TWO WOMEN 37.4.5 to 55 and 1.3.5 to 38

[freimuth]

Lately I have been in love with two women. This is upsetting to me because, while I have not been good at maintaining long-term relationships in the past, I have Always been genuinely loyal and committed within a relationship. So I have asked the I Ching about long-term possible outcomes with these two women, respectively. They are both long-term friends. The first, C., is very different from me in many ways and despite (or perhaps because of this?) we find each other deeply attractive (not just physically) and we also have a deep bond of affection between us. Still, each of us finds the other largely a mystery. For this woman, I got 37.4.5 turning to 55.
The second woman, A., shares much more with me in terms of emotional attitude. I genuinely care for her almost as if she were my daughter. I have a deep respect for her; she is a very spiritual person but also practical when it matters. I have a deep, tender rather than passionate love for her. For this woman I got 1.3.5 turning to 38.

As I am strongly emotionally involved, I am not entirely sure what the make of the I Ching's answers. "37" may point literally to a household in the context of this reading, but what about "1"? And does 1 turning to 38 point to the risk of a symbiosis instead of a healthy relationship? Any comments and any additional insights are very welcome as I am still confused and I have the feeling I am missing something. Thank you very much in advance to anyone for any comments you may wish to post.

 

[Viru10]

we find each other deeply attractive (not just physically) and we also have a deep bond of affection between us. Still, each of us finds the other largely a mystery. For this woman, I got 37.4.5 turning to 55.

37.4.5 sounds like starting a family. Both line 4 and hexagram 55 indicate wealth, so the family will be financially stable. Line 5 indicates success in establishing a good household. It really sounds like the clear option (at least from a purely Yi standpoint).

Hex 1 sounds like there's good creative potential but it may lead to estrangement (38). If you look at the primary hexagram and resultant hexagrams like cause/effect, one path leads to 55 and the other leads to 38. Lines 3 & 5 are fairly good, though I usually pick a single line using Wing's rules (I think they're based on Master Yin's). Line 3 wins and indicates some danger during a transition and to exercise caution. Line 5 is great but it sounds like it reaffirms this:

I genuinely care for her almost as if she were my daughter.

Not sure this is the most romantic thing to say about someone lol. Line 5 points out clearheaded thinking in general.

 

[bologna_tendra]

So the first woman is the "treasure of the house". This sounds good. 37.4 seems to be hinting that this woman is a good candidate for starting a family with, and also 37.5. For the second woman, on 1.5 Wilhelm speaks of each following his own kind, which tallies with what you say, and is also positive. Perhaps though the I Ching is saying the first woman is the most appropriate for you in a romantic sense. Perhaps consult from some angles also, e.g. the astrology.

 

[Matali]

You have been or You are in love ?
37.4.5 - 55 : is this woman married ? If she is, of course the situation 55 is not easy but "abundance"
1.3.5 - 38 : well... 38 is opposition, so it is your duality. Line 1 : the situation is not ready. Line 3 : maybe you work a lot and you think a lot about your two women . Line 5 : you ask to Yi

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

For this woman [number 1] I got 37.4.5 turning to 55.

Among other things 55 refers to curtains. As the relating hexagram here I'd say it indicates the "covers" that make this woman a mystery to you; beyond which exists someone who can enrich your life, enter your home and make a family with you.

For this woman [number 2] I got 1.3.5 turning to 38.
Not sure; seems like there's potential but it's far from being romantic (you've asked about romance and the relating hexagram is 38, that I regard as emotional distance).
She inspires you, makes you more creative, is a great human being, so it's good to see her; but not in the romantic sense.

Please inform us about the results later!

Good luck

 

[breakmov]

Hi Freimuth,

....For this woman, I got 37.4.5 turning to 55. ....

before the answers go any further, just a correction:

==> 37.4.5>30


cheers,

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