what to do?

[rose]

I am a bit confused. My friend told me that he would like a lift to the airport but when I messaged him 2 days ago to ask him the details abt the time and place he never replied. But he continues to forward emails to me. I met this guy on a dating website, met him twice, still dont know what he feels towards me, so I have decided to just take it as friendship and when I do and message him in goodwill to find out details for dropping him off next week, he doesnt reply. I can do the girl thing and figure a 100 reasons why he doesnt want to reply to my message. But it's so silly!!! I just feel akward having to even think like that. I dont like offering a favour not knowing if I shud leave that day free cos it's my time. So I asked Yi

Why hasnt he replied to my text msg?
19 (5) -> 60

What abt waiting for him to get back to me on my msg?
52(5) ->53

What abt contacting him abt the msg I sent?
53 unchanging

Can someone offer me their 2 cents kindly?

 

[zander]

Why hasnt he replied to my text msg?
19 (5) -> 60

For whatever reason, he is testing you.

What abt waiting for him to get back to me on my msg?
52(5) ->53

The more you wait in silence, the more you will realize that this guy isn't for you.

What abt contacting him abt the msg I sent?
53 unchanging

You have done enough.

 

[ginnie]

52.5>53

This seems to warn against talking too much, injudicious words and the like. 53 unchanging seems to be saying that you won't influence him much after just a few meetings. Hex 53 means gradual development, not overnight relationship success.

 

[rosada]

I see 19.5 - 60 as saying he either found another way to get to there, 19.5 just a more suitable ride, or he isn't going after all, 60 limitation. Please let us know if you ever learn what actually happened!

 

[miakoda]

Rose:

Think, too, about the balance. If you need to track someone to do him a favor, something isn't quite right....

Best,

Miakoda

 

[rose]

Hi all, thanks for your 2 cents

What actually happened:

I emailed him abt the text msg I sent him asking if everything was ok as I hadnt heard back.

He emailed saying that he hadnt been able to think the details, but the 'mist' in his mind should clear in a day or two and that he'll call me.

4 days went by and no call came. I said what the heck, if someone needs a ride to the airport and they arent calling me, I dont have to go after them, Im not their mother. So many thoughts raced in my mind like what does this guy take me for...there's NO way I'll call him...Im going to leave it at that. (which I did).

He rang me on Tues morn frm work, asking if I was going to pick him up that night. I said I had no idea. After a pause he asked me why I hadnt replied to his text msg from the night before. (I secretly hated how he expected a msg back and could simply ask why I didnt, when he didnt even reply to mine! And I had to go thru the agony of 'why' he didnt reply).

I seriously did not have a text from him, he swears he did use up his last credit on his mobile to send me that text. Then he sheepishly said he had run out of credit and that was the reason why he didnt call when he said he would and that he had to use his office phone. He said that he would show me his sent msg in his outbox.

At the airport, we got along well and no grudges were held. He was very thankful I could send him off. Before he departed he said that I wouldnt have come or called him had he not called me. I said that I seriously didnt get his text (which was asking me to call him) from the previous night. It's rare that text msgs dont get delivered, but I think he was already out of credit and didnt realise it when he hit send.

So I guess the limitation was his credit? I still dont know how to apply my reading to what happened. I realise Im lacking in my intrepretation skills.

 

[ginnie]

So I guess the limitation was his credit?

Yes, it looks like his approach (19.5) was limited or restricted (hex 60) by his lack of credit.

He seemed to be accusing you when he said you wouldn't have come if he hadn't called. He's the one who should know when his credit has run out. He seems to be expecting you to read his mind and know when his credit has run out. Why should you know anything about his credit? It sounds very irritating to be blamed more than once like that. He has already adopted you and put you in the role of his mom!!

Watch your bag!!! Pretty soon you might be paying for his cell phone so that he's always got enough minutes to call you.

In other words, 19.5 > 60 might also mean the limitation is that he's a cheapskate. I mean, he's the one who didn't put enough money into his plan, while still expecting you to drive him to the airport. How did he think the two of you were going to be in touch about that? By mental telepathy?

 

[rose]

Hahaha..the way u wrote it cracks me up Barbra... Yea I guess if a guy cant be bothered putting in credit for me it says what he really feels or doesnt feel for me.