What to do about finding someone to come home to

[kincadefoster]

Me and a friend have had this thing for a while where we've talked back and forth here and there for a while about relationships and we've basically gone through a lot of the same things, same bullsh**.

Recently she went through sort of a bad breakup and she was revealing that she is feeling heartbroken and depressed. So I took the initiative and said hey lets go do.... and for a couple weeks now have been taking her fun places. Weve never hung out much before this and I've always liked her, but my goal for the moment was help her cheer up and have fun and worry about the other stuff later, but I've started to like her a lot more as we've been hanging out and she was acting like she was into me too, but then the other day, me, her and friends were on a picnic sorta thing and she asked my other friend his girlfriend status and basically making it clear she likes him. Which is sorta confusing cuz on the way there she chose my car, not his, among other things that suggest interest.

So I told her the situation that I like her and to go ahead and pursue him and we will just be friends and I won't invest my feelings go any further.

and her response was like I really didn't know you felt that way, but I always liked him and don't know where it will go and I'm very sorry if I hurt you...

I'm frustrated at this point in my life, really want someone to go home to that will stick around so I asked my best course of action toward that goal right now and got 49.3.4.5>24. But the first time I cast I still was thinking somewhat of her so IC may have answered that way. The next time I was more focused on that general goal when I cast and got 8 unchanging

I also want to add that one of the main reasons I started really liking her lately was bc I'm just thinking that if we've both been through similar bullsh** in relationships and can't find someone who will stick around doesn't that mean we could be good to each other in a way others can't...?! but maybe that's just a fantasy...

 

[ginnie]

I asked my best course of action toward that goal right now and got 49.3.4.5>24.

Sounds like you two are sympathico and without a doubt it looks like things could develop slowly toward your goal.

 

[svenrus]

Fifth nine in hex. 49 pointed out:
" Changeable as a tiger is the great personage,
You don't need the oracle.
Expect punishment. "
(K. & R. Huang, I Ching)

Afterward: Return, hex. 24.

Seen from here, far away, You should be prepared for the interference from powerfull forces. Go through it and things will settle. Again people will meet: "The setup of a well (hex. 48) must necessarily be revolutionized in the course of time. Hence there follows the hexagram of revolution (hex. 49)." (Wilhelm/Baynes, I Ching, book III on the sequence)

 

[ginnie]

That the great person changes the way a tiger does is usually thought to be a good thing, not something warning of punishment. "Changes like a tiger" takes its meaning from the fact that a tiger's stripes are so visible and beautiful. In other words, the change that is coming is highly visible and nobody would need an oracle to see it.

 

[kincadefoster]

What I really angry about in this situation is that this friend has basically been bragging to me about how much she likes him and that she texts him all the time... So I think why doesn't he take initiative and ask her to go places like I've been doing...? Basically stringing her along the way I see it...

And I also noticed thinking about it just now that he never actually said he likes her... I think he may just be having an inner laugh at me or both of us...

 

[ginnie]

He's probably not laughing at you. Most of the time, folks are just thinking about themselves . . .