****unclear hex1 1.4 > 9: how can I heal myself????

[Sofia Andrews]

Hello all!!

me and my ex relationship has no expectation.
We have been best frienor many years and I still have the same feeling and I still love her.Though I hide my feelings and want to be happy myself.I cant still get out of the past.I still get so hurt and I have only chance to watch her without belonging.But I need to move on.
I need to heal myself.she is now happy with her new boyfriend and I dun know why I was still stuck in past feeling.
Q : how can I heal myself?
Ans: hex 1.4 to hex9!
What is the insight about??
I seem hex 1is sunrise so it looks positive.
Really hope anyone can help me
Your insights are really appreciated and thank you so much!!

 

[veavea]

From DeKorne's website:

"Siu: After a while the man is confronted with a choice for public service in world affairs or solitude in further personal development. Either is appropriate if pursued in virtue and at the proper time.

"Wing: A time of choice is at hand. Because of amplification in your Creative Power you must decide whether to enter the public eye and serve society, or whether to withdraw and work on your inner development. Follow your deepest intuition and you will not make a mistake.

"Editor: The fourth line bears a certain similarity to the third: as the lowest line of the upper trigram, it is also in a threshold position of transition. Although hesitation and uncertainty are implied, one is counseled to take action when it is appropriate to do so. This implies that you are on the right track, but that certain self-confidence is required. The line can sometimes just portray a confused situation."

My take on this - is there an opportunity here for you either to work more deeply on yourself through therapy, counselling etc, and perhaps thereafter use what you have learnt to help others? Or even concentrate now on helping others and as a by-product you will heal yourself? I can't say without knowing more about what's going on in your life, but could it be that dwelling more on how you can give to the world might help you to heal?

There also seems to be a question of 'testing' the self in this line, and testing the willpower - perhaps you need to move on forcibly, distracting yourself, and in time you will heal naturally? Rather than waiting to heal before moving on?

Though this isn't indicated by the line, as far as I can see, I do wonder whether it is very helpful for you to remain in a close 'best friends' relationship with her when it is painful to you. Is there not an opportunity to distance yourself to enable you to heal in peace?

 

[veavea]

Me again - the choice between public service and solitude seems to indicate that your choice is not to remain 'best friends' with a person who has hurt you, even if she didn't mean to. Your choice is to work on yourself IN SOLITUDE (ie, not with your ex and her new lover around) or to go out into the world and put some distance between you - and move on with your life. That's my take, anyway - for what it's worth!

 

[Sofia Andrews]

Thank you so much for your insight! These days I was so challenging for my worries. I already decided to find inner peace.maybe i feel soltitude sometime.your reply really helped me