What is the guidance of the Universe in my life?

[peace_prevails]

Q: What is the guidance of the Universe in my life?

Gua: #37 (Jia Ren) - Household with 4th line (yin) moving. Using Yarrow Stalk method.

Context: I am having struggles with my marriage and considering moving out of the house and separating, and divorcing not long after. The marriage is a classic 'drifting apart' and probably non-compatibility from the start. I realize that the question was probably too vague, but the thought of moving out is consuming my thoughts right now.

What does this mean? Are there other interpretations for #37. I also travel a lot - "One who is injured abroad is sure to return home."

"Men without. Women within" - Could this mean that I am supposed to be 'without' the household?

Many thanks to you all. Peace.

 

[peace_prevails]

I forgot to mention that the gua is moving to #13 - seeking harmony. My interpretation is that it would be good to move out, then seek harmony. But perhaps I am projecting and interpreting incorrectly.

 

[icastes]

37 in this situation is very strange, because 37 is about a woman keeping the family and household together. It's about doing your duty, and actually favors the woman staying in a marriage, not leaving it. The fourth line is about enriching the family. Normally, 37 shows very good harmony between the husband and wife. It is also not good for bringing about a great change at this time. It seems to be saying, stay and work out the marriage, rather than breaking up. As marriage and love are not the same thing--marriage is an institution after all--while 37 is good for marriage it doesn't provide love all that easily. It is possible if the woman properly does her work. Leaving your husband is also not recommended by 13, which, after all, is about maintaining harmony with others. Both gua show a very compatible marriage here. If this is the guidance from the universe, then both seem to say stay home and in the marriage. Avoid quarrels and disputes. I realize that this not the answer you want, but I think you ought to reconsider at this time and wait and see.

 

[arabella]

Sounds like a recommendation that counseling might work? Have you attempted that? I'd at least give it a try because divorce isn't a clean break as people think, but more like shredding. If there's this much to fall back on in Hexagrams 37 and 13 it would seem more hopeful than you may believe. Maybe traveling is causing part of the problem? Thinking here of "women in the home."

 

[peace_prevails]

thank you.

Thank you Icastes and Arabella.

I do see this a bit more clearly now. We have been in counseling but we will return again this week. I had been in quite a bit of a hurry to move on, but perhaps, based on this reading, and other signs in my life, it is good to take things a bit slow.

 

[arabella]

All good wishes with this, Peace, it's a huge decision what to do about a marriage and I really support the idea that, especially if it's not a "danger" problem, you take your time and know exactly why you make the changes that you do. No doubt, you will both be happier in the long run to have had good guidance. Very best of luck, Arabella

 

[peace_prevails]

Thank you arabella - all the best.

I'll come back later and update the post.