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Hi,
Here's the context:
There is a guy I've known since college. A few years ago, he told me he was interested in me. Unfortunately, at that time, I was in a relationship. And I always saw him only as a friend. We continued to talk afterwards and, since I'm single, we decided to see each other again. We saw each other a few times, but I didn't know what I wanted from him. Plus, I had a lot in mind. So, I cancelled a lot of our dates and came back later on. It was really on and off. Because I just didn't know what I felt. But since February, I really wanted to see him. We went out and he was not the same. I kind of forgot about it until I discovered he met someone and they are now together. Since then, I'm mad at myself. I'm mad because I wanted to be with him, but it's too late. So, I talked to him, I told him I was sorry for the way I acted with him, that I didn't know what I wanted. And all he told me was that he didn't know what to say, that he didn't expected this, that he was surprised. He told me he needed to think about it. But it's been awhile and it doesn't seem like he's really thinking about it. So, I asked him: "Do you really need to think about it or is it clear to you already? Because if it is clear, please tell me now and it will be easier." And... I got not answer. I'm going crazy right now and needed some insights.
I therefore asked:
1. Is he going to decide to be with me? 47 > 47
2. What will be his decision about me? 28.2 > 31
3. How is he going to act with me? 30.2.3.5.6 > 58
Now, I didn't like question 1 and that's why I decided to ask the question differently. I didn't like the "Yes" or "No" kind of answer. But after getting the second answer, I'm kind of confused. It doesn't relate to answer 1 at all. Answer 1 is negative, but not answer 2. Am I right?
Any insight or advice would be really appreciated.
Thank you,
Lyrandra
Here's the context:
There is a guy I've known since college. A few years ago, he told me he was interested in me. Unfortunately, at that time, I was in a relationship. And I always saw him only as a friend. We continued to talk afterwards and, since I'm single, we decided to see each other again. We saw each other a few times, but I didn't know what I wanted from him. Plus, I had a lot in mind. So, I cancelled a lot of our dates and came back later on. It was really on and off. Because I just didn't know what I felt. But since February, I really wanted to see him. We went out and he was not the same. I kind of forgot about it until I discovered he met someone and they are now together. Since then, I'm mad at myself. I'm mad because I wanted to be with him, but it's too late. So, I talked to him, I told him I was sorry for the way I acted with him, that I didn't know what I wanted. And all he told me was that he didn't know what to say, that he didn't expected this, that he was surprised. He told me he needed to think about it. But it's been awhile and it doesn't seem like he's really thinking about it. So, I asked him: "Do you really need to think about it or is it clear to you already? Because if it is clear, please tell me now and it will be easier." And... I got not answer. I'm going crazy right now and needed some insights.
I therefore asked:
1. Is he going to decide to be with me? 47 > 47
2. What will be his decision about me? 28.2 > 31
3. How is he going to act with me? 30.2.3.5.6 > 58
Now, I didn't like question 1 and that's why I decided to ask the question differently. I didn't like the "Yes" or "No" kind of answer. But after getting the second answer, I'm kind of confused. It doesn't relate to answer 1 at all. Answer 1 is negative, but not answer 2. Am I right?
Any insight or advice would be really appreciated.
Thank you,
Lyrandra