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whitelily

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Hi! I feel that I have allowed an unhealthy dynamic in my relationship. My bf lost his housing last Feb, and came to live with me and my two roommates, creating much strain. Despite him managing to save a chunk of money to move out, he has remained underemployed, with no effort to get an additional or dif job. He has been looking for housing for six weeks with no luck. There has been a lot of pressure to "take me with him", without the financial stability to actually do that(Ie, it's likely I would find myself in a lease I may or may not be able to afford, with no guarantee he would always be able to pay his share). I am feeling like I am being emotionally blackmailed("If you cared about me, you'd do x/y/z"). It was not the healthiest living situation here before he had this emergency about a year ago, and both my roommates are feeling taken advantage of--none of us wants to kick him out on the streets(shelters full), and he refuses to ask for family help.
My question was twofold: am I being used at this point? What can I do to resolve this for everyone's sake?
So I'm feeling that the answer is you took on more than you could handle in a housing situation, and to let it go on as is will end in the insecure structure crashing down.
I'd appreciate any insight others may have, thanks!
 

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Having thought about this for a few days, believe I am not being used by bf--he really is sincere. The problem being he's been dragging his feet about more /dif work, and one roommate ceaselessly agitating situation. If bf had as well as saved money(by living here) as well as added or changed up to a job that would cover housing costs in area when he or he and I moved, all would be well-43.1 saying "going forward without the strength to succeed". He's halfway there, but the maintenance aspect in a landlord's eyes, not.
 

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