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hi everybody,

have been without a relationship for quite a long time, changing place where I lived, buinding up my social life, realizing many other things in my life, changing, understanding and getting aware of many otehr things, but always without a partner.
am quite at ease in my skin, and quite engaged, my life can be defined "full" and anything but mediocre, but now I got to a point where I am longing for love in my life.
I asked about the purpose of this period to IC and got 48.3 > 29?

9 at 3: The well is seeping, no drinking. It makes my heart ache. One might draw from it. The king is bright, together we receive its blessing.
If something does not work, then look at it from all sides, think about it, direct your attention to it. Solutions need fostering, they are not simply there or not. Even if you cannot figure out anything, if it has your attention, then out of nowhere some idea will come.

and the description of 29 I found is simply very beautiful, as I am working on my fears...and have been a master in hyper protecting myself...

"To get out of dangers or misery is not by solving problems. It is by leaving the fear. In the arts of fighting one learns to get used to danger, so it does not call up fear anymore, and defense can come entirely out of one's skill. No fear interfering.
Then one can be like water, adapting, fitting into any form. Water in a cup acquires the form of the cup, in a lake the form of the lake. It is smooth and flowing - and can be terribly crushing.
Deep inside one has a stable, quiet and safe core, but in the course of life, most people forget about it. Just remember and no danger can afflict you. Visit the dark secret depths of your heart and bring the wisdom of your soul back to life"

Any additional insight will be greatly appreciated!

lovely weekend,
lindorita
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If something does not work, then look at it from all sides, think about it, direct your attention to it. Solutions need fostering, they are not simply there or not. Even if you cannot figure out anything, if it has your attention, then out of nowhere some idea will come.

To me, and this is obviously influenced by my own metaphysics, I read this as suggesting that things do not have answers in them. Things, such as it talks about here, are just themselves. To ask the purpose or the meaning of a thing is incorrect. But to look at the situation in a manner completely undemanding of it- not asking or yearning for its Truth to reveal itself- will allow you to observe your relationship to that situation.

As such, do not demand the situation bring forth its meaning. What is the purpose of being alone? Instead redirect the question- we could even say be pragmatic- and ask what is your relationship to being alone. Ideas will come because Ideas don't belong to us, they are things in themselves as much as we are. In observing the relation you will find ideas running through it. Let them come to you.


Then one can be like water, adapting, fitting into any form. Water in a cup acquires the form of the cup, in a lake the form of the lake. It is smooth and flowing - and can be terribly crushing.

As it stands, asking the meaning and the truth is looking for a form...a cup. But whatever meaning and truth really is it negates forms, being beyond all forms. Partake of the stream of the situation, perhaps.

As I say, I am no expert and this should all be tempered with how you feel.
 
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Lindorita,

I like your question and your own ideas on your reading. I also think Parrhesiac has said what's been said here before, but in unique kind of way, which I appreciate.

The question I'd ask if I got this reading for the same question would be: who is the sovereign in this case? 'Were the sovereign be made aware, all might enjoy this water abundantly.' So who or what is the sovereign (in your case) that needs to be informed of this clean well and spring of water which flows from your well? Isn't it you, so that you have the confidence to go out and meet people, or to become a little more personal with a person or people of personal interest to you?

29 remains true to its nature, and unless it floods and washes everything away, it adapts naturally to any place or condition without effort or fear.

Not very different from what you've already said.
 

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hi everybody,

have been without a relationship for quite a long time, changing place where I lived, buinding up my social life, realizing many other things in my life, changing, understanding and getting aware of many otehr things, but always without a partner.
am quite at ease in my skin, and quite engaged, my life can be defined "full" and anything but mediocre, but now I got to a point where I am longing for love in my life.
I asked about the purpose of this period to IC and got 48.3 > 29?
H48.3 is about an unused capacity, and the need for communication to change the situation. Like the well, the love and capacity for being loved is there.

So who is the king, that needs to hear this message? I don't think this "king" is just a guy with a crown and a head too dull to see you. I suspect it refers to an higher part of yourself, which must be informed and given full consent for relationships to take place. Is there a part of you which is protecting you from the outer influences of a relationship?

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To ask the purpose or the meaning of a thing is incorrect. But to look at the situation in a manner completely undemanding of it- not asking or yearning for its Truth to reveal itself- will allow you to observe your relationship to that situation.
- and ask what is your relationship to being alone. Ideas will come because Ideas don't belong to us, they are things in themselves as much as we are. In observing the relation you will find ideas running through it. Let them come to you.




As it stands, asking the meaning and the truth is looking for a form...a cup. But whatever meaning and truth really is it negates forms, being beyond all forms. Partake of the stream of the situation, perhaps.
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Hi parrhesiac, and thanks for that!
just to clarify...what I wanted the IC to please tell me, is what do I need to learn, what does it mean for my life to spend such a long time alone?
It was not an unhappy time at all, I decided, chose and did many things I wanted to do, I redirected my life and had wonderful moments, lovely and ugly people around, deep experiences who made me grow, and get who I am now.So my questioning did not come from an unsatisfaction, as I said, I am well in my skin, and I like being alone, I am well with myself.:blush:
But it is also true, that at this stage, I would like to share the density of my life with somebody, to share who I am, and I would like also to "receive", what I was not capable of doing for many years, and through self development I got aware of and started to change.

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So who is the king, that needs to hear this message? I don't think this "king" is just a guy with a crown and a head too dull to see you. I suspect it refers to an higher part of yourself, which must be informed and given full consent for relationships to take place. Is there a part of you which is protecting you from the outer influences of a relationship?

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yes, there is a part of me which protects itself and draws back in my hyperindipendence...but I am working on that, I am learning to let it happen, it only does not happen so easily, it is also a question of who am I attracting, I discovered that we can direct who we attract depending of what kind of message we send out...
I am learning tons of interesting positive, wonderful things, which will finally hopefully help me and make me attract somebody who will be ready to share a path of life with me... :)

lindorita
 

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Hi lindorita,

It seems to me your question was answered in a lovely way. Your time alone has been the opportunity to discover the inner well-spring connecting you to all and everything, and maybe to closely discover the part of you that yearns for the authentic closeness with your mate.

There is a lovely CD collection ( also in book form ) by JOhn O'Donohue called Anam Cara ( Soul Friend). I think you would like it very much. The first part is about the bounty of solitude, entitled Your Solitude is Luminous..and he talks about discovering the inner wellspring, something he feels that people often stumble upon when single.
and then he talks about the Anam Cara, and how the beloved lives within you even as you are looking for him...The "clay" of one human form in resonance with the "clay" of another.. sort of like a destiny that can't be hurried. 29 seems like that kind of journey. Requiring a certain courage and willingness to endure the plunge through the wilds of experience, with your heart as your guide.
Best to you.
 

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On the practical level, you would need to shine some light upon your well in order that other people can see it. How exactly is that done? I'm not sure. All I know is that a hidden well cannot easily be seen by anybody. :)
 

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