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[cris]

Hello fellow seekers,

I've been increasingly noticing that people tend to be confrontational with me. This happens both in professional and personal life, regardless of the circumstances.

Q.: Insight on what causes opposition / rejection in others
A.: 5.1,5 > 46

I tried to consider this casting from different angles, however I'm at a loss. Is it impatience or lack of commitment which causes opposition? This does not seem to resonate.

Thanks for any insight.

 

[sooo]

Hey, Cris.

First, I wouldn't blame yourself. I think it's a sign of the times. First, we have become a generation of Keyboard Warriors. Everyone's a bad-ass when they're sitting safely behind a computer, many hiding their name and whereabouts. With so much data out there, anyone can find anything which supports their personal world view, and will rely on those sources which support their own rightness. This leads to what I think is the crux of the matter - the need to be right. 46 can support this idea. 5 can support a lack of patience and ability to receive nourishment in the form of new and creative ideas which do not support their already establish ideas, which typically are not their ideas but a repetition of what they've learned from already established sources. It's not unlike a musician who can play pre-written pieces but who have never played an original melody or progression or style in their life. They'll argue technique and theory they've learned from someone and somewhere else, and will quickly criticize improvisation as meaningless. I've seen the same work in the opposite direction: if it isn't original, it isn't worth playing or listening to. The need to be right works either way, and either way the source is pride, which more often than not is a guise for insecurity.

Here's a little article that makes some excellent points, I think. http://www.angriesout.com/right.htm

 

[Trojina]

Hello fellow seekers,

I've been increasingly noticing that people tend to be confrontational with me. This happens both in professional and personal life, regardless of the circumstances.

Q.: Insight on what causes opposition / rejection in others
A.: 5.1,5 > 46

I tried to consider this casting from different angles, however I'm at a loss. Is it impatience or lack of commitment which causes opposition? This does not seem to resonate.

Thanks for any insight.

Any insight ? You remember this thread http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?17578-Improving-my-image where I kept nagging you to update it...and you were teased a little on the thread I think because you just left it hanging for months and months with no response and someone suggested a good way to improve your image would be to get back to people.





I think you PMd me for some input on one of your readings and basically I reminded you you hadn't ever answered on that thread. I remembered it in particular because youjust left the thread dangling unresponded to. You said you would update it and you did eventually do that but only because I prodded you several times. I mean it was all good natured ...but I did think if you were going to ask for more help from me in PM that you should honour the answers you had already received by giving some response.


Now if my memory serves you were really really slow in responding even following friendly prodding....so I'd suggest maybe people get confrontational because you don't follow through or respond to them....you keep them waiting and waiting. That was your answer 5.1.5>46.


Do you do things you say you are going to do ? Do you respond to people on time ? You know if it is happening in all areas of your life then maybe this is something you neglect to do in all parts of your life ??

You did say this was happening in your work and private life and did not say it was confined to online activity, so I'm extrapolating/hypothesising from here.

5.1.5>46 maybe it might show you want to get on to the next thing, move on up...before completing the previous thing ? I mean the reading could be read many other ways it's just that particular waiting thing came to mind.

 

[Trojina]

ps I think the reading is quite benign because possibly what drives others crazy about you, you aren't even very aware of and don't mean harm by. Mostly people are unlikely to express annoyance directly at being left hanging/kept waiting and so on but it's an issue that might build up over time until the person explodes over something unrelated.

For example I had a friend who was never ready when I went to pick her up and I always had to sit waiting in the car for her. I'd never want to spoil the evening by bringing up the fact that she always kept me waiting...but in the end it built up resentment. I'd have thoughts like 'does she think my time doesn't matter', 'does she think I like sitting here waiting in the dark' and so on and so ...and then she'd turn up smiling and I could never say anything. Eventually these and other ways of being inconsiderate built up...but were not expressed. Then if anger did come it appeared to come from out of nowhere.


Of course you may not be able to relate to this at all...just an idea

Oh and no serious personal criticism intended..it may be you have a different sense of time to others ? People do vary a lot with how they see time and how long it is okay to keep others waiting and so on.

 

[pocossin]

They also serve/Who only stand and wait. -- John Milton

Insight on what causes opposition / rejection in others
5.1.5 > 46

You are too defensive (5), and the solution is to be more celebratory (46). Those waiting in 5 are soldiers posted in their buff coats to the border, and 46 is an altar loaded with food, visually, that is.

 

[hsin]

Assuming your question is on target—

Q.: Insight on what causes opposition / rejection in others
A.: 5.1,5 > 46

—by which I mean, assuming you are doing something to provoke opposition/rejection in others:


#5 may indicate procrastination, which could be taken by others as passive-aggressive traits.
#46 may indicate the way forward, the healing path: respectful modesty in one's external actions, patient persistence in one's inner attitude.


All the Best

 

[cjgait]

The Jiao Shi Yi Lin (Garden of Changes) verse for that combination is:

5 - 46

Violent son, troubled grandson,
Swords drawn daily in anger.
Noise and squabbling,
The family full of fear.