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What can I do to meet a woman? 44.3.5.6 - 40

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Hello all. Line 6 seems to imply I try hard but other than that I'm not sure! Any help with this one please? Thanks. PS. My context is an expat living abroad and getting a bit lonely
 
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Hi , since 44 can represent a strong but unruly and assertive woman, how does that relate to your question? Do you like or fear or tend to attract women like that? Or do you happen to meet women like that? I see line 5 as advice , line 3 as your situation as an ex pat (walking with difficulty) and line 6 as what not to do (or maybe the kind of woman not to attract). Your deliverance (hexagram 40) will come from line 5, whatever that means to you. Letting grace and good luck favor you by wrapping your intentions for love in a beautiful cocoon.
 

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Many thanks for that! Not sure if its relevant but the description sounds a bit like my ex, and often when I asked about her I received 44. Thanks
 

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Hello again, just as a follow up on this pls, perhaps its suggesting a strong woman would suit me? However should I take literally the description of 44 about the woman in 44 being unsuitable?
 

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Maybe you can ask the iching what kind of woman you need now the most ?! :)
 
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Hi, since 44 was associated with your ex, it sounds like you do like women who are bold and strong. Such a woman is not one to marry ONLY If the negative attributes, of being that kind of woman,
thwart you in your romantic life (e.g. if she is overly bossy ).
The iching is counseling you, perhaps, to release any attraction you may have to an unsuitable partner (hexagram 40) -- or any lingering concerns about your ex -- so that a new woman will arrive.
I would look more closely at line 5 since it is both puzzling and auspicious.
On a practical note, being an ex-pat, what steps can you take to meet single and available women? good luck with it.
 

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Thanks I will think about it. BTW I asked what kind of woman I need now and got 39.1.3.5-24. So hopefully I will get some help as in line 5 of 39. Thanks
 

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MSmith,

I think this is simple and direct advice from the Yi regarding your quest for a partner.

H.44 is veering toward a sexual union rather than some of the more marriage/union-based hexagrams so I guess sexual relations is high on your bucket list, though correct me if I'm wrong. It's not mutually exclusive after all.

Either way, line 3 offers an image of "buttocks without flesh" (pretty graphic huh?) which simply shows you that although this is a difficult situation causing some heartache and frustration persistence will pay off if you keep striving. However, the kicker is that it may mean changing the way you approach this quest otherwise it's going to affect you negatively if it hasn't already.

Line 5:

"Using willow to wrap melons.
Containing [cherishing] a thing of beauty,
It comes falling from its source in heaven."
(Wilhelm)

Hence Line 5 gives an indication that although the striving is natural ("no mistake") it's necessary to approach a potential encounter/relationship with due respect for feminine power inherent in the hexagram itself (and all that this can bring with it!) What you have here is a potential "thing of beauty" within yourself that will naturally attract the reflection externally, IF it is allowed to incubate and come to fruition - like the ripe fruit that it is.

I've found this line to be very reassuring although there is often a time-lag. In other words, what you seek can certainly come about but only if you strike a balance between a pragmatic approach and a sincere letting go. The latter is very important.

I think if you continue to send out signals of desire over and over (i.e. "I haven't got what I want and why the hell not?") then it will interfere with the reciprocity of the return signal creating layered "static" if you will. Your intent has already been received, now you just have to prepare the ground within yourself and let the signal return to you. How many times have you heard people say that once they forgot about it, released the promise of the new, suddenly this job or opportunity arrived? But we have to divest ourselves of that pesky anticipation that causes all that interference. I suppose it requires trust in the seemingly hidden life processes in which we are deeply embedded.

Line 6 and line 3 often go together in my experience and indicate that you're engaging with the object of your desire a little too hard. No harm done. So, overall, I think there's no reason why you can't find yourself a woman. I don't know your logistical situation and whether or not you are isolated but there has never been an easier time for meeting women /meeting men in my view. How successful that meeting becomes is another question of course. But I'm sure there is a way to engage that can be pro-active but without too much anticipation/identification with the outcome.

Good luck and keep us posted.
 
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Hello all
Just as an update, I did meet a lady recently and we have started dating. It is true I prefer a relationship with as little stress as possible and of course there is a sexual element but am looking more for companionship tbh. It is interesting as my new gf is another strong woman type (very much hex44) and looking back most of my girlfriends have been like this or tomboys when they were young kind of thing. We get on well but it’s a little rocky so I’m still not sure if a 44-type woman is suitable for me or if the IC is warning me off these types!? Just thought I would share this.
Thanks.
 
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