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Hi everyone, so this is about the recent split I had with my ex..
I still feel an ache in my heart and there's not a day I don't think about him and miss him.
I want to get over him, but another part tells me not to.

I know I need to focus on my own happiness, but it feels like the more I do that the more I am being led away from him..

I'm in class right now so this must be quick, but I got
hex 30.1.3>35

Any help would be great thanks

Megan:bows::bows:
 

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Are u not paying attention in class??!
I answer only cos I can relate especially line 3 works for me today as LiSe say:
Moments fly past like birds. You will have to catch them right now, to enjoy something when it happens, to seize an opportunity, to realize a flash of insight. Life is full of those bright little birds.
If you can seize them and care for them, they may turn into big things, feeding your life and soul. The sum of all those small things will make your life to a bright and shining one.
The mind can discern and catch those moments. It filters out what is
not relevant by letting it slip through the net. The Bright Birds are what is relevant and visible.

Seize the day, live in the moment, do what makes you happy, enjoy little things in life.
Initial 9 : Treading is staggeringly. Respect it. Without fault.
It is not necessary to be perfect. Everybody recognizes a serious attempt and an honest effort. It is better to show a clumsy truth than a fake show.

You are doing the best you can. At least you are honest with yourself about your feelings. It is a good thing.
9 at 3: The Bright Bird of sunset. Not drumming on jars and singing, then big laments of old age. Pitfall.
If you are not able to use little events as cause for joy, happiness or togetherness, difficult times will be a disaster for you. Useless things can be extremely useful in another realm of consciousness, so open your eyes and look for them. If your heart stays young and open, so will you.

Routine, meganj and dragona, routine can help you going through the rough day (like paying attention in class)...discipline and routine.... they will show some results in the end, will make you proud and there will be the time to be happy again.
How does this sound? I have to get going, also :hug:
 
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Hi everyone, so this is about the recent split I had with my ex..
I still feel an ache in my heart and there's not a day I don't think about him and miss him.
I want to get over him, but another part tells me not to.

I know I need to focus on my own happiness, but it feels like the more I do that the more I am being led away from him..

I'm in class right now so this must be quick, but I got
hex 30.1.3>35

Any help would be great thanks

Megan:bows::bows:
I know how you feel: Trying to get over someone, and move on, sometimes just doesn't feel right; it makes us feel we are moving away from the deepest part of ourselves. :(

There are 2 possibilities in these situations:
1. We really must move on, but it will take time. Not easy for any of us.
2. We may need to temporarily move on, and wait for a phase 2 of the situation.

Either way, things can only be healthy if we get moving.

Your reading:

You need to separate from him. You will get used to the loss.

line 1: Your steps are uncertain, but if you are sincere, all shall be well.
line 3: You need to embrace health and joy----too much grieving him will either:
a. lead you down a bad path or
b. cancel out the possibility that he may be drawn back to you.

H35: New advancement, opportunities. The horses referred to here are health and energy. Multiply these. Hang in there. You will get over him: Either for good, or for now. Recall, Hex 30 says, "That which is bright rises twice." You may in fact know him again, on future, better terms. But you need to prepare, right? and if not for him, then for someone else . :rofl:
 

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Hi everyone, so this is about the recent split I had with my ex..
I still feel an ache in my heart and there's not a day I don't think about him and miss him.
I want to get over him, but another part tells me not to.

I know I need to focus on my own happiness, but it feels like the more I do that the more I am being led away from him..

I'm in class right now so this must be quick, but I got
hex 30.1.3>35

Any help would be great thanks

Megan:bows::bows:

LOL haven't read other answers but Yi isn't sympathising. 30.3 is generally stop moaning and get on with living....infact its always that in my experience.

30.1 its early days...just get moving, things will get clearer


But Yi isn't really playing ball with "my heart aches" here...its like 'oh c'mon don't weep and wail...beat your pot...life is short, don't moan'. 30.3 is a line that almost mocks ones suffering...tells you to get a grip. It always comes up when someone is feeling a situation is much worse than it is. It advises you not to waste time in self pity or mourning...imagine its your last day on earth...just live it


Its a pretty simple direct answer and I think the 35 as relating shows you making good progess in life now....whatever you think to the contrary
 

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Oh you.
I can think of a few ways the yi is telling me to get over him through this reading and that is one of them trojan.
And that was very nice dragona, I have been doing that, keeping myself busy all the time what with my volunteering and job subbing at the school here plus trying to work out, and then beading.
Doing anything I can to take my mind off him, but it's not like I think about him, it's just a feeling I get that he's gone.
Getting used to not seeing him and talking to him everyday is taking some getting used to, it's hard but I'm doing it!
 

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honey, don't expect to get over him overnight - that just isn't possible. As long as you accept that the decision to split was the right one (do you?) and that moving on is a long and painful process that DOES eventually come to an end - then it will feel easier.
 

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yup in 10 years time you will think why did i turn myself
inside out for that guy ? - go do the most precious
thing you have - YOUR life :hug:

and the truest truism of all - if something is truly yours
you cant lose it - it will come back. I seem to think i
have spent my whole life learning that nothing is really
that serious (except losing your health)

go love as you have never loved before and if you love
a thing let it go - if its yours it will come back

CHIN UP
 

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Aww I got a big lump in my throat reading that hopex!
I was just thinking today, that the only thing I can do is make myself better.. learn from my jealousy/ anger and find strength in my independance.


and precision- its a tough thing I think it is the right thing and how he didnt really fight for this but then another part is questioning this.. You know the what ifs and stuff.
I thought that was it for me like he was going to be the last one.. but it turns out it wasnt.
I know the beginning starts with my thoughts so i'm minimizing thoughts of him and just negativity in general, it seems this will be a slow process but ill get there.

:rolleyes:
 

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and the truest truism of all - if something is truly yours
you cant lose it - it will come back. I seem to think i
have spent my whole life learning that nothing is really
that serious (except losing your health)
CHIN UP

Yes, someone should be telling that to me every other day...not to take things too seriously..but when you have to struggle to get anything and seems it comes to you twice as hard than to others, you tend to put up a fight of keeping it...and you end up fighting it with yourself.
So it made me thin, megan - why doing anything deliberately...just except thing are as they are and go on with other things...not fighting any feelings, just accepting and letting them pass...because the only thing that stays the same is that everything changes
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?...15405578.57501.246619938739669&type=1&theater oh, the luxury :rofl:
 
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i had a cat who actually did that...all day :rofl:
 

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XD oh that is too cute and funny!!

But yes fighting for the things you love and need most are what matters and makes life fulfilling:)

I am keeping in mind all the lovely things you people are saying, and it is definately helping, I feel alot more calm thinking about these things.:hug:
 

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But yes fighting for the things you love and need most are what matters and makes life fulfilling:)
Just to be on the clear side, I meant that if we come by good things in life-or what we recognize as such-rarely, we may tend to clutch it rather then let it breathe...sure, in general, we know better but things happen and we end up regreting and overly thinking it.
 

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