What? 39.3>8

[becalm]

So last night Mr FWB and I swapped a few text messages. Nothing more than chatting about nothing, he said he's grateful we're at least on speaking terms - I didn't think we weren't, just that things had ended as they were and no big deal.

Then he sends me a text this morning and says he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because I'm reading too much into it and he's not interested in me.....huh?!

What on earth made him send me that text this morning Hex 39.3>8

He really does feel I'm wanting a relationship with him and he just wants to stop things to avoid any drama.

Oh boy - ego muchly!

 

[Trojina]

I think he's more trouble than he's worth isn't he ? A bit high maintenance.


I think 'more trouble than it's worth' could be the 39.3 advice for you.

If it is why he sent the text then he just can't cope. It doesn't sound like he can cope with a relationship (of any kind) but still half wants one.

 

[becalm]

I think he's more trouble than he's worth isn't he ? A bit high maintenance.


I think 'more trouble than it's worth' could be the 39.3 advice for you.

If it is why he sent the text then he just can't cope. It doesn't sound like he can cope with a relationship (of any kind) but still half wants one.

Yes you're absolutely right....

 

[my_key]

What on earth made him send me that text this morning Hex 39.3>8

Many people get egoic pleasure from making themselves the centre of attention and discover habitual ways of turning your attention, hooking you in and focusing your energy on them, when in many cases it is the last thing you want to do. To survive they have a need to make the world and others revolve around them.

Hex 39 meaning 'hardship'
Hex 8 meaning 'delight'

The delight people get from the hardship they create.

You can quite clearly see it in some instances in life where people turn conversations around to focus on themselves or they have ways that create some sort of chaos that brings positive and even negative attention zooming in on them. The attention is where they get their nourishment they do not really care if it is positive or negative.

39.3 - This is the space where the root of his issues reside. This is what makes him do it. It is a place of emotional weakness (or vulnerability) that he needs to pull away from however as he seems to be creating drama on repeated occasions it looks like he is too deeply enmeshed to pull back from his behaviours. The thing is he may not even recognise what it is he is doing. Change is on it's way for him and until then it may be that you reverse your connections with him.

...or it may be nothing like this at all.

Good Luck

 

[becalm]

Thank you my_key. Yes this is definitely repeated behaviours isn't it. We get in a good space with each other and he says or does something to spoil it and wonders why I get annoyed.
I hope this weakness/vulnerability does change for him but after this last silliness I gave up on any kind of connection with him.