What do I need to understand about my lovelife right now? Hex 36.4.6 to 30

[dancingfox]

Hi folks

I am doing my best to not get disillusioned about my lovelife. As discussed in previous threads I've experiences some big lows when it came to dating and relationships. I am working on accepting myself, setting boundaries and not seeking validation outside myself... That doesn't mean I am not open to a new relationship. I only seem to attract men with the Peter Pan complex, never ready for the real deal

I get that I need to work on myself in order to attract a different kind of man. I am hoping to find some clarity or solace in this reading, something to hold on to.

So I asked the Yi: What do I need to understand about my lovelife right now? Hex 36.4.6 to 30

So at first glance I read this as a movement of the light. At 36 the light goes within. At 30 the light arises, moving from the darkness at 36. A transformation.

Line 4: Capturing the hearts intentions, and going out through the gate
Getting through the heart of the matter: getting to know my own heart, finding validation within myself instead of outside myself.

Line 6: 'Instead of light, darkness.'
Let go of judgement. There is no light without darkness. Not sure how to apply this line to my question? I know I have trouble trusting men after my negative experience in dating. Perhaps there is a warning or a lesson here, to not judge the men I will meet in the future by my negative past experiences.

So any insights on this reading?

 

[RemRem]

Hi dancingfox!

Here's my take:

Your question: What do I need to understand about my lovelife right now?
Your reading: 36.4.6 to 30

One image that reminds me of 36 is the sunset. And sunset in a beach or observable along a coast is picturesque and romantic. Are you seeing your lovelife in this manner? Perhaps the Yi is revealing the fact behind every sunset: it won't last long enough, but at least we enjoy watching the golden hour. You may have perceived your lovelife situation this way and nothing's wrong with it. Yet maybe it must have cost you a lot of mental effort that the light you expect from it does not shine that much. (This is Fire inside - the brightness you expect from your lovelife, compared to Earth outside, the somewhat dim reality.

The challenge here is to work on Line 4. Yes, adding up to what you shared, capture the heart seems to me an image of getting a grasp of the experience of love that is more from you than outside of you. I remember how well this is discussed on Erich Fromm's book, the Art of Loving - that love is not a problem of object but a problem of faculty; it is not finding whom to love or who would love you back, but being capable of how to love. Another thing, Entering to the left of the belly is an image of going into your gut, to the center of your power. (Not a coincidence if that's parallel to 3rd chakra, the solar plexus). And Line 6 is another challenge - dark is the default state of our inner bodies. No light comes inside. It might be the invitation to discover more of what is in you that you rarely explore, almost unseen because of the bright expectations you might have of what's outside.

Perhaps the call for you is to work on your lovelife from inside out. From 36 to 30, from hidden to greater clarity, that is cultivation of love as opposed to lovelife with someone. (raising the cattle) and bringing light to all aspects of your life, as you discover love in you.

I hope this helps. Cheers and blessings to you!

Rem

 

[redoleander]

Hi dancingfox!

I’ll try an interpretation although please keep in mind I am new.

Line 6 made me think of this by Wendell Berryhttp://www.ayearofbeinghere.com/2013/03/wendell-berry-to-know-dark.html

Line 4 is saying that you may need to keep an eye on your mind, that it might be prone toward focusing on the dark when actually you are ultimately trying to go toward the light. It strongly suggest you have the power to overcome this though or maybe even already have.

I think one possible interpretation could be to simply focus on the light so as to avoid the dark. That is not my interpretation though. I feel that this is saying “get to the heart of the darkness”(through the heart, not the mind) to a point where the heart wants to open to the light. feeling it at its full depth will help neutralize it while still not letting the mind get caught.

Line 6 talks about going into the earth next. I’m not sure but this might be about grounding, being in the body, really feeling your feelings? Practicing versus visualizing. (That part I’m not sure about)

it also talks about darkness entering the left side of the abdomen... so perhaps you need some kind of protection from negativity? energetically or otherwise. I’d be curious to hear from others any past knowledge on exactly what the left side of the abdomen signified at that time. apart from that, I’d read it as past vulnerability perhaps needing to be more healed.

I think this could be a very positive reading about facing things in a new and deeper way and overcoming. Wish you the best.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello,

Right now you meet people with serious flows, learn about it, leave the situation, and while you may have been swept up your feet at first, you get disappointed soon. Meanwhile, the hidden reality shows itself .

That's the picture of your love life now.

 

[dancingfox]

Hi Rem,

sorry for the late reply, I had a lot going on mentally this week.

About the sunset vs the dim reality:

Yet maybe it must have cost you a lot of mental effort that the light you expect from it does not shine that much. (This is Fire inside - the brightness you expect from your lovelife, compared to Earth outside, the somewhat dim reality.

This is something I recently learned about myself that I am still coming to terms with. In my case I wasn't actually falling for the person but an image I projected... or my own expectations of that person. It was draining to put so much of my energy into that projection (sunset). I am just starting to learn how to work with and cleanse my energy and I love how you connect the solar plexus/ personal power to line 4. I was giving my power away in my recent relationships. In line 6 an invitation to explore what's on the inside, something I can make room for if I face the challenge in line 4. Cultivating love within myself.

I think I'll have a look at this book from Erich Fromm.

Thank you for your insight, it is dead on. A true challenge for me to rise up to.

 

[dancingfox]

Hi Redoleander

Don't worry about being new! I have been exploring the I Ching since 2009 and I still feel like a beginner. You are braver then me, helping other people out with their readings. So thank you for taking your time and helping me out with your insights

I like what you said about getting to the heart of the darkness. This is how it feels to me right now. This is a lot like Rem's approach; exploring my inner darkness, see what's inside there. And my own approach, getting to know my hearts intentions...

I just finished reading Paulo Coelho's 'The Alchemist' and there is a passage where the boy learns to listen to the voice of his own heart. It got me thinking of ways to open up a conversation with my own heart

I agree this reading carries a positive message!

 

[dancingfox]

Hello,

Right now you meet people with serious flows, learn about it, leave the situation, and while you may have been swept up your feet at first, you get disappointed soon. Meanwhile, the hidden reality shows itself .

That's the picture of your love life now.

Hi Mary,

Also very true. I believe I am becoming quicker with seeing people for who they really are. Right now a bit of a lonely place to be.

Thanks for sharing!

 

[becalm]

I believe I am becoming quicker with seeing people for who they really are. Right now a bit of a lonely place to be.

Unfortunately that's what happens!! Less frustrating but it also means you're creating a better relationship with yourself so hopefully, eventually, you attract the best....

 

[RemRem]

Hi Rem,

sorry for the late reply, I had a lot going on mentally this week.

About the sunset vs the dim reality:

This is something I recently learned about myself that I am still coming to terms with. In my case I wasn't actually falling for the person but an image I projected... or my own expectations of that person. It was draining to put so much of my energy into that projection (sunset). I am just starting to learn how to work with and cleanse my energy and I love how you connect the solar plexus/ personal power to line 4. I was giving my power away in my recent relationships. In line 6 an invitation to explore what's on the inside, something I can make room for if I face the challenge in line 4. Cultivating love within myself.

I think I'll have a look at this book from Erich Fromm.

Thank you for your insight, it is dead on. A true challenge for me to rise up to.

No worries, dancingfox. I hope you've had your mental rest. This is so important this time, so we can have our mental flow and well-being. Take longer rest when you need.

About your reply, I'm glad to know that the insights have helped you. Yijing has been very helpful to me and to many friends and clients, and knowing how the text opens up our realizations is life-changing. And with such challenge as yours, Yijing is a powerful guidance.

About Erich Fromm, that to me is another life-changing book. A powerful book on Love. Yes, try to check it. I'm sure you'll get the insights you need just as I did years back.

I wish you all the best in your lovelife and journey. With the intention you have to face and rise up from this challenge, I'm sure things will change for the good.

Blessings!