What will help me to get back together with her? 2.4.5 > 45

[squiggles]

I'm still involved in the rollercoaster of this one relationship... we've ceased communication for the time being, and I think I may be an idiot, because when I saw there would be a discount on sending her flowers this week, I decided it would be a great idea. Afterwards, I got anxious, and received a number of negative readings when I asked what effect the flowers would have on our relationship. I feel like I may have dug myself a deeper hole.

Then there's this reading, though. I've always taken Hex 45 to be positive, because it's led to us resuming communication/visiting each other in the past, when continuing seemed impossible. Taken together, the reading could mean that, if I can put a lid on it (line 4), things might go back to normal between us (line 5).

Another interpretation is that there's no use, I should just try to put my feelings aside (line 4) and move on with "ordinary" life (line 5), because I'll meet someone else (45). This really isn't an attractive option

As always, I appreciate the community's insight.

 

[pocossin]

What will help me to get back together with her?
2.4.5 > 45

Find out what she (2) wants -- you probably already know -- and give it (45) to her. I deliver in the family florist business and know the limits of flowers in effecting reconciliation. In one case, the husband began sending his wife makeup flowers. It made no sense. They were a lovely couple, so I asked around. What she wanted was for him to be home at night. He would work in his shop until 11 or 12 at night, making her justly feel neglected, and other nights he was out with the boys. I wanted to tell him, "Forget the flowers. Just be home at night", but honesty is bad for business, and my advice is often not well received, even at Clarity. So they split, and a few years later he died of throat cancer. I hung funeral flowers on his shop door.

 

[squiggles]

Mmm, well... last time we spoke, she said she was done. I guess that should be my answer in itself, but still I persist. Frankly, I can't imagine myself being happy without her. I tend to remember/idealize the good times, and forget the bad ones, so if she wanted to try again today, tomorrow I'd be on a plane.

This is the note I sent with the flowers:



I guess all I can do now is pray.

 

[Endless]

Hi squiggles !
If you don't mind, I can give you my advice as a girrrl, cause I think it is ok to sometimes give out of oracle gendered answers, isn't it?.
First of all: (Sorry, that made me mad and excuse me for my broken english, BUT)
DON'T YOU EVER BUY CHEAP FLOWERS TO A GLAMOUROUS WOMAN.
I think it is ok to sometimes do old-fashined things like that, though it depends on tastes. The only conditionn is doing it from the heart and that means without looking at the price in the first place. Ok ?
Well, secondly, I wanted to point to your note. Sorry, but I wouldn't like to read that as an upset girlfriend willing to reconcile. What a chaotic love note !! Where is the love message in the verb 'spoil', in the adj 'busy' or 'proud of me? Why would she be proud of you ? You are PROUD OF HER. You want to be with her because she is an excellent person and a wonderful woman. Go and tell her !!!!!!!!!!!!
NOW
And have a good day,
:bows:
Endless

 

[squiggles]

K, you win... I'm bad at this

Update: "I love you. I realized that sending you flowers would not make you happy, so I cancelled them. Sleep tight and have a good day."

 

[Endless]

OMG
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

 

[squiggles]

Apparently I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't? lol.

 

[Endless]

I meant, Can't you just go and tell her ?

 

[Hujambo]

What about just saying, Hi, how are you? Not trying to drag up the past but expressing genuine interest in how she is without pressure. If you take things slowly and listen to what she wants, even if you don't get back together, you will be able to show that you care about her.

I read something the other day... When you like a flower, you pluck it. When you love the flower, you water it daily.

So I think your first interpretation was pretty close - keep a lid on it and you have a chance. No need to try and make things happen with grand gestures. Be real with her.