What action with respect to healing our relationship? 14.2.3.6 to 51

[bonnieta]

In follow-up to my earlier post: 3/14/10: balancing act; re: my setting a difficult limit in what has been unbalanced relationship.
I asked:
Will he seek me?
Reply: 31, unchanging.
Influence(Wooing) or Mutually Influencing
Affect and Affection
Harvest-Determination
To Take a Woman is Auspicious
Influence. Success
Perseverance furthers
To take a maiden to wife brings good fortune

I also asked:
What action will he take with respect to healing our relationship? 14.2.3.6 to 51
14. Possession in Great Measure/Great Assets
Supreme Success
Fire In Heaven Above
The Image of Possession in Great Measure
Thus the Superior Man curbs evil and furthers good
And thereby obeys the benevolent will of heaven
Possession on a grand scale...Everything in brought to light

Line 2. A big wagon for loading
One may undertake something, No blame
Line 3. A prince offers it to the son of heaven, a petty man cannot do this
Line 6. He is blessed by heaven. Good Fortune...nothing that would not further

changing to
Hexagram 51-The Arousing/Shock

I would say this looks like he will seek me..and come around with a a big offer, that will be surprising, to say the least. Or maybe he will be packing up a moving van and moving due a new job?
Any thoughts from others...??

 

[gene]

bonnieta

It sounds like you have it right. The only question, based on what you say, and these readings, is, why do you think it is unbalanced?

Gene

 

[bonnieta]

Dear Gene,
Thanks very much for your feedback
My reference to "unbalanced" has to do with my first post, earlier today ( "Balancing Act"), and my description of our relationship/platonic friendship in terms of differing levels emotional investment and commitment. I chose to break the friendship off because I was wanting more intimacy and feeling more attachment than he wants at this time. The balance is off in our wishes for commitment, depth of intimacy and expression of love. My wish is that he would choose to meet me in a reconciled partnership in a healed form.
Did you happen to read my earlier post?
Bonnieta

 

[gene]

I think, though I am not an expert on relationships, that in cases like this, if you just back off a little bit, and let things go slow, that things will return to normal in time.

Gene

 

[gene]

One thing I might add, is that, you can't force things. They have to develop in their own way, and it has to be mutual. If in your mind, he is still the guy for you, let it be. Simply wait. If you can't wait, well... you have a decision to make.

Gene

 

[lucia]

I think that your lines are telling you to look to yourself. 14 is about YOUR innner resources and talents.
14.2 suggests you are strong enough to change direction if necessary
14.3 talks about not being posessive
14.6 requires effort on your part with no expectations of reward and part of that effort is not holding on to things or you end in deadlock (fanyao 34.6) if you can do this then good. But it is not passive it does require reigning yourself in and aiming for higher things in yourself.

51 is just the context I think of attraction and the nervous energy that has been generated by the situation.

Lucia

 

[bonnieta]

Thank you Lucia. I appreciate your insights, too. Lots of different ways to look at the reading.
From your comments, I understand the perspective of inner value and trusting in the powers of what is unseen and larger than us. Seeing my own worth...recognizing my own value as being enough and worthy of a healthy committed partnership, and trusting that I don't have to "do something" to get what I desire is the growing edge for me...That is where I am healing...The healthier I am, the less I have to act...the less I have to try...and the anxiety decreases about "what will be". I am remembering my spiritual teacher's comments in a recent body work session, spontaneously saying, as he worked out tension and blocks..."Don't worry." We spoke about creating a larger space to be available to myself and others. In my heart I know this relationship will work out for the best, no matter the outcome. The attachment I have is strong..and letting go of it while staying open is challenging for me. I have to see and appreciate my own value first and foremost, while simultaneously remaining modest and receptive. I also have to trust my friend's process...That is hard. I so want to move things along at a faster pace...This has been, and continues to be, a long and powerful journey that we are taking together. I have been practicing holding back, waiting...while hoping for a desired outcome. I know I have to "let go" of my picture of the outcome, but I don't have to let go of my desires for a life companion. Now, there's a challenge!
Trust. Don't Worry. Let Go.
You are right...Its not a passive place to be.
Thanks again...
Bonnieta

 

[willowfox]

Will he seek me?
Reply: 31, unchanging.

Hex 31 always seeks out another, its called courtship by some, or just having a chat.

I also asked:
What action will he take with respect to healing our relationship? 14.2.3.6 to 51


He should call you.

 

[bonnieta]

Thanks Willowfox. I always appreciate you thoughts and input on this relationship and my Yi Ching readings.
I look forward to receiving a call from him and courtship would be real nice.
I'll let you know what happens.
Bonnieta

 

[danceofthegods]

Thanks Willowfox. I always appreciate you thoughts and input on this relationship and my Yi Ching readings.
I look forward to receiving a call from him and courtship would be real nice.
I'll let you know what happens.
Bonnieta

Hello Bonnieta, it's been a while but I was hoping you could do a follow up? If would be greatly helpful if you could.

 

[eowyndernhelme]

Hi, bonnieta, I see that you are still here on the site. I got the same reading for a similar situation. This one is not a romantic relationship, but I worry about a neighbor of mine when I don't see him outside for a while. He has talked about having these bouts of depression, and when he gets these he just wants to stay inside his house. He's a very nice person and I am a worry wart. I don't like to bother people, but I'm hoping that all is well and that I'll see him outside soon to say hello or chat.

So yes, what happened with you and your friend?