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58.1 > 7 is a really interesting answer to that question because 58.1 is about you. Your inner contentment. Maybe it reflects this question of what will really bring you happiness? And that you’ll need to do a lot of it on your own. This is not a real life example but 58.1 makes sense to me when I think of someone meditating in a prison cell, some people find a really close relationship with God in a confined situation because there’s nowhere else to go, like finding a higher power when you need to get sober and choosing harmony because what else is there to choose really. Happiness comes from the inside. It always does, of course, and our own happiness always depends primarily on us. It might be saying that it depends on your attitude toward the situation. I will add the layer, though, that perhaps when you are surrounded by people all the happiness shouldn’t need to come from you, perhaps?

38.6 > 54 I have a lot of personal experience with. It’s somewhat limited (common theme of the two lines.) It does somewhat validate what you’re saying here about one of you realizing that the other isn’t your enemy. In my own experience, it’s difficult. Meaning even if you see the best in this person, that best might still be fairly challenging and fraught. There isn’t a lot of power to change much. The relationship I received it for, my partner was unwilling to change anything in their communication or behavior (but did have requests of me to change.) I’m not of the right nature for that, it was too hard. I’m sure some people could make it work. It implies vacillating feelings because in order to realize someone isn’t your enemy, you have to at least temporarily think they are. Realizing over and over again the limits of the situation and not being able to change much about it (54) but being able to accept certain things that are ugly on the surface.

The theme of being confined stands out to me in both. It could be lonely. It might require accepting a lot of things that will not change. It makes me think of what Bradford Hatcher says about 54.1 (not a line you received) which is essentially that there can be power in accepting a lowly position (or what you can’t change) when it’s truly necessary to do so but that one also shouldn’t injure themselves so as to be incapacitated enough to fit into the bigger picture. When we really have no choice at all, choose harmony and survival. It can only help us (like the image I have in my head to understand 58.1, that I wrote above.) There’s not a lot of freedom and choice, though, so maybe there’s a layer here of that examining why you might want to limit yourself (or believe yourself so inherently limited since that is perhaps in some way what you’re choosing or what is chosen for you.)
 
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Okay sorry, had to make sure before I write anything that it was working. I have an update on this a year or so later...have to be quick.... I had made the decision to stay....I got pregnant again, had the baby by late summer last year...things have gotten progressively worse. I will spare you the details, but like nothing can be done, he keeps telling me to leave and being so abusive verbally, emotionally, some physically. Just scary. I started to realize how badly I'm failing the children and myself. My eldest is basically an adult now, totally failed her, this is a messsss. Remember he always insisted I leave and leave all the children with him and never see them again until they are 18....my shell of a person self was believing this...but I've finally come to a crossroads and an acceptance that I have to leave and now. And here we are in present time. I'm creating my plan, I have a plan. I've reached out to people. I've actually told people. Yi, please comment on me leaving before this weekend....25.1.5 to 35. Please comment on me leaving next week...14.2 to 30.....of course, even still, there are good times, happiness and fun if you will....please comment on me staying, doing my very best, things are bettering in his own personal life a bit, seeing if things change since they always do.....64.6 to 40.....I'm so scared. The world is shifting, things are different now, and he will be so angry and he's already turning the children so much against me and I live here, I can only imagine what he will say and do once I leave.....this reads to me like leave next week. We have a birthday this coming weekend....Every day is a gamble, but I want to spend some nice days and moments with each child as their last memories of me being here. My heart is beating out of my chest as I rush to secretly write this. Thank you for any response and for listening!
 

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Hi Veronica. Leaving aside the Yi Jing for a moment, and saying this as someone who is getting ready to exit an abusive marriage: if there is abuse, especially if it is physical, you should leave. If you are scared and have to secretly post on the internet: you should leave.

I know from my own case that it's easier said than done. But if there's abuse and you're frightened, you need to go.
 

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Dear you should leave based on both logic and I-Ching. I know it's not easy and wish you best.

Yi, please comment on me leaving before this weekend....25.1.5 to 35
It's without mistake, and a it's progress.
Please comment on me leaving next week...14.2 to 30
Look at Bradford's translation of 14.2:

The great wagon is for loading
Have somewhere to go
Nothing is wrong


Do you need more assurance? 14 and 30 are both good: great possession and clarity.
please comment on me staying, doing my very best, things are bettering in his own personal life a bit, seeing if things change since they always do.....64.6 to 40.
The "Not Yet Across" time is over. Free yourself.
 

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Veronica, is there any update? Are you in a safer space now? Sending love and light.
 

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Good day everyone, apologies to have taken so long to provide an update. Re-reading over this whole thread, oh my goodness...I can't believe this. Thank you all so much for commenting and providing a space for me (I am embarrassed ! this is embarrassing! ) But I do have an update. I will try to keep it brief. I did leave. I left before the weekend. Before the birthday....it was all very dramatic. I created a plan and executed it..but it was also day by day...and that Friday I had a sign...his scary look and so much gaslighting and he was ranting ....I called the police to come while I left. It was shock. pure drama....he was just shocked to the core when I left with 'my' car (our family vehicle). I felt free and it was so empowering. I have transformed to another person. Still myself, but so much has lifted. The next few days were weird...scary too...I didn't know what to do then..I looked at every resource, I did have a womens center type of place helping me. Then he started begging me to come back. The children had been texting / calling/ he had been leaving messages. Never received so many texts from him....Turns out, this is all very typical. I really didn't know that. I ended up going back after 5 days. It wasn't like I moved back in...I came to get the baby and he left...then we were both there together and it's just been us "trying to work it out" since. So much has changed, I have become fully educated on dv...domestic violence. I have been going to a women's group therapy every week. It's been amazing. I also found a 'great person' during this whole process who has been helping me with so much listening and advice and friendship. I have gained my power back. It's too much power for him...for us to stay together, I have to dim my light some, live in submission ultimately. But it may be more about our children right now and the entire group then his and my connection. I could tell you all so much about what's happended and explain, but there is a 'cycle of abuse' if you don't know...it's just on repeat here. Hearts and flowers stage (apologies/ work it out), walking on eggshells stage (tension building), conflict/reaction/explosion stage......repeat. I'm so aware of all of his abusive tactics his gaslighting and all his little tactics, that he's exposed. I almost left again a few times...over the course of these last 3 months...there has been so much more drama...but also we have been able to talk about so much more. I have told him about himself to the core. The children have seen the power shift...but it's just hectic here, there is the day to day living, the education, working, a part of me still just wants to leave and I just might. Or I could have him removed...but these things are the next huge shift in my life, so I'm giving it a little time.The number one reason women don't leave is because they love him. They really love him... I do feel fully empowered, yet such a young sprout. I am still terrified of the unkown and also some realistic things...but also, I've been looking at myself and just trying to improve me right now and "safety plan" as they call it, always an ongoing plan...and also build my self esteem and confidence...I'm learning about narcissistic behavior and how to battle against it...I quit drinking. We have a complicated situation because of all of the children. I do encourage anyone else reading this who could be in an abusive situation to leave...to tell someone....think of any kind of plan...and get away from the abusive person. Educate yourself. Leaving changed everything. However, I'm still in a bit of a mess :)
 
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Also ! an important update is that my love for the iChing has continued to grow. I’ve been practicing more and am able to keep notes now and learn more. If I were to interpret my original reading now - What are his true intentions with me ? - 27.1.6 to 2….I would think he is not nourishing me…he is not giving me nourishment anymore….he thinks I’m a bad mother (hex 2) / non-existent mother….this is why he’s cold/ bitter….or that there is no love there for me….he doesn’t see me as one to nurture….non deserving of his love and care.

Or I might see it like he feels that I don’t nourish him, so he is void and empty of nourishment for me. What are his true intentions towards me? Relentlessly (hex2) like a mare he will be non-nourishing towards me….I feel like 27.1 is before nourishment…and 27.6 is on it’s way out of being nourished ?, it’s moving to great exceeding…exceeding nourishment (exhaustion right?)….thus , 27.1.6 means ‘no nourishment here!’

Or 27.1 I can nourish myself (I don’t need his empty nothingness endlessness (hex 2). Also, his jealousy of me – his loss of his self-reliance and freedom (me being the breadwinner, him being the stay-at-home dad). 27.6 Also, very practically speaking, using the images and all of that where 27 references the mouth and the jaws…he doesn’t see me as the nourishing motherly type (which he wants) and thus, please forgive me for this profane note, however I think it’s only accurate to mention, as he was being quite degrading towards me at the time, so for the love of the iching and interpretation’s sake….for example if you are reading this and asking what did my girlfriend do with X…. I would say it quite literally meant he just wanted to use me (hex 2) for my cheeks and jaws (27.6) (for fellatio). Pardon me.
 

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If you are in a bad situation, please reach out to me if you have no one else! I will listen.
Kind but be careful. There are some unscrupulous people around who try to take advantage. They might buddy up with you via private message here, draw you in, get you to share and not be what they seem. I'd say that to anyone here actually. 99 % of people will be fine, genuine I'm sure, but just hold a little caution in reserve until you know who they are. Especially if you don't know them from here and they just joined today or something.

Vey generally re 27.1.6>2, I'd see as hunger unsatisfied, need. I think I'd go with your interpretations. Sadly whatever he wants from you you can't afford to give it him given he is abusive.

BTW I am a bit confused, are you saying you have gone back to him ?
 

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Thank you for that warning, I deleted that because you are right. Yes, I am in the home with him.

I’ve been consulting Yi…here is the big picture. Please, any thoughts?

He actually consulted Yi soon after I had came back (we were in the hearts and flowers stage still) and he asked for Yi to comment on his mindset, like his view of life, how he sees things

He received 19.1.3.4 to 32

That was the only question he felt he needed to ask…he felt passionate about the thunder and the wind and felt like this reading justified his reasoning completely when reading the interpretations from Wilhem and LiSe…

When I first came back he had promised he would not be abusive and would do all kind of things… made a long list….instructed the children to be loving to me and stop being so disrespectful towards me...and all things lovely….then things happened, time passed, he saw that I wasn’t going back to who I was... and he became increasingly disrespectful and in denial of being an abuser completely, barely anything on the list has been completed…had promised to go to couples therapy, now refuses, hates me going to my weekly women’s group therapy, like I said, is in complete denial of being an abuser (totally common) and thinks I did this or that (the major sins I committed to him in his mind) and he responded abusively in the past when he should have left, but hates being labeled abusive and me sharing anything about his personal life with strangers….

How should I move forward now – 41.1.6 to 7
(with him being disrespectful towards me)

What do I do…honestly, what do I do, not sure the direction to go…(asked this on 2 different occasions) – 34.3.4 to 19….also…50.2.6 to 62

More challenges…..I’m feeling like this is one miracle that is definitely not happening…

How do I communicate with him now (about separating)

57.5 to 18

Comment on me –

Leaving and getting myself settled- 48.3.5 to 7

Having him removed from the home and getting myself settled – 27.1.5 to 20


Describe my future if we –

Stay together

(64uc) several weeks ago….asked again recently ….58.1.2 to 45


Separate

( 56. 3.5 to 12) several weeks ago …9.1.2 to 53…again recently)


Comment on my conduct ….13.3 – 25
Who is he to me? 32uc…
Best way to show him respect – 22uc
Just this morning…what is developing now ?…(he’s vexed, is saying we are just cohabitating, is gaslighting, claims he's nobodys punching bag..….18.3…

Thank you.
 

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This is an update post to an old ongoing saga... but first, I've been away from reading everyone elses questions and posts here and I just hope you all are doing well; I've thought of you often, all of you iching lovers of the world, I pray you are all blessed and guided....so 6 months later here we are. So much has happened, my goodness. I kicked his ass out. I'm so over him. I'm in the angry phase. Im so f***** mad for wasting my life and contributing in the abuse towards my children by letting such a f****** monster even look at me, much less invade my whole self with his sick evil demonic being. I don't know what I was thinking....ever....all this time...no wonder all of you were like, hello you're being abused dummy, like wake up....totally was. I can't believe I believed what I did...I was so fearful and stuck. But Im not anymore. So I had left in February, came back (me leaving had hit him over the head with a cinder block and he swore change forever and all kinds of bs and promises) nothing changed, the cycle continued, but I was powerful and would cite every little thing he was doing that was controlling and wrong and ignorant and a misteaching...it was exhausting. I continued to go to my women's group and get educated on everything....the next steps, what other women were doing, legal stuff, child custody stuff, all that. An incident ensued and I filed for a temporary restraining order. The cops made him leave. Then the children rose up in mutiny against me and it's been a very tough fight. I ended up lifting the first one to give yet another chance, but filed for another a week later after another incident. I had learned not to play with this, that I needed to follow through and get the final restraining order, it's basically the only protection and real power I had against him. I wrote down 20 years of abuse and documented it. My free lawyer from the women's center edited that down, all the courts really go on for the FRO (final restraining order) is physical abuse, but, wow, it was something to see in writing and that felt great to do. It's published...all this testimony right here with all of you and also in the court of law in my state. I'm wrapping this up. So I had the FRO and still he's beggin for a place to live and the kids were giving me so much pressure that I was using the FRO to control him. He was on his best behavior, but stilllllll living here. But he couldn't help himself and I couldn't give a f*** and was doing any and everything I pleased...coming and going however I wanted because all I had to do was call the cops and say he was there and he's arrested. This was obviously too much for him and he was abusing the best he could, begging me to drop the FRO. But I knew I couldn't, but it was also uncredible of me to still have him in the home with this legal order, I had just attested to all his abuse, wtf was I doing? So pressure was building (from child protective agency) to either drop it or make him leave...I wanted to. But I just couldn't justify it to the kids (none of them think I was really being abused, they think he's a hero and I'm trash because he taught them to be abusive to me as well over all this time) and they were pressuring me. I left out a detail about my 2nd oldest daughter physically attacking me during this, which was a big thing also. I had a moving conversation one morning with my mom after I had went to the park really early for a walk by myself and I was there for a few hours talking to her...and I knew that I had to end it and make him get out. I had just discussed that very topic in my women's group....asked each of them, how did you do it? like what was it to get him to finally leave or how did it finally end for you. It was eye opening....I learned that night that it has to be me to pull the trigger. They never leave...you have to make them completely. Each woman told me a brief detailed account of what they did. I already knew a lot about each of their stories, but I didn't know the final time that person was then no longer ever with them. So during that conversation with my mom I realized that everything not working out was because I still had him around. I decided to wait for another sign...well that was easy. He was vexed as soon as I got there because I had been gone so long and wasn't answering his calls. I told him right then that he had to get out today, he started talking stuff and I said, immediately actually, like this f***** second. More drama after that, but that was August 12....today is September 27th and it's been that long since he's been here. I've seen him and heard from him....so many typical abuser things....he was dying, still trying to manipulate me from his hospital bed. Just crazy things. Tomorrow he has court. I'm dropping my witness statement off to them in the morning....the judge wants to know how this makes me feel, what challenges Im dealing with because of what he's done to me, what do I recommend as his sentencing....he has court because he violated the TROs and FRO....he needs mental help. He is claiming now that he was possessed and has been saved. I think he needs medication....maybe he was posessed. I'm not sure. But my children are screwed up big time. Angry little tyrants. I maybe can save most of them, but I have to be careful not to stress myself out too much. I have been doing so much since August the 12th. They are all in school now and yesterday was the little ones' first day of daycare. I'm on the verge of losing my job because of so much mayhem and craziness, plus the lack of production for so long. But tomorrow will be the first day I will be dropping them all off on time and then I can go to work (I work remotely) and actually do work. I feel incredible, but also I have a lot of self confidence issues and just thwarted negative thinking. But I'm on the mend guys, big time. In fact, I'm really discovering self love and I'm just tapping the surface. I feel like I'm capable of so many more amazing things. The day to day has been an action movie, I mean, so many problems, every single day, it's been relentless. I'm not even sure how to open my mind to think of what is possible....but one day at a time. I'm lightyears away from that last dumb post I made, thank goodness none of you entertained that. I'm thinking about my future, the future for my children, a new love so amazing I hope it exists, and how to get there....
 

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Angry little tyrants. I maybe can save most of them, but I have to be careful not to stress myself out too much.
That's the point. You've put 20 years to deal with your husband. Don't put the rest of your life for your children. Live your own life as much as you can.
 

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Don't put the rest of your life for your children. Live your own life as much as you can.
:???: Surely if you have young children, you chose to have them, you owe them everything as you bought them into the world and so you are responsible for them regardless of what they are like.

Adult children over 18 are a different matter but those being called 'tyrants' here may be very young and so their needs are paramount. I mean I don't think a person would have 10 children unless they were very keen to raise children (that is if they live in a country where contraception is easily available) and so having bought them to the planet it is clearly the parent's job to nurture them not label them 'tyrants'.

Also aren't there twin babies involved, I think I recall that from way back up the thread or maybe it was a very young baby and so when there are also 5,6 7 year olds then just walking off to 'live your own' life would be irresponsible not to mention unrealistic.

Perhaps you could remind us of the ages of your children Veronica. A single parent with 11 children probably doesn't have a great deal of time to write long posts here but a brief recap of their ages might help...or we could re-read the whole thread I guess.
 
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First of all, I never said she should leave the children and go away. I don't see why you had such a take of my comment. I said "as much as you can", which means beside responsibilities and so on.

Secondly, she has already taken the custody of children and done many things for them. She is a responsible person in my eyes despite all difficulties. But I don't agree that she should sacrifice all her life and career for them.
It's unrealistic to expect her- or every other mother- not to never get angry on her children. And I don't think children are angels who can't be called tyrant after having treating you horribly.
 

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First of all, I never said she should leave the children and go away. I don't see why you had such a take of my comment. I said "as much as you can", which means beside responsibilities and so on.
True, you did say 'as much as you can'. My point was looking after one child and having a job as a single parent is hard, having two children and a job as a single parent is harder and so the very concept of 'live your own life as much as you can' with 10 or 11 children just doesn't seem even faintly realistic. I know people with 2 school age children and jobs with both parents there and even they can't just live their own lives hardly so with this many little children I think even the goal of 'living your own life as much as you can' is just not real. When you have lots of small children then you do not, cannot, just 'live your own life as much as you can' and afterall if you did want to just live your own life why would you have 10 kids anyway. I do not see the concept of 'your own life' with this many small children. For one thing there isn't the time.

With that many children they are your life, you can't just have them and then go off and live your own life that is your life.
 
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:???: Surely if you have young children, you chose to have them, you owe them everything as you bought them into the world and so you are responsible for them regardless of what they are like.

Adult children over 18 are a different matter but those being called 'tyrants' here may be very young and so their needs are paramount. I mean I don't think a person would have 10 children unless they were very keen to raise children (that is if they live in a country where contraception is easily available) and so having bought them to the planet it is clearly the parent's job to nurture them not label them 'tyrants'.

Also aren't there twin babies involved, I think I recall that from way back up the thread or maybe it was a very young baby and so when there are also 5,6 7 year olds then just walking off to 'live your own' life would be irresponsible not to mention unrealistic.

Perhaps you could remind us of the ages of your children Veronica. A single parent with 11 children probably doesn't have a great deal of time to write long posts here but a brief recap of their ages might help...or we could re-read the whole thread I guess.
I have 12 children in truth, I may have said 10 whenever....I call them tyrants as a way to describe their current behaviors due to the trauma they have endured. Part of the abuse I suffered was not having access to birth control, not having a choice to use it. Have you been educated on domestic violence ? Or experienced it yourself? It's hard to make sense of why anyone would stay or endure to someone who's never experienced it, I can't explain it right now to you. I agree it's a parent's job to raise their children and love them. I had 12 children not because I was very keen to raise them. I was trapped in an abusive relationship and I was F***** like a dog. Now it's my responsibility to stand up to what the Creator blessed me with based on my actions, choices, etc....Mary makes a very appreciated point, much more sensitive to what I'm going through then you Trojina. She's right. It's actually very fundamental, self-preservation first, so it's not that unbelievable or shameful. It's necessary. They are being abusive to me in my home. They need a lot of support. It's fair to say they are tyrannical in nature at the moment. It's not a situation that I can easily manage and you've never seen their force individually or as a unit that were trained day in and out to be disrespectful towards me. As pathetic as I've sounded in these posts, I'm incredibly strong and relentless myself so, it'll be fine, but I must be sure to take extra special care in so many ways. You strike me as someone who maybe has no children? Well, the ages, if you care to know for your own curiosity, are......
18= the oldest
16
14
11
10
9
7
6
4
2 1/2 x 2 = the twins
1 = the baby
It's good to have tough questions because I'm not trying to live in the victim mentality. I own all of this.
 

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True, you did say 'as much as you can'. My point was looking after one child and having a job as a single parent is hard, having two children and a job as a single parent is harder and so the very concept of 'live your own life as much as you can' with 10 or 11 children just doesn't seem even faintly realistic. I know people with 2 school age children and jobs with both parents there and even they can't just live their own lives hardly so with this many little children I think even the goal of 'living your own life as much as you can' is just not real. When you have lots of small children then you do not, cannot, just 'live your own life as much as you can' and afterall if you did want to just live your own life why would you have 10 kids anyway. I do not see the concept of 'your own life' with this many small children. For one thing there isn't the time.

With that many children they are your life, you can't just have them and then go off and live your own life that is your life.
This is very true as well. But the abuser actually used to say that...that I could have no life because of the number of children...so I wholeheartedly disagree and its all about coordinating and getting support. Its amazing actually how much my life, my personal life is just beginning. Being so hands on and involved with the children is already very rewarding even though it's been very, very hard.
 

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Veronica,

I understand well how you may be persuaded to live the way you don't want or do the things you don't believe in/have no clue about in an abusive relationship. You even don't need to be fully brainwashed/gaslighted/threatened or be madly in love.

All you need is to have someone enter your life who pushes your buttons or traps you. It can happen to everyone and may seem weird or unbelievable from outside. In particular when you're young and inexperienced, which I see you were when you started your relationship with this man. If the man's abusive behaviour is acceptable in your environment - immediate or in large scale -, or you are simply unaware of the patterns, then it's super hard to free yourself.

I know this because my so-called relationship nearly leading to marriage was with a pathetic guy who seemed pretty normal at first but after a point started to smash my self confidence and pressure me to be and do as he wanted. At first he said he was OK with me the way I was, later he became controlling in a scary way. He was unstable. Talking you normally now, then calling you to yell at you and threaten you half an hour later. I guess it was his strategy to control me. Once he said he wanted to end things, I accepted and never allowed him to come back. He became creepy and threatening again for some time before leaving me alone.

Needless to say it left me scarred for years.

The trauma and transformation you go through the abuse isn't visible to outsiders. I am from Middle East as I mentioned earlier. Here it has been the norm for women to wear Hijab, obey their husbands, not work outside home and not have any social life outside the family until recent years. Men have been expected to have "Gheyrat" (a combination of honour and jealousy) and control their women totally. People from older generations lived like that. So when I talked about the guy's controlling ways it wasn't a big deal for them. It was about a decade ago and fortunately the trends have consideraby changed since. However the old habits die hard. The strangest answer I received was from a female university professor who said this guy behaved like that because he wanted to be the centre of my life and I should have spinned around him as a moth does around flame🤣🤣🤣

I dropped the idea of marriage altogether after this incident.

Yes, I wonder if I find someone someday and have asked the I Ching about it, but that's more of wishful thinking. If people try to introduce me to a man whose intention is marriage I just run.
 
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