what do I need to know about someone

[esolo]

There's a man who has expressed an interest in me. I'm not sure though about how good he would be for me. I have some reservations. So, I asked,

What do I need to know about him as a partner for me in a serious, long-term relationship?

I hope I phrased that well. I was trying to be very specific about what I want to know. IOW, he may care for me, he may fall in love with me...but how will he be as a partner for me?

1.5

‘Dragon flying in heaven.
Fruitful to see great people.’

Wow. That sounds very positive. I'm surprised.

I've always been puzzled though by hexagram 1. It's one of the hardest for me to interpret. It certainly looks like a very positive answer. However, I would appreciate a more in-depth view.

Thank you.

 

[moss elk]

hi,

1.5>14

line 1- Legge: In the first line, dynamic, we see its subject as the dragon (you) lying hid in the deep. It is not the time for active doing.

line 1- Wilhelm/Baynes: Hidden dragon. Do not act.

line 1-Blofeld: The concealed dragon refrains from action.

Confcious said:"There he is (me = you), with the powers of the dragon, and yet lying hid. The world cannot influence him, for he does not pander to its approval. He (you) lives withdrawn from the world without regret, and its disapproval doesn’t bother him. He (you) rejoices in this opportunity to further his work, but if circumstances do not favor this he can as easily retire. He cannot be separated from the source of his being. This is the dragon lying hid."

There is something about the timing or perhaps this person himself in relation to you that does not match you or your destiny.
The hidden dragon refer's to the emperor's son. (the qualities of a founder or leader: someone destined for greatness)

"I have some reservations. "
do not act when in doubt

 

[esolo]

It was line 5, not line 1.

To clarify...the moving line was 5.

 

[moss elk]

oh boy, i've had a long day. i will defer to another.
my apologies

 

[esolo]

No problem

 

[redarmada]

I think you're correct that it is a positive answer. You asked what you need to know- I think you're being told that he's "way up there" near the top of the list (haha), and it's fruitful to see him.
I think the fact that this is Hexagram 1, The Creative Force, suggests to me that you should seek to Create, that is, take action to express and expand the creative energy that is moving through you, and remember that the source of this is you- the "noble one, owing to his own strength"- don't make him into an idol, you're a dragon in your own right. Maybe that statement is unnecessary, but I think it's important to see Hexagram 1 as an expression not just of the impersonal creative force, but its manifestation in you.

This is a good sign, you know he's a good one for you, follow Heaven's banner

 

[esolo]

Thank you for offering your interpretation. I saw it as positive as well.

I see the guy as a bit of a player. That's why 1) I asked and 2) why the answer threw me off a bit. I may be wrong about him though. I don't know him very well. I've never been out with him.

OK, I'm not going to argue with the Yi

 

[esolo]

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[moss elk]

ok, i'm back.
(and not with a belly full of wine as i was last night: lesson learned!)

"What do I need to know about him as a partner for me in a serious, long-term relationship?"
You need to know that he possesses strength and virtues and will be influential in his work.

Now, if you haven't already, may I suggest you ask Hilary's:
"‘What kind of relationship could we create here? What’s the potential?‘"

I suggest this because, even though he has some great qualities,
that does not neccessarily mean you two are automatically compatible. (Though maybe you are..?)
many other factors could be in play: He may not wish to give up being a player for example.

 

[esolo]

Now, if you haven't already, may I suggest you ask Hilary's:
"‘What kind of relationship could we create here? What’s the potential?‘"

Well, I know the answer to that already.

Right now we can't create any type of relationship because he lives in another country a few hours flying from where I'm at. I don't have a lot of money to travel right now and I've just found a new job which will take me overseas for a month.

He has offered to pay half my ticket to visit him...but I need to get my affairs organized here first before I go there to see him. That will take a couple of months or so. So, we would have to work out the kinks in that before there could be any potential.

If there's anything here it will take some time because we first met about 6 years ago and haven't seen each other since. We need to meet in person again to see how things go. So, this is very much in the preliminary stage.

I did ask this question though:

What is his attitude toward a potential long term romantic relationship with me?

54.3

‘Marrying maiden waiting,
Turns it round and marries as second wife.’

My interpretation is that he recognizes the limitations here and that rushing into something simply isn't possible.

Interestingly enough I asked a similar question earlier today: How does he see our relationship right now?

54.4

The Marrying Maiden draws out the allotted time.
A late marriage comes in due course.

They both speak about how things aren't right and one must wait because of this. That certainly fits the situation. My financial problems are putting this whole thing on hold.

I suggest this because, even though he has some great qualities,
that does not neccessarily mean you two are automatically compatible. (Though maybe you are..?)
many other factors could be in play: He may not wish to give up being a player for example.

Truthfully, I don't know if he's a player. He's very social, knows many people etc. I may be reading too much into that.

 

[moss elk]

Hey,

"Well, I know the answer to that already.
Right now we can't create any type of relationship because ...X"

~Does that mean that you already asked the question in question?

or does it mean more like:
"Things look very bleak and daunting at the moment, I dont feel very hopeful because...X"

 

[esolo]

Hey,

"Well, I know the answer to that already.
Right now we can't create any type of relationship because ...X"

~Does that mean that you already asked the question in question?

or does it mean more like:
"Things look very bleak and daunting at the moment, I dont feel very hopeful because...X"

I'm not sure what you mean.

OK, here's the situation...

Even though I've received some good answers about him as a person I have had doubts about having a serious relationship with him. He's 14 years younger than I am and I'm not sure that it would work because of that. I don't look older than he does but don't want to be the older woman. Also, he doesn't have any children and at my age it wouldn't be easy to accomplish that.

However, he is pursuing me. I have done very little to encourage him but he keeps coming back. He says that he doesn't care about the age difference and that it doesn't show. True, but I still know about it.

I asked about the potential here and got 30.3..which talks about lamenting about old age:

In the light of the setting sun, men either beat the pot and sing or loudly bewail the approach of old age. Misfortune.

Perhaps that's me worrying about it or perhaps that's the reality of it. Perhaps I'm simply too old for him.

Ok, because I went on at some length about my anxiety regarding the age difference I asked,

"What is his attitude toward the age difference between us?"

15.6

Modesty that comes to expression. It is favorable to set armies marching to chastise one's own city and one's country.

I have no idea how to interpret that given the question. If I had to guess I'd say that he was being truthful when he told me that he didn't care about the age difference. I'm not sure though. I find the line puzzling.

Finally, because I just had to ask...

"What does he feel for me?"

31.1

This one is easy. He's in the beginning stages of interest.