unchanging hex 30 and love

[alev]

Good morning

looking for some thoughts on this...a few days ago I asked the question if this special person to me was falling in love with me (which I strongly suspect he already is or at least has deep feelings) which admittedly is an indulgent questions but he is very careful with his words and tends to be somewhat secretive(frustrating cancer men!) I got hex 30 unchanging...
last night I asked Is he already in love with me and got hex 30 unchanging
I took this to mean that he is cling and dependent on attention from me, which makes sense since he never opens up his feelings emotionally but won't let me go either...

I ask why he doesn't tell me how he feels and got 55.6-->30
that 30 again! but this line 6 seems to say maybe the feelings aren't there for me after all, or WORSE he is still clinging to an old relationship (got this from re reading old threads...)

for clarification I asked is he still clinging to or grieving a previous relationship and got 4.2-->23
I am kind of at a loss on this one although maybe the hex 23 signifies a previosu break-up ??? I know he has been single and dating for several years nothing serious, so i don't know here

This is the same guy I have posted about recently and things swing up and down depending on his moods which I am okay with and willing to work through but his secretiveness about his emotionally state is lately having me question things a bit. Wondering if anyone can objectively offer their view on the situation as details by the i ching?:bows:

 

[themis]

Hello,

Hex 30 is auspicious indeed !
The gentleman in question has feelings for you (Hex. 4.2)
He's unable/unwilling (for the time being) to make a declaration/express his feelings (Hex. 55.6).
Just wait and see ... something nice is on its way, I believe.

Ooohhh I sure hope I'm not misleading you but I really do think something will happen.

 

[alev]

Hey Themis!
about the 4.2 reading, the question I had asked was whether he was still grieving a past relationship (though i have no reason to believe this is the case other than wondering about the 55.6 answer before that...) but you think that the i ching is answering by telling me that this isnt the case, he has feeligns for me?
I do think he feels strongly for me too, I just wish he would tell me in those certain three littel bitty words...

 

[themis]

Sometimes, instead of responding to the Q, the IC will just let you know what you need to know at that point in time: 'Enwrapping, enveloping, significant. Letting in the wife'. So the reply is along the lines of ... don't worry about the other party, this is where you stand in this context. That's my take on it.

 

[patro]

hex 30
this hex when unchanging talk about a situation that is there under the skin... but externally the person/situation act in an other way.
the advice is to harmonize the inner real feeling with the external behavior.

well... this mean that he love you... but there is an inner conflict that act as impediment... that's way he don't express his feeling for you.

hope to help

 

[alev]

thanks patro and themis!
it is frustrating because i suspected that he loved me but I don't know the reasons he is unwilling/unable to share his feelings with me. I feel like my answer from the i ching on this particular question is just merely showing an image of the situation (55.6) that he is clinging to me but blocking me out from seeing his true feelings. I just don't understand why and I don't seem to see that the i ching is telling me why either. Since this line occurance in the hexagram of abundance, I am quite confused. I did read one translation that read something like one doesn't notice others because one is obsessed with collecting material things. But he is the most modest un materialistic man I have ever met so I cannot believe that this is the case. I just wish I knew the reason.

 

[themis]

Alev, try reading others' interpretations of the IC: Hilary, Heylise, Legge, Wilhelm.
Hex. 55.6 'Abounding one's roof, screening one's household, peeping through one's door', living
alone, one without people'.
Suggests a situation where a person has withdrawn of their own free will, hence my
believing that he could be reserved by nature.

The reason may possibly have nothing to do with you.

Just be patient lady, some guys need time, quite some time !