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What he feel about me... 28.4.5.6 to 18

zumi

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Yesterday I asked about how he feels about me and got the hexagram 28.4.5.6. What struck me here is that the talk is about the old woman, I happen to be 3 years older than him, we are on and off, just like an old willow that has flowers, but now it is dead. So that's depressing to find out. The name of the hexagram Preponderance of the great is very confusing, just like lines. Line 6 means that I am very bold to the extreme, so that's why he doesn't want to be with me. And it all results in the hexagram 18, that I should repair this traits in me, meaning stop being very brave and stop wanting a young husband?
Please explain to me. Thank you very much.
 
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Hi zumi,

The "old woman" is just a metaphor, it doesn't really apply to your age. What strikes me immediately about your reading is: there seems to be too much stress around this relationship. Line 5 can represent someone exhausting him/herself without really achieving anything. And line 6 shows a lot of effort to overcome difficulties, really going through hoops.

I think that the question that you have to ask yourself is why this relationship is pictured this way, which is so hard and heavy. This is not quite a relationship should be isn't it?
 

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Thank you, mirian! Well, it started like a relationship, but later it has become push and pull from his side. Like we would come close and he would say, well, yeah, let's try again, I am sorry, etc. Just to leave me again a few weeks later. I am not clingy or overbearing, but I do want a relationship, and this is not happening. I asked what should I know about this relationship and got 54.1.3.4, which is precisely what is going on, just 4 line is confusing. :(
 
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Hex 28 to 18 happens to me when I am just trying too hard. Things are not in cooperation and are out if kilter
I think you should take a step back for a while and reevaluate somehow
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Well, I have decided to move on, today I will drop off his stuff to him and say good bye. I am exhausted emotionally :(.
 
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Thank you for letting me know this. I re read your question and it was asking what he thought of you. I was going to say that I think that you are trying too hard to work this out in a way - getting emotionally emptied

I think that this is a good decision on your part - and I think it was the direction the I Ching was hinting at...
Xx
 
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Hi zumi,
As you already said that you've decided to move on, looking at this reading it seems the right decision
54.1.2.4 shows that you have little input in this relationship and you end up accepting conditions well below what you want and deserve. As you asked about line 4, it is about someone who has plans delayed, dreams postponed, but it will all come to you when time is right. Happiness might be a bit late but it will come. :bows:
 

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Thank you, mirian for your answer about hexagram 54, and your kind words about my happiness :). I have decided to break it off, but in reality this is a symbolic gesture, that matters only for me because we are officially friends, but I can't keep his stuff in my apartment just to have him to call me for it someday, I have decided to take control over this situation. It's 54 that goes to 46, it's just confusing in the context of the question, how will I advance in this relationship, does the line 4 implies that even belatedly, he will come back and we will be together, but much later? Or is this line 4 and the resulting hexagram 46 explains only my advance?
 
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Hi zumi, sorry but line 4 is not saying that he will come back to you at a later date. Line 4 comes up when plans don't work at the present moment, when things fail to come to a good conclusion, but there is hope in the future. You will find your happiness, just not now, and it will probably have nothing to do with this guy. There is no advance to be done now.
 

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Thank you! I dropped his stuff yesterday, we gave each other a hug and said goodbye. I do feel that even if the advance will come, it will be later, since I need to get over all this. Also, since in my latest readings I have started getting a lot of resulting hexagram 14, I think in my situation, it means I will be rich with all these experiences from the life lessons that I had.
Thank you, everyone for your help!
 

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