What to do with my life - 28 changing to 43

[emmab]

hi all,

I sought advice from you a few months ago, and things in my life haven't improve. I have a house, a dear husband and a good job and none of it makes me happy. I really don't know what would. I just feel lost, like i was living somebody else's life. It seems that everything i thought i needed, and that i fought to have, any of it makes me happy right now.

I have no idea which way to chose in my life from here. I asked iChing if i should leave everything behind and start all over again. Leave my husband, my house, my job and start it again. I don't know where or how (it scares me).

This is what i got from iChing - 28 changing to 43. What does this mean?

Please help me. I really need some light right now :/ Thank you.

 

[ijing0509]

Wilma

28.1 means that you have to be very careful to take the first step. 43 implies that someone is not honest or loyal and we have to get rid of him/her. However, we ought to wait until the right moment. The main point is that you have to be prudent enough to get success in the first step. Otherwise, you will feel very regretful.

 

[icastes]

28 is a situation which is inherently flawed, and the moving first line means that you must do any ritual action properly and thus not be blamed. While the situation is inherently flawed, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to leave everything behind. It might simply be that you must change the way you think about your life. The problem is 43 which is situation of overzealousness that leads to awkwardness and estrangement. Both 28 and 43 are bad situations that can only be revolved through very strong resolve. 43, with the yang forces about to triumph, warns of impending trouble and hardship where only self-discipline and earnest hard work will work. You may in fact suffer a great loss. Thus, I would consider very carefully leaving everything behind, and seek alternatives. For example, you may want to spend more time alone. Take weekends away from everyone and commune with yourself. It might help.

 

[rodaki]

hi all,

I sought advice from you a few months ago, and things in my life haven't improve. I have a house, a dear husband and a good job and none of it makes me happy. I really don't know what would. I just feel lost, like i was living somebody else's life. It seems that everything i thought i needed, and that i fought to have, any of it makes me happy right now.

I have no idea which way to chose in my life from here. I asked iChing if i should leave everything behind and start all over again. Leave my husband, my house, my job and start it again. I don't know where or how (it scares me).

This is what i got from iChing - 28 changing to 43. What does this mean?

Please help me. I really need some light right now :/ Thank you.

hi emma,

In my eyes this reading of yours reflects your experience and the place you are at this point in your life . . 28 talks about a situation that has gone on to the point where something needs to change cause the way things worked before is not enough to support one anymore. The image used to show this is a beam that gets overloaded and is about to break, the advice is to take charge and do something. The beam could be you, if you have put yourself under more pressure than you could handle or the way you have constructed your life -either way, it's 'renovation' time.

43 paints a different image, both in dynamics and intensity. It shows someone coming up and saying their piece in a calm but definite way. It's a place where the extra pressure of 28 finds a way to be expressed and channeled. I think 43 could also be a warning sign, I imagine that a 'king' has sent out representatives to report the state of things in the realm and they come back and give news as to what is weakened and needs extra care, so that could be you examining your life and calmly assessing its different aspects, what genuinely doesn't fit anymore, what absolutely needs to go and what asks for improvement.

28.1 advises spreading white mats to lay down the weight you have amassed and relieve the beam -for me this line has often come about as using pen and paper to write and organize my inner clutter, so I wonder if that could be a good way for you to start investigating what's what. Or it could signify that you need to start talking about your needs and wants -to your husband, your friends, or your boss if that's an option. Sometimes we need to do a bit of digging before we locate the specifics of the real problem, or to hit the bedrock of our wishes and start building from there a solid structure on which each one of us can thrive. Iow, I could see this reading urging you to step up and claim the things you want to feel better about who and where you 're at.

 

[emmab]

Thank you so much for your advice, they all made sense to me. I'll think all about it very carefully.