What should i do?

[jte]

Anon, here's what I make of your readings -

"will my relationship ever improve?
primary 15, line 3, relating 2."

Yes, if you do what it takes to make/help it improve.

"what's happening right now?
primary 57, line 5, relating 18. "

This one's a little harder - I *think* it means you're trying to work things out through negotiation/persuasion. The line implies success but if you look at 57.3 and 57.6, you'll see that the "gentle" approach doesn't work for every situation and can be overplayed. Don't always rely on it.

Hope this helped...

- Jeff

 

[RindaR]

Anon, I'm wondering if this means that part of the problem you've asked about is imprinted (sealed with, marked by) your own personal issues... ...and that what has gone before and what is to come depends in large part on your ability to stay in the present with the problem, keeping past lessons in mind, and being mindful of how the future is developing. To me it suggests a situation that is rapidly becoming intransigent, solidified, and will require this extra mindfulness on your part in order to identify when and where changing things is still possible.

Does this seem to fit?

Rinda

 

[dobro p]

"will my relationship ever improve?
primary 15, line 3"

Yes, it will, but it will take a lot of work which is done for unselfish reasons.

"what's happening right now?
primary 57, line 5"

It's really positive. You're on the right track by persevering in your approach - it benefits everything in the situation - but you're in the middle of a process that's gonna take some time. It's a good fortune situation.

 

[dij]

57.5 talks about abandoning a 'bad' beginning. As far as relationship go, I would rather hazard a guess that this means abandoning preconceptions - this is a major stumbling block in relationships - how we all think things 'ought to' play out and it turns out they never are the way we expect they should be.
so, I'd say that 57.5 refers to you effectively stopping what you were doing, abandoning your previous strategy for dealing with things and coming here to ask advice.

just my two somethings

 

[seeker]

I think you need to figure out what the source of the problem is. There are some very interesting consistencies in all of your readings about being humble, not imposing your will, and taking things carefully, but also keeping true to yourself, not following other people and not getting too involved or committing to anyone. Are you sure this is what you want? I could be misreading it of course, but what I get from the reading, especially the last one, is that it can improve, but that still may not make you happy. This might go back to the preconceptions Dij was talking about. If you have certain expectations from the relationship and they are not going to be met, that could cause problems. If that is the case, only you can decide what compromises you are willing to make, which goes back to 2, keeping your own sense of inner purpose and 56 do not compromise yourself to win acceptance. I think this situation can be resolved if you figure out the core issue and focus on it taking it slowly, not pushing too hard, adapting to the situation, and not clinging to the past, but only if thats what you really want.