“What’s happening with my relationship in the short term?” 30.6 > 55

[Wairua]

My background info:

Kia ora Koutou (Hello all), I am new to IChing this year though I have been committed to my learning I can’t really put any faith in my interpretation. Thank you in advance for any feedback I receive, I’m living through a difficult period and appreciate all the hope and direction I can garner.

I spent 7 years with my ex. We had a son, got engaged and bought a home. When we sold it I expected a commitment “marriage” but his reaction led me to guess he had lied about his divorce and was still married.

I moved city with our son and he has taken me to family court for full custody and removal. He has after 6 months, dropped that to half holidays and suspended the removal. However our 6 year old son has decided that he doesn’t want to see him. Because of the shock of it all and probably my honesty, I’m being cast as the evil influencing mother.

“What’s happening with my relationship in the short term?” 30.6 > 55

Remove the bad but keep the good. Someone is taking action with that in mind. God or Judges only should judge but others will be kindly forgiven.

He has in the last month admited to still being married, claiming he was unaware... I’ve been texting him his old messages saying “we would marry later when we are sorted”. The courts aren’t interested in this “too dim for others”. But I’ve been asking that he just give our son space to decide for himself. My interpretation of 30.6 our relationship in the short term is that I need to stop judging. Am I the bad, his wife or our son is the good? His bad thoughts for good thoughts? Hopefully it means he will stop his legal action and keep the good me and son in mind. Is it about our son having to go to a counsellor so his decision to not see his father might be heard? Is that the truth brought into the theatre?

Looking at my many possible interpretations is not shedding much light for me. Thanks again

 

[radiofreewill]

Hello Wairua,

"What's happening with my relationship in the short term?"

30.6 to 55 "You are seeing a person in denial."

Your ex's betrayal is akin to the slander from Lord Ji that landed King Wen in prison ~ in the dark ~ for seven years.

In a story of cosmic justice, after King Wen is released from prison, Lord Ji's house (the city of Chong) is taken away from him ~ literally flattened ~ and rebuilt as King Wen's new capitol and solar observatory, Feng. Upon the death of King Wen, his son King Wu moved in.

So, by parallelism with the Zhou story, you are King Wen, your son is King Wu and your ex is Lord Ji.

Ergo, as a consequence of your ex's deception after seven long years, he should provide you and your son with a house of your own.

But, he doesn't want to 'see' this, of course, just like he didn't want to 'see' his previous marriage and non-divorce...

Line 6 is saying that the truth, however, is known to heaven, no matter whether he 'sees' it for himself, or not ~ and as a result the 'right' thing will happen.

So, in the face of his denial, you want to act as correctly as possible ~ so that, when he does open his eyes, he will see that you have been firm and fair and correct all along...and, just as importantly, that your son will 'see' for himself that justice is on the side of rightness.

I hope this helps!

 

[diamanda]

When I had this line for me it played out as a person of authority (not myself, but someone in a literally official position) solved the issue at hand in a fair and satisfactory manner. So in your case this probably means that there will be a beneficial judicial decision. Since you asked about short-term, this will be a good solution only for a short time.

 

[Wairua]

Thank you radiofreewill!

I would never have likened my situation to such a person as King Wen. But you are right my story is similar albeit in a faaarrr more domesticated setting . It’s true, the ex doesn’t want to ‘see’, but heaven knows and if he doesn’t sort himself out he will lose his place there.

I have a great faith in cosmic justice but it doesn’t bring me peace. I don’t want to be dragged through this destructive legal system only to see “ruthless judgment” befall him in the end. It’s a heartbreaking lose, lose situation.

I feel such anger , fear and despair at the thought of court, but I will heed your words and take the higher ground, I need to be an example of truth and strength for my kids 26, 19 and 6yos.

Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom, my own interpretation was fumbling around in the dark. I have a lot of work to do, but I look forward to learning.

 

[Wairua]

Thank you diamanda,

I had hoped he would recognise his lack or moral conscience before we got to judicial decisions. I now hope it doesn't mean the case is coming in the short term and that you're right in the 'good solution' being only for a short time. He has a history of violence but has refused supervised visits, if he's unsuccessful in gaining unsupervised visits he may leave proceedings at this step.

 

[Wairua]

Just in response.

It took another six months before the first hearing where we kept our protection order.

He hasn't contacted our son since and we have two weeks before the parental order goes to court.

Whats happening with my relationship in the short term? 30.6 > 55

Remove the bad but keep the good. Someone is taking action with that in mind. God or Judges only should judge but others will be kindly forgiven.

All I can think is that someone in a position of power was supporting my little son and I. That happened in the short term although I didn't know it.

He still insists he didn't know he wasn't divorced. He is still married and refused to provide equally for our son. So remove the bad.

I can provide for my little son through my own inheritance. His father has said as much but it's the principle. Either way I have kept the good and we are now in a good space. Maybe it was telling me to stop my fear bad thoughts cause we would be alright.

Forgiveness... I'm not sure where this goes yet. It was certainly one of the worst years of my life. Perhaps I'm forgiven for shaking my way through it. I doubt I can forgive him until he is fair.

Anyway, that's my update. I'm really grateful for your responses here Radiofreewill and Diamanda, it helped me through big time.