what effect did the letter i sent today have on us? 56.1.2 > 14

[einhorn]

hmm, 56 is all about being a loner. so it probably isn't going to help anything is it... unless the first or second lines say something else.

i thought maybe 56 to 14 represented a change from "sojourning" (traveling alone) to something better...

but then i asked "how does x feel about me and her now?"
12.2.3 > 44

man that's like the worst possible answer, isn't it!

altho i thought maybe 12.2 or .3 would be showing a change *away* from obstruction/obstacles... 44 is about a bad situation that must be prevented isn't it. so she thinks were a bad situation and getting back together should be prevented.

i tried to write the letter with honesty and everything without false pretenses (as suggested by hex 1 and 15). hmmm.

i asked earlier what would happen if i sent the letter today and i got 15.2.4 to 32.

any other ideas?

 

[einhorn]

geez, maybe it's just not in the stars.

what does the future hold for me and x?
44.3.4.5 > 4

describe the nature of the relationship between x and me at this point in time?
13 unchanging
(i thought this one might be good unless it means she's meeting a lot of men... lol...)

what should my actions be regarding x?
35.4 > 23
make progress at stripping away old and worn out things (like our relationship)?

 

[lucia]

Yes 56 is a loner but look at him he is "swimming in the sea" of great possession or talent and while he should try and get away from triviality or if it is really answering your Q she thinks some of your points are maybe pointless 56.1, the loner reached her as a friend 56.2 somewhere in this even if it is just passing through.

44 is often about obsession...... take it easy MR E although your heart is aching don't let it swamp you because that is neither good for your hopes or your day to day life. Do battle with that obsession it is not for hanging onto....

Lucia

 

[willowfox]

You just sent the letter, after being advised to do so, and now you seem to expect instant results. Have you never heard of the word "patience"?

When a person receives a letter concerning the rights and wrongs of an ex relationship, it takes time for them to think and digest your words. I cannot imagine her opening the letter and immediately jumping to the telephone, most people would take a while to consider all the ramifications of what you said.

And now, you are simply asking the same questions, again and again. This is not an attack but an observation.

 

[willowfox]

geez, maybe it's just not in the stars.

******Your stars are okay, its your mind that's the problem. Restless mind, repeated questions and the inability to slow down and listen.


what should my actions be regarding x?
35.4 > 23

Perhaps to stay still for the moment would be an excellent idea. You sent the letter, now it is up to her, either to reply or to ignore you. If you charge ahead like a raging bull then that will surely screw the whole deal.

Are you listening?

 

[einhorn]

You just sent the letter, after being advised to do so, and now you seem to expect instant results. Have you never heard of the word "patience"?

When a person receives a letter concerning the rights and wrongs of an ex relationship, it takes time for them to think and digest your words. I cannot imagine her opening the letter and immediately jumping to the telephone, most people would take a while to consider all the ramifications of what you said.

it was an email so i know she's gotten it. i feel like if i didnt get a response right away i wouldnt get one.

And now, you are simply asking the same questions, again and again. This is not an attack but an observation.

when i ask the same question again, it's usually after some variable has changed. like "based on this new info, what is happening now?"

 

[einhorn]

i got a reply today. she was basically like i appreciate you taking the time to write all that but i don't want to reply while im at work.

so i guess i'll wait for a reply. i guess it could go either way here.

 

[maremaria]

einhorn, does this thread and your 60>12 thread are about the same thing ? If yes, keep in mind that reading too.

 

[laylab]

i got a reply today. she was basically like i appreciate you taking the time to write all that but i don't want to reply while im at work.

so i guess i'll wait for a reply. i guess it could go either way here.

I hate to bear bad news but as a woman, thinking like a woman and taking into account everything you've said about the situation and your hexagrams: this kind of response means that she is just not interested enough anymore..she didn't have an emotional response to your letter, her response is detached and pragmatic.

I can relate to you, as I asked the same sort of question yesterday. Everything situation is different but there are almost always common components to them. You want/need some clarity, some communication/to undertand things and perhaps even yourself and your own reactions here. I think you are doing the right thing by being open and honest. If she doesn't respond to that, or can't empathize with how you must see, feel and experience the situation, then that is her problem ..not yours. You have done what you could do. At least, take comfort in your ability to ask the questions you need to ask. It was courageous and proactive.