What will be his decision in relation ot me? 24.1.5 > 8

[ddream]

Hi,

I have a question about 24.1.5 > 8

The situation is as follow: I've been dating a man for a month now. We've seen each other six times over a period of a month. We see each other about once a week. When I asked to spend more time with him, he said he could make more time for me. However, he said he wouldn't be able to commit to more than twice a week for now. He confessed that he was also seeing another woman and he was trying to balance the time between us and he can't choose who he wants to be with at the moment. He said he knows he needs to make a decision and he thinks about it everyday. He said within 2 or 3 weeks, he will make it.

So, I know I should probably just walk away and he's probably not worth it, but it's easier said than done. I like this guy. We have been intimate and he has told me he hasn't been with the other woman. Anyhow, I asked the I Ching: "What will be his decision in relation to me?" I got 24.1.5 > 8 Ok, it seems good, but is it really? Does this mean he will return to me or does this me he will turn his back on me? Am I the error or is the other woman the error here?



"Small deviations from the way are often unavoidable, but he who turns back before he has gone too far, knowing the error he has made, is not to be blamed. Indeed, in acknowledging his mistake, he brings good fortune on himself."

This represents a man of high principal who, recognizing that he has gone astray, immediately turns back whatever it may cost him.

 

[Trojina]

Hi,

I have a question about 24.1.5 > 8

The situation is as follow: I've been dating a man for a month now. We've seen each other six times over a period of a month. We see each other about once a week. When I asked to spend more time with him, he said he could make more time for me. However, he said he wouldn't be able to commit to more than twice a week for now. He confessed that he was also seeing another woman and he was trying to balance the time between us and he can't choose who he wants to be with at the moment. He said he knows he needs to make a decision and he thinks about it everyday. He said within 2 or 3 weeks, he will make it.So, I know I should probably just walk away and he's probably not worth it, but it's easier said than done. I like this guy. We have been intimate and he has told me he hasn't been with the other woman. Anyhow, I asked the I Ching: "What will be his decision in relation to me?" I got 24.1.5 > 8 Ok, it seems good, but is it really? Does this mean he will return to me or does this me he will turn his back on me? Am I the error or is the other woman the error here?



"Small deviations from the way are often unavoidable, but he who turns back before he has gone too far, knowing the error he has made, is not to be blamed. Indeed, in acknowledging his mistake, he brings good fortune on himself."

This represents a man of high principal who, recognizing that he has gone astray, immediately turns back whatever it may cost him.

I answered this once and deleted it since my response was full of incredulity and opinion


It hasn't changed but since no one else answered and you are still here I may as well ;

I'm incredulous that you'd go along with this...you are surely sending the wrong message about how you wish to be treated. This is a most unromantic and demeaning position for you and accepting it and just waiting for a decision does not bode well for a future relationship with him does it ?


Surely its best to withdraw from him whilst he makes his decision ? Whilst he doesn't know if he wants you or not, or if he prefers her please salvage some dignity and leave him to it.


So my take on the reading is you'd best to return to yourself, to honouring your self and your path. Waitng on someones decision about you takes you away from you and your value IMO.

I guess it could mean he decides to 'return' to you....hex 8 is about choosing where you belong but I feel its more about taking the power of decision back to you.

The fact hes given you a time limit of 2-3 weeks where he decides who he likes best is hilarious (his arrogance and your acceptance of it) Geez, unbelievable...why would you put up with that, you are worth more than that. Hes treating you like a job candidate

If you have feelings for him then I would think it less painful for you to just advise him you'd like to withdraw and live your own life, (which may include seeing other men, afterall why shouldn't you) while he makes his decision...er of course if hes too late making his choice(hex 8) and you met someone else its his tough luck !


I did actually laugh when I first read the underlined...and I guarantee you will one day too.

My interpretation may be biased LOL

 

[Trojina]

oh and unless you are just in it for fun I don't think its going to help you to be "intimate" with him with this scenario is it ?

 

[ddream]

Thanks, Trojan.

I know the situation is ridiculous. I'm not planning on contacting him. I actually wanted to withdraw. I just don't know if I should be honest with him and tell him I don't want to see him until he makes a clear decision or if I should simply simply stay silent and slowly disappear. I don't know what's best. Of course I'm starting to have feelings for him. So, it makes it harder. I didn't know he was seeing someone regular until the second last time we saw each other. I should have walked away. It's not so easy when you like the other person though. I know he's not worth it. And I know mentioning my feelings to him probably won't enhance the situation. It might actually be even worse. Well... Perhaps he would have more respect for me if I told him I want to withdraw. What's best? Telling him that or telling him nothing and not do anything? Perhaps your interpretation is right and I'm the one who should take the decision...

What will happen if I tell x I prefer not seeing him unless he's sure he wants to be with me? 10.5.6 > 54

 

[anon]

I don't have great experience in this and I don't know your situation but if it was my reading I would take it as: there will be a major turning point in this relationship. Wether for good or bad, I'm not sure it could either lead to union, or it could lead to returning to yourself. I'm not sure it depends on how the situation has played out up until now. I
Hope that you get the answers that you need and that your relationship turns out for the best.

 

[ddream]

Thanks, Anon. You have the same approach as Trojan, I guess. It's true it could mean a return to myself. I didn't think of it that way because the question was related to his actions. It's so hard to know which interpretation is accurate. I guess only I can know the answer since I'm the only one who know the situation inside out. I'm not too optimistic about it honestly. I don't feel he is that interested in me. I don't think it's worth it.

 

[anon]

Don't get discouraged by a simple reading. Sometimes we have to put our fears (and the iching) aside and just follow your heart. Who cares how the story ends. Do not worry about what people might think or not. Live for yourself and yourself only. Often in life when we do get the courage to take the leap, we often realize that it wasn't as difficult or as bad as we always thought it would be.

If you like this guy, win him over. You have the power to do so and deep down in your heart, you know you can

Best of luck

 

[precision grace]

Although, I would caution that sometimes, life is helping you out by arranging difficulties so that you wouldn't end up with someone who isn't right for you. Just sometimes..

 

[veronica]

Small deviations from the way are often unavoidable, but he who turns back before he has gone too far, knowing the error he has made, is not to be blamed. Indeed, in acknowledging his mistake, he brings good fortune on himself."

This represents a man of high principal who, recognizing that he has gone astray, immediately turns back whatever it may cost him.

I must say that I agree with Trojan on this. You have to get stronger girl and not allow yourself to be treated this way. In my opinion the reading suggests (he who turns back before he has gone too far) stepping back with dignity before you have feelings for him or even worse tell him that you have! I am now old enough to say this: if a guy likes you he will continue to like you and he will pursue you, even if you withdraw. By withdrawing you show you are strong, will not put up with arrogance and are your own person. That's what brings good fortune in my opinion.

Whatever you decide to do, best luck with it. Just get stronger and have more respect for yourself.

Vx

 

[veronica]

Small deviations from the way are often unavoidable, but he who turns back before he has gone too far, knowing the error he has made, is not to be blamed. Indeed, in acknowledging his mistake, he brings good fortune on himself."

This represents a man of high principal who, recognizing that he has gone astray, immediately turns back whatever it may cost him.

I must say that I agree with Trojan on this. You have to get stronger girl and not allow yourself to be treated this way. In my opinion the reading suggests (he who turns back before he has gone too far) stepping back with dignity before you have feelings for him or even worse tell him that you have! I am now old enough to say this: if a guy likes you he will continue to like you and he will pursue you, even if you withdraw. By withdrawing you show you are strong, will not put up with arrogance and are your own person. That's what brings good fortune in my opinion.

Whatever you decide to do, best luck with it. Just get stronger and have more respect for yourself.

Vx

 

[ddream]

Thanks, Veronica and Precision Grace. I believe you all have the correct interpretation. The reading probably refers to me and how I need to return to myself. I have feelings for him. He doesn't know I do, but he knows I'm not interested in meeting other people. He knows I'm interested, but he doesn't know how hurt I am at this moment. The first time he mentioned to me he was seeing another woman, I did take a step back. I didn't contact him afterward. However, he did after 3 days and he asked me if I wanted to go out. I probably should have said no, but I decided to accept. That's the night he told me about not knowing who to choose. I must admit it was weird. Perhaps it's because I was more distant, but the conversation wasn't flowing as it usually was. We were supposed to see each other Friday night after his hockey game at 10:00 PM, but he cancelled the plans Friday morning telling me he forgot he had to play curling Saturday morning and he'd have to get up really early. It was clear he didn't want to spend time with me. So, yes, I definitely want to withdraw. But what he told me Thursday night combined to the fact that he cancelled our plans for Friday night just totally killed me.

I guess you are right Veronica. If he really is interested, he will come back. If he contacts me again (although I'm not sure at this point he will), I think I will have to tell him I can't or perhaps I should simply not respond. Anyhow, I think it's clear in my heart that it's over.

 

[ddream]

EDIT: See update below.

 

[ragini]

Hi,

I have a question about 24.1.5 > 8

The situation is as follow: I've been dating a man for a month now. We've seen each other six times over a period of a month. We see each other about once a week. When I asked to spend more time with him, he said he could make more time for me. However, he said he wouldn't be able to commit to more than twice a week for now. He confessed that he was also seeing another woman and he was trying to balance the time between us and he can't choose who he wants to be with at the moment. He said he knows he needs to make a decision and he thinks about it everyday. He said within 2 or 3 weeks, he will make it.

So, I know I should probably just walk away and he's probably not worth it, but it's easier said than done. I like this guy. We have been intimate and he has told me he hasn't been with the other woman. Anyhow, I asked the I Ching: "What will be his decision in relation to me?" I got 24.1.5 > 8 Ok, it seems good, but is it really? Does this mean he will return to me or does this me he will turn his back on me? Am I the error or is the other woman the error here?



"Small deviations from the way are often unavoidable, but he who turns back before he has gone too far, knowing the error he has made, is not to be blamed. Indeed, in acknowledging his mistake, he brings good fortune on himself."

This represents a man of high principal who, recognizing that he has gone astray, immediately turns back whatever it may cost him.

I am still learning to interpret the Yi, so please take what I say as the words of a novice.

Hex 25.1.5 seems to mention 'return', 'early return', and 'noble hearted return'. I would take this as your return from the situation would be a noble thing to do for your own sake. Perhaps Hex 8 refers to holding together with yourself. Re-uniting with your sense of self, and nourishing yourself.

 

[ddream]

Update: I noticed he sent me a text last night. He said he took the week to think about things and he doesn't want to see me again. He said I'm a good person, but doesn't think it will work out. He said he is sorry to do that in a message.

Again, I know I shouldn't have asked another question, but... I did because I feel so overwhelmed right now and stressed: "What will happen now between x and me?" 28.1.2.3.5 > 51

 

[anon]

Hi ddream how are you doing? How did your situation turn out for you??? I don't understand the last reading although I do recognize hex 51 as a painful shock! -sorry about the first reading. I am in a similar situation just that person is not as honest with me and strings me along for their enjoyment. And though I am aware of this, somehow my heart is still hopeful that they will see the good in me! =(

 

[goddessliss]

Hi ddream how are you doing? How did your situation turn out for you??? I don't understand the last reading although I do recognize hex 51 as a painful shock! -sorry about the first reading. I am in a similar situation just that person is not as honest with me and strings me along for their enjoyment. And though I am aware of this, somehow my heart is still hopeful that they will see the good in me! =(

No, no - it is not about them seeing the good in you - it is about You seeing the bad(truth) in the way they are treating you - I hope you walked away.....fast, anon.
If you come across any of my posts over the years of me and men you will see I allowed myself to be treated less than, myself, so I know what I am talking about - now if they don't treat me like an Angel from the get go - I fly away, seriously - Liss