Uncertainty in a relationship

[Chloemc]

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/free...898&text=barrett&question=Does+Chris+hate+me+
I asked the iching about a relationship that has been on the rocks for a while. We recently separated, more on his side then mine but we are still very connected and I have a good feeling about being with him. I know there is a lot to work on and I think I understand the reading in this case but I am wondering if others can help clarify and add perspective as all I can even think of at the moment is the loss of what we had.


Hexagram 3, Sprouting



Key Questions

What is beginning?
Where is the growing centre, and where can you find help for it?


Pair

Sprouting forms a pair with Hexagram 4, Not Knowing:
‘Sprouting: seeing, and not letting go your dwelling place.
Not knowing: disordered and also clear.’

Changing Lines

Line 5

‘Sprouting’s juice.
Small constancy, good fortune – great constancy, pitfall.’


Hexagram 24, Returning



Key Questions

What is just beginning to germinate?
How can you follow your sense of direction more closely?
Where might the path lead now?

 

[Chloemc]

Please please help.

 

[ginnie]

3.5 signifies to me that if you ask a whole lot from him right now, he won't give it. But if you ask for a little, he might come through. I see you have two threads going at the same time about Chris, and this is not ideal in terms of getting good feedback.

 

[Chloemc]

I just want to know how to make things better.

 

[ginnie]

The text of hex 3 suggests that everything feels disordered and chaotic right now. You are advised now to "hold to your own center and allow fate to manipulate external events. ... Confusion and disorder reign in personal relationships and there is little you can do about it. Remain calm during this new phase in your emotional life. Look outside the relationship for guidance. ... The very act of taking difficulties elsewhere will help you sort things out successfully." -- R.L. Wing

One thing that's hard for westerners to accept is that the I Ching often tells us the situation is not up to us, to wait, or in this case, to seek out helpers.