]

what does it feel for me y? Hexagram 31 unchanging.

Princess, I have a question for you about your relationship with Y, if you don't mind:

Is it correct to say that one of you might be outwardly expressing more joy and happiness in the relationship, while the other is a bit more reserved - or at least that's how they appear to be? And if so, whom might each of these be?

I ask so I might get a better understanding of the relationships, and not that any of you are right or wrong in how you are.

Best, D

 

[PrincessS]

Is it correct to say that one of you might be outwardly expressing more joy and happiness in the relationship, while the other is a bit more reserved - or at least that's how they appear to be? And if so, whom might each of these be?

Yes, is true hahahahahahah i did not think it could transpire from a hexagram. He is the most reserved, one who keeps things inside. I’m the most “lively”. The hexagram unchanged (31) is it right to interpret it Also as a simple attraction for me? It’s correct? Thank you

 

[PrincessS]

I’m back here! Having framed hexagram 31, it remains 14.5>1. I asked a subsequent question: “ can you give me explanations no row 5 hexagram 14? Hexagram 9.1.4.5>50.

 

[PrincessS]

Sorry i wrote wrong. I meant explanations on line 5

 

[Freedda]

I found myself again wondering about your questions: are you asking these because you want to make a decision between these two men, or are you just curious to know more about these relationships?

In either case, my understanding - my 'interpretation' - doesn't really focus on their romantic feelings towards you ('does he love me, does he not'), but hopefully it reveals useful information about what's happening in these relationships.

As to your original readings about you and Mr Y and you and Mr. X: I don't see any major issues, or 'red flags' with either of these men - it's just that they are different, with different qualities and potentials. Some ideas I have for these are:

With Mr. Y (31uc) - I think you may be getting a lot of joy from the relationship and you are expressing this. Mr. Y might seem a bit more reserved. But please understand, I don't mean that he is reserved 'about you', only that this is how he might appear. But could this also be a quality that you find attractive: that he's solid and steady?

With Mr. Y, it seems there is potential for something longer-term, and this is perhaps something you are both seeking. It could also be that one or both of you are not quite ready for a more serious, longer-term relationship (like marrage) - perhaps because one or both of you are scared of this, even though you both want it?

So maybe the key to knowing what potential you and Mr. Y have is too look at what you are scared of, and deal with that.

With Mr X (14.5>1) - Perhaps you are showing more passion, more fire in the relationship, while at the same time, Mr. X could be thinking longer-term (for example, he might be wondering: is this the woman I want to marry? And perhaps this is the 'filter' he views all his romances through?). And again, as with Mr. Y, this doesn't mean he doesn't love or care for you. There could be a sense that you see things a bit more clearly than he does, but are you perhaps a bit more clingy or needy than he is?

As to line 14.5, even if this might be about business or commerce, it does not mean that he thinks he 'owns' you! What is true is that we often strike bargins and weigh the qualities of another person when considering relationships: a man seeks out a beutiful woman because she 'buys' him' status ('look at this beautiful woman on my arm - it must mean I'm something special!'); or, a woman might 'buy' a man's strength or success because it makes her feel secure ('oh, I'll never want for anything ever again!').

These are not always bad things, and maybe they are actually necessary - as long as they are genuine and they don't become the prime reasons for a relationship. But here however, I found myself wondering if you're the one who's bargining a wee bit, perhaps looking at some quality of Mr. X as if it were a product, or something to be owned (and perhaps with this comes a sense of clinginess or possessiveness)?

Again, this not a harsh judgement or something evil, but maybe you need to explore it a bit, and perhaps see how it fits into the bigger picture of your relationship.

In your relationship with Mr. X, there also seems to be a potential for long-term happiness, and it could be something you're both thinking about. But it could be that you or he, or both of you are not yet ready for a long-term committment. So, at least in the short term, you may want to make sure you don't become too clingy (maybe turning into jealosy?) and that you don't burn out on each other too soon.

Best, D

 

[PrincessS]

You hit him hard! You couldn’t provide a more complete explanation, so thank’s. I admit yes, i’m more “needy” than mr X. However, i don’t want it to be a relationship based as if i were a product. I admit that mr X gives me a lot. Takes much more care of me than Y. But that doesn’t mean that Y doesn’t GiVe me anything. And from a chemical point of view there is more fire with X than mr Y. Surely it is true that in the relationship of the Times you choose a lot based on the qualities but i want the first quality for which you choose that person is love.

 

[PrincessS]

Even in the case mr y i’m considering if it could be for me. Sometimes and a YES and sometimes and NO, he is not for me, so i’m taking a little more time both of them send me into confusion perhaps because i’m a girl Who tries to evaluate too much, i’m afraid to make a wrong choice also because i Made too many wrong choices in love best wishes

 

[marybluesky]

Hello PrincessS!

You asked about their feelings; so:
Y is attracted to you; X feels like you're someone he can trust & has potential to develop a good relationship with.

Good luck!