what do you think of this hexagram? hexagram 22 unchanging

[diidii]

lately the hexagram 22 unchanging comes out very often, especially in the context of relationships! I got it a couple of times on questions about social success and I know it's very positive and full of advice but when it comes to relationship questions, like: how does that person feel "or with other love questions I struggle to frame it , what do you think of this hexagram?

 

[marybluesky]

Not sure didii, but I guess 22uc indicates a superficial relationship, something for the sake of appearance.

 

[diidii]

Not sure didii, but I guess 22uc indicates a superficial relationship, something for the sake of appearance.

do you have experience with this hex? I got it once when a ball popped up (in that case I interpreted it as a superficial thing that then disappeared) so it was! but in the realm of feelings or something else, how can appearances be applied? example: like when two show people are together just to hide their sexuality? therefore in the case of feeling it is said that it was all appearance but no substance

 

[marybluesky]

I meant a relationship with not much substance

 

[diidii]

I meant a relationship with not much substance

can it also be understood as wishful thinking? example: I want that person, but when it's time to approach them or make a gesture, you don't. sorry if I ask you so many questions but it's only because I would like to frame it at 360 ° I find it so mysterious

 

[legume]

well, social success is also something superficial, it's how others see or consider us. in terms of how does a person feel 22 would probably mean the person is working on looking good, on how they present themselves and so cares mostly about feeling good and maintaining this feeling, possibly through constantly looking for ways of approval / acceptance, even if it's not always apparent... that's my guess.

not sure if you mean you don't approach the person, but if so and your gut tells you not to, then that's for a reason and it's always better to trust your instincts.

can it also be understood as wishful thinking?

don't know to what question, but imho not really. i once asked if i'll have sex with someone and got 22 uc, we did have sex, it was nice, maybe beautiful even, but it was mostly about him and his insecurities. also had it long time ago re a relationship with another person who's quite narcissistic.

 

[moss elk]

There is the story of when Confucius got a 22 reading. They say his face blushed from embarrassment, because he was looking at appearances instead of seeing the substance/truth.

 

[diidii]

well, social success is also something superficial, it's how others see or consider us. in terms of how does a person feel 22 would probably mean the person is working on looking good, on how they present themselves and so cares mostly about feeling good and maintaining this feeling, possibly through constantly looking for ways of approval / acceptance, even if it's not always apparent... that's my guess.

not sure if you mean you don't approach the person, but if so and your gut tells you not to, then that's for a reason and it's always better to trust your instincts.



don't know to what question, but imho not really. i once asked if i'll have sex with someone and got 22 uc, we did have sex, it was nice, maybe beautiful even, but it was mostly about him and his insecurities. also had it long time ago re a relationship with another person who's quite narcissistic.

Were there any developments with that girl you did things with?

 

[legume]

Were there any developments with that girl you did things with?

you mean the guy i slept with? not really, we both needed it at the time, for different reasons, but then parted ways, it wasn't substantial. re the other person, we're still in contact, as we've known each other for ages, but it's pretty much an endless charade and to be completely honest, it doesn't serve me in any way, if anything only drains me of energy.