various messages from the Iching

[urbansparrow]

Dear all

I am a bit with the responses given by the book.
I am the marrying maiden in a relationship. There was another woman in it.
In the past I have had very good promise from the book regarding the outcome of it.

However things have changed and I have stumbled across more oppression than usual.

I decided not to be the marrying maiden anymore and quit him. However after several weeks going crazy (talking to him in my head all the time) I contacted him, again. He asked to see me.

SO I asked the Iching a series of questions.

What would be the outcome if I take x’s offer to see each other?

39.3 to 8


So basically we would sleep together (every time I receive 8 is about sex).
But following the other advice in the iching contained in 39.3 I started pondering whether it was best not to see him at all.

and so I asked,

How should i approach x?

33.6 to 31

Again speaking of retreating, of playing hard to get...

but this again ignited my curiosity. So much retreating.

So i asked

If i retreat from x, what would be the outcome?

63.3. 6 to 43

This is not clear to me. My decision in my mind is not taken (I do not know if to retreat or pursue). The oracle speaks of increase, but I do wonder if it refers to " by retreating here you will find your treasure elsewhere").

So finally I asked the oracle,


What can I achieve with Louis?

35.4.6. to 2

I have read in an interesting thread the conditionality of 35.4.6, but how would it apply here?
I hate to have to ask so many questions, but this is really hard. This non relationship is taking so much more energy than I thought. Yet there is a particular force that drives me towards him I have not felt in more than 10 years. I never trust my guts but they are still telling me to go ahead (when my head says otherwise). He always appears in my readings as hex 24. (which might not be too good).

Thank you for your opinion :bows:
Good night from Brussels,

urban sparrow.

 

[goddessliss]

Hey urban sparrow, I think basically the whole situation is asking you to speak your truth to him and then step back and see what results. Do not tell him more than once as you will then be caught in a not so 'merry dance' with him.
- Liss

 

[meng]

In the past I have had very good promise from the book regarding the outcome of it.

However things have changed and I have stumbled across more oppression than usual.

This could be a valuable lesson in itself, about understanding those promising readings more clearly.

I once placed an all or nothing positive spin bet on 19. In less than 3 months it was a total disaster. It took about three more years of contemplating how that could happen, before my understanding of 19 became clearer.

 

[urbansparrow]

Dear all

Quick recap: the only thing that keeps happening is hex. 24. My computer went down and I have lost some readings I had casted since March, but there was an awful lot of 24.
I did not meet him. I thought retreating was the right thing to do, as goodess liss pointed out. There was no apparent way out of this circular motion of returning to square one. No direction furthered.
I sent him a letter instead. I wrote down everything I needed to tell him. He replied by message. No good.
Silence ensued, for months.

Once months later I had a dream - I was telling myself I needed to get over him because I had not. The next day I ran into him. It was awkward. I tried to arrange a coffee some time, but he was reluctant. I considered the matter solved. Sometimes ( and I wish I could remember the sequence I received, I only remember the response I had given myself) there are some situation that will never end with closure.

Months passed. I met someone one else (I thought it was the one the book had spoken me about at the beginning of the year http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?16219-reading-for-2013). The early year reading seemed to make perfect sense - I had removed the obstruction, I was happy and meng's words on the thread had resonated with me

But lets not forget the son in 54.1,
who accompanies such an untimely loss.
She may have lost her prince,
but great potential and life lives.

With this new guy, we happily dated for a couple months (at least I believed we were happy). Then last Monday this new guy sent me a message. He was breaking up. Unexpectedly. The readings I received, I posted them in http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...-through-situation-10-to-54-7-1-to-19-21-to-8

I never run into people, but I run into the man I was the marrying maiden of the same day.
It was strangely comforting.
He bought me coffee and I broke into tears. He did not know what I was crying about (I am unsure myself, but I think in Lacanian terms it was the "object petit a" ).
We departed.
I think I am ok for the moment.
Wishes to you all,

Elisabeth