Urgent help needed: hexagrams 43 and 62 repeated

[Ana Maria]

Hello Forum,
I would be grateful if anyone could help me interpret a sequence of castings that refer to my current situation.

I am in a very complex and really difficult personal and professional situation: I'm financially dependent on others (including my husband who has the means to pay the rent and most bills and my senior managers at work, in a company that doesn't stand by its employees). I'm often constrained by these people and by their opinions when shared in strong/imperative terms - I appear hard on the outside but am softie inside and so easily swayed by what people think/say/expect.

Now, I did get a one year contract gig that I thought would me make feel better and more empowered so I left the work arrangements that were in place. But in that process I cut ties with a collaborator that I miss (or am obsessing about due to retrospective imaginings of what might be), though I am not sure I could trust fully her as there was a lot of miscommunication between us.

Tying up all this precarious situation is the fact that I'm not even in my own home country (not even continent) so the tendency to rely on and defer to others in an unfamiliar place is even bigger. I have no friends or aides. It's a year, now, into the pandemic and most of it was spent confined. I've also counted a lot of losses during this confinement and what was already a super tough situation became even heavier, more difficult to bear as it feels like something has got to give - and it's mostly been my mental health. even the landlord has tried to kick us out to sell the flat while the market is booming. I can't see how might un-tangle myself from all this messy situation; how to heal and/or repair whatever mistakes I may have made as I feel that I burned some bridges unnecessarily while having so little to hold on to.

Could someone be so kind as to help me interpret this sequence of castings

I've asked: what to do in my situation? I got Hexagram 43.2.6 > 13
I got the ideas of breakthrough and fellowship/friendship and perhaps "crying out for help" so I asked: if I send a voicemsg or letter to my previous employer and collaborator to clarify what happened, what would be the outcome?
I got Hexagram 3.1.3 >39
This one got me really confuse so I finalized with a request: please counsel me then my relationship to this person (thinking on how to relate to this person): I got Hexagram 57uc.

Days later, I asked: is it worth pursuing any communication/links with these people? I got Hexagram 62.3>16.

My last attempt was asking the IC to please counsel me on my situation and I received again Hexagram 62.2>32.
Again the idea of trespass and laying low. I then asked about asking someone for help with a small piece of extra work that would maybe help me to get out of this close loop, and I got (again) Hexagram 43, this time 43.1.2.5 > 62 (again).

Thanks for your help and support. I'm exhausted and having trouble to think straight.

Mari

 

[Ana Maria]

P.s. I don't mean to be overbearing. Just need a little help in a difficult situation.

 

[Win_Po]

I've asked: what to do in my situation? I got Hexagram 43.2.6 > 13

this question is "generally" I take it? So speak with your husband and also think about how to deal with and more openly talk to your current employer, as a collaborator and friend, not a squeaky wheel.

I got the ideas of breakthrough and fellowship/friendship and perhaps "crying out for help" so I asked: if I send a voicemsg or letter to my previous employer and collaborator to clarify what happened, what would be the outcome?

doesn't seem a good idea at present

I got Hexagram 3.1.3 >39
This one got me really confuse so I finalized with a request: please counsel me then my relationship to this person (thinking on how to relate to this person): I got Hexagram 57uc.

This suggests that comprehension is required on your part, maybe you are overreacting or you don't understand enough about the other person and previous situation as yet to make an effective connection.

Days later, I asked: is it worth pursuing any communication/links with these people? I got Hexagram 62.3>16.

Yi is saying "you are too emotional" here and reacting with the wrong type of attachment. It indicates that your question is problematic, as is the way you relate to "them".

My last attempt was asking the IC to please counsel me on my situation and I received again Hexagram 62.2>32.

Dig deeper into yourself, you can't change your circumstances much yet in the material space so spiritually you need to change yourself

Again the idea of trespass and laying low. I then asked about asking someone for help with a small piece of extra work that would maybe help me to get out of this close loop, and I got (again) Hexagram 43, this time 43.1.2.5 > 62 (again).

Thanks for your help and support. I'm exhausted and having trouble to think straight.

Mari

You didn't say exactly what was troubling you with the current workplace and your husband. Being dependent and a bit isolated is manageable if things are OK in your relationship. And work? Lots of workplaces are imperfect. What is really wrong here?

Best of luck

 

[Ana Maria]

Thanks a lot Win Po.
All this resonates and, yes, the situation is ambiguous, confusing, and overwhelming because things are not that OK at work nor at home, so it's difficult to rely on one to make up for the other. I appreciate your clarifications on the question formulation and on the 'relating to others'. I'll meditate on them.

 

[mandarin_23]

Hi Ana Maria,

with the last reading, 43.1.2.5, I see that it again reflects the situation also as a change pattern - the lines 1.2.5 which change to build up 62 make a 60, confinement, and the non-changing lines (3.4.6) build the Yin-pattern of 56, the wanderer. Being abroad. So there are limits in this situation.

So this might be just a comprehension of the questions you posed before. With 43, there is a need to make a decision. 43.1 is a warning, not to act before considering things, and 43.2 is an encouragement. Don't be afraid. "Decide, decide" says 43.5.

62 which turns up here as a related hexagram is a situation which asks for awareness in details - like a thunderstorm on a moutain, maybe. You need to calm down and be very considerate. Don't fly too hight, don't loose yourself in idle thoughts. With 62.2 - your previous reading - might be best to stay grounded, do what you can do - maybe good to apply, to ask, to do your best with given circumstances.

All the best
mandarine

 

[Ana Maria]

Thanks a lot Mandarine. I haven't forgotten to reply but was hoping to come back and update you both (and the forum) on the above. The events are still a bit up in the air: I need a bit more time to see how this whole scenario plays out. One thing is certain: I believe that each forum member that asks questions and receives answers, time, insights, needs to come back and share what was learned, even if to corroborate or contradict advice given. I'll hold on to that promise!