Unwanted attentions 29.2.4>45

[emiliana2010]

Hello everybody,

My neighbors invited me to spend New Year's Eve with them in the home of a Romanian family they are helping and befriending since long time. A couple of months ago I joined them in helping this family by having the wife coming to take care of my house once a week.
So, there I go to this Romanian New Year's dinner. After a couple of days the host sent me a text message declaring his interest in me and inviting me for a drink, requesting though the utmost discretion. I felt shocked. How did he get my phone number? I imagine he took it from his wife's mobile.
I replayed his text saying that the whole thing was not possible. He wrote again but I did not reply.
Last night, two weeks after, he came and rang my intercom asking me to meet him outside to talk. I declined and said again that the thing is not possible.

I feel anxious because his wife has my house keys. It feels I am between a hard place and a rock.

I asked the Yi:
"Please, give me a picture of this situation" and received 29.2.4>45

I asked then:
"How should I take care of this situation?" and received 54.1>40

It seems that an element of danger is there, though luckily not a major one. I understand that I should not take things head on, better stay out of sight as much as possible. Hex 45 also speaks of a potential unseen danger and I feel a bit shaky.

The second question seems to confirm that there's not much I can do directly. Better to inch my way out of this with patience and staying put.

Has any of you more clarity about these hexes than I have at the moment and can help me?

I wish a Happy 2014 to you all!

 

[meganj]

29 clearly shows the situation of him coming to you...
Trying in small ways to gain your influence.
And 45 is him trying to get with you... The danger is the fact that he's decided to do this.
What the hell is going through this guys head!!

54- second position that's right, he wants to make you his mistress..
Hmmm it's not really saying to do anything just like maybe how you should be within yourself...
Continue to be reserved, don't give him anything to go off of..
I dunno bout you but this guy sounds really creepy..

 

[rosada]

Picture of the situation

29.2 The abyss is dangerous. One should strive for small things only.

The man knows what he is doing is dangerous but he thinks what he is asking for is very small.

29.4...no harm in this.
Again it sounds like the man thinks he's attempting is not that big a deal.

45. The superior man renews his weapons ... Do you think you should change the locks?

How you should handle the situation

54.1 The Marrying Maiden is second to the wife but if she has the first wife's blessing she can find a place for herself in the family.

Tell the man you consider his wife a very dear friend and that the only way you feel comfortable having a friendship with him is with his wife there.

40. The superior man pardons mistakes and forgives misdeeds.

Try to keep everything low key so you will not feel awkward if you ever actually do have to have dinner with him and his wife again. Might say to him something like, "I'm sorry, I've obviously given you the wrong impression. Please forgive me."

Best of luck!
Rosada

 

[emiliana2010]

Thank you rosada and meganj for reading and replaying my post.

I thought about changing the locks, but then I should give the new keys to this man's wife since she comes when I am at work.

Ok. I take the lowest possible profile and stay put and quiet. I wait that life brings the opportunity where it will be ok to talk to this man. I think he understood that I'm not available but worries about the possibility that I might talk about this to his wife. I have to find the right words to dissipate his worrying.

Keep you posted.

Thanks and hugs hugs.:bows:

 

[meganj]

Let's us know how it all pans out.

 

[moss elk]

He is a dishonorable man, and 29 it is a dangerous situation,
he came to your home even after you told him no.
if he went through her phone; to get your number, what is preventing him from getting your key?
You should do something about this: 54-1 ...undertakings bring good fortune
40: yes deal gently and forgive, but do something and do it quickly.

You dont have to tell his wife why you want the keys back (dealing gently)
And you can make arrangements for her to pick up the key (or a new one) somewhere.

 

[moss elk]

54 mentions to be aware of your mistakes in the beginning.

Is it possible you may have inadvertently (or unconsciously) flirted with him at dinner?
You dont have to answer.


Let me just repeat this:
*he came to your home after you already told him no*
If this doesn't raise red flags for the females here, I dont know what would.