"What are they planning to do?" 23, 3

[teal]

It's regarding the place where I live. "They" in question are one of my sisters and her son. She owns the place. I told a little about my nephew in another thread about the disappearance of a cat, and whether he played a role. (I still don't know).

A few months ago, her son moved in to a shack nextdoor on the property. Now she is here for hours everyday doing yard work, and they both are definitely taking over the place in a very blatant way. They barge into the house without knocking, etc. They have gotten increasingly high-handed, and they do all kinds of things without asking or even warning us. And I see them talking intently to eachother about something that they don't let me in on.

23, 3rd changing line to 52. Looks ominous!
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Edit to add:

I live in the house with my mother. She has a life estate, which means my mother is basically the owner until she dies, and has "the right to quiet enjoyment". Mom allowed me to live with her, but nobody ever asked her if the young man could move in...he just moved on in.

My sister and her son are absolutely not respecting the life estate contract right now, but so far my mom hasn't protested. I feel that I have very little say in the matter, except to stand up for my mom's rights. But nobody has really discussed anything openly. There seems to be a lot of secrecy and passive agressiveness.

I hesitate to post too much details on the internet, but it is relevant to my question.

 

[pocossin]

What are they planning to do?
23 .3 > 52

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Hexagram pictures: Bed, Taotie Inverted

Overall judgment: They are anticipating the death of mother when they will acquire the property, that is, when the home (23) will firmly (52) be theirs.

23I
The mountain rests on the earth:
The image of Splitting Apart.
Thus those above can ensure their position
Only by giving generously to those below.

This may be your mother's circumstance. As the holder of a life estate, she is responsible for maintaining the value of the property, including yard and shack. If your mother is unable to do this work, then she is indebted to your sister for doing it.

Families splitting apart over inheritance are a tragedy. Is there no way you could come to an understanding with your sister? Your sister probably resents your living in 'her' house. You are a help to your mother. Is your sister aware of the things you do?

 

[willowfox]

What are they planning to do Hex 23.3 > 52


Line 23.3 is quite nasty, as it indicates that you are all connected, here it is a family connection, but at odds with each other. So there's going to be a lot more problems from your sister and her son in the months to come as it suggest that they now want that house and property for themselves.

Hex 52 is even more specific, she doesn't want to see you and your mother there any longer.

"She goes out into the yard and doesn't want to see her family."(Wilhelm)

 

[pocossin]

I forgot to ask. Is your mother's residence two story or split level?

 

[teal]

Willowfox, the part about standing in the yeard and not wanting to see family, is that someone's actual translation? Or is that how you see this particular case?

I forgot to ask. Is your mother's residence two story or split level?

It is a small, single story house on about 3 acres. I can tell you, "splitting" describes the people, not the structure of the house.

Hex 23 seems to be about a house "splitting apart", which is pretty amazing. The "house" imagery is mentioned quite a lot in 23, as well as upheaval. I take it that the "superior men" in question are the family members who recognize her life estate and would like to see her rights respected. The "inferior men" are my sister and her son, who don't seem to think they need to respect her right to the life estate. But there is also the message that there really is nothing that can be done about it at this point that would make the situation better.

That sister and her son obviously think this is their place, and they don't care who they piss off (none of the other siblings are happy about what's going on). Although, I wouldn't doubt that she has misinformed her son about who really has the legal right here. It's possible the young man truly believes he's the lord of this place.

My sister has become the most manipulative, passive agressive person I know. She puts on a mask of fake niceness, and keeps all her plans secret, but most people figure her out eventually. She is extraordinary for having so many people who dislike her! Her husband is also a materialistic, passive aggressive creep, but at least he has some friends. I don't think she has a single friend right now. She complains about how hateful people are towards her, which is ironic, because I'm pretty sure she is the original source of the nastiness in most of those cases. The only person who might possibly consider her "a friend" --and this is a stretch-- is the woman who works for her in her office a few hours a week. She and her husband are clearly not in love, but they don't divorce because their shared finances are too messy.

I'm actually kind of afraid of saying anything directly to her. Even seemingly innocent questions that I ask in conversation (yes, we try to put on cordial conversations) make her turn to ice and I get a b***s*** answer or a non-answer.

I am the youngest sibling of 5, and by several years too. So I'm used to having a lower status among the siblings. It's hard for me to stand up to her, but, I keep the other siblings informed about what's going on, and they aren't happy. The "splitting" is also about the whole family splitting and taking sides, and the creation of enemies.

My mom told me she wants to move out, and that they can "buy her out". But she hasn't told this to my sister yet. I think that's what will happen.

Thanks for the discussion. It really helps.

 

[teal]

What are they planning to do Hex 23.3 > 52
Line 23.3 is quite nasty, as it indicates that you are all connected, here it is a family connection, but at odds with each other. So there's going to be a lot more problems from your sister and her son in the months to come as it suggest that they now want that house and property for themselves.

Hex 52 is even more specific, she doesn't want to see you and your mother there any longer. "She goes out into the yard and doesn't want to see her family."(Wilhelm)

The situation does seem to be accelerating.

I used to do a lot of gardening, but now if I try to plant anything, it gets dug up and put back in a pot, which seems to be a real control-freak issue on their part. My sister's idea of yard work is not about beautifying the place, but more about taking out aggression..?

Our nicest neighbor complained to her about the appearance of the yard, after she cut down so many trees. She got her revenge by having a big bonfire, every single day for a couple of months, and having the smoke go directly his way. Then her son came home with 4 piglets. The pig pen just happens to be very close to the neighbor who she now hates, and there is a wind current blowing across.

 

[pocossin]

My mom told me she wants to move out, and that they can "buy her out".

I think your mom needs legal advice. Your sister's trespasses could be easily stopped, but your mom would have to complain. If instead she wants to sell her life estate, she'll need representation for that too. One of your siblings might be willing to speak to her about this. I had a great aunt who was dispossed of her life estate by psychological pressure and ended the last decade of her life in poverty, dependence, and humiliation. Family can be cruel.

 

[willowfox]

Willowfox, the part about standing in the yard and not wanting to see family, is that someone's actual translation? Or is that how you see this particular case?

Yes it is an actual/partial translation plus it correlates with my thoughts about your sister.

She wants you out, and Hex 23 is about nasty people like her taking over the castle bit by bit until you have no place left to call your own. She obviously considers the whole place hers.

And as for the cat, could well have been poisoned because if it dies naturally you would have found it by now, the smell would have lead you to it.