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Hello:

I have been involved in a slightly ambiguous (friendship or Romance) Relationship with a Woman I'll call "Jane" for a few weeks now. We both have Asperger's Syndrome, for what it's worth.

Thursday Night she might have Dumped me, or She may have just Broken our Date for Saturday. I'm in Love with her, but I don't know that the feeling is Mutual. I asked the iChing, "What Consequences if I asked Jane out Tonight?" and it gave me:

48 "The Well"
Changing Lines 1,3,4,5
54 "The Marrying Maiden"

I'm not sure what the signifigance of "The Well" would be in this case? I'm quite intrigued by "The Marrying Maiden" as I've read about its signifigance elsewhere on this site. I have Three Hypotheses:

1. I am the Marrying Maiden because she is involved with Someone Else.
2. She feels like a Marrying Maiden because I am only very recently separated from my Wife (1 Month).
3. She is a Marrying Maiden because if she is involved with the Guy I suspect, he is Married.

I thank you in Advance for any Feedback you may have.:bows:
 

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I asked the i Ching, "What Consequences if I asked Jane out Tonight?"
48 .1,3,4,5 > 54

The consequences of your action of asking her for a date, she will either answer yes or no.

You are looking for a connection between you and her, and 54 suggests yes there will be a connection, so stop procrastinating and simply ask her.
 

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Thank you. What is the signifigance of "The Well" in my Reply?
 

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"Is it my Destiny to be Romantically Involved with Jane?"

16 "Enthusiasm"
Changing Line 2
40 "Deliverance"

Very Interesting!
 

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Do you understand your answer?

Hex 16.2 when things start going wrong its time to back off.

So call her and ask if she's up for a date, but if you get the run around or whatever, time to back off.
 

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Aah, I see. Thank You. I might not have picked up on that.

Between her Asperger's and Bipolar2, I've learned to be over-cautious in these matters...
 

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Hi:

Well, Jane Officially Dumped me:

Hi Paul,

I am sorry, but I am uncomfortable with this. My understanding was that we were developing a casual friendship around our shared interests, similar to the one I have with James. At this point and in the future, I would like to keep our communication to the group context.

Thank you for understanding and I hope you are doing well also.

Jane



In a way, this is a Relief; now I know exactly where I stand.

I think the IC kind of predicted this:

Does Jane want me to Call Her?

16 "Enthusiasm"
Changing Lines 4, 6
23 "Splitting Apart"

Would calling Jane lead to Splitting Apart?

51 "Shock"
Changing Line 1
16 "Enthusiasm"

It's interesting, the Cycle from Enthusiasm through Splitting Apart and Shock back to Enthusiasm. I wonder what form the new Enthusiasm will take?
 

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Hi:

Well, Jane Officially Dumped me:

Does Jane want me to Call Her?

16 "Enthusiasm"
Changing Lines 4, 6
23

Your last answer 16.2 said that if things go wonky back off.

Again this answer indicates the same thing, leave Ms. Jane alone, as messing with her any further at this stage will make her become even more distant.

Basically you seem to be too obsessed with her, moving way too fast for slow Janey, so don't feel sorry for yourself as it was your mistake, so sit back and analyze where you went wrong.

And don't call her, at least not for a while and especially not about dates anymore.
 

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Hi:

Yes, you are right, I was way too obsessed with her. The Ball is totally in her court now. I think that last "Enthusiasm" might indicate the Relief I feel now that it is Over.:)

I will sit back and see if anything develops in the Future, after all the IC said it is our Destiny to be together.:D
 

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How can I get over my Obsession with Jane?

62 "Lying Low"
Changing Line 2
32 "Endurance"

Paul
 

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Simple, restrain yourself and continue to do so, bite the bullet soldier.
 

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Just an update:

On Thursday night, I saw Jane and things were pretty friendly. It was kind of like where things were about 4 months ago before the outside-of-group friendship started.

Today I had a personal consultation with Hilary, and we asked the question, "What could be possible with Paul and Jane in the Future?" We got this reply:

48 The Well
Changing Line 5
46 Pushing Upward

This might not mean Romance, but a Friendship would be Good. Honestly, if I gave you the entire Jane history you might think that I was a Masochist for wanting to pursue Romance anyway. Haha.

On Monday, I registered with an online dating site and am currently chatting regularly with two Ladies from my area. This really helps to take my focus off Jane. :)

Thanks
 

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Hi HappyPaul

I assume that this is a done deal and you are fully satisfied with the answers you have been given...
Just as an afterthought. Each hexagram can mean a number of things, so it is very, very possible to misread. The intuition has to be working, and often it is better to have someone else do the reading so that our personal biases don't interfere. I once, some time back got the marrying maiden in a reading and was confused between the judgment, and the actual meaning of the hexagram. I took it to mean that a relationship was possible. Boy, was I wrong. The judgment was the correct way to read it, "Nothing that would further." I suspect that was the real meaning here also.

When we get the well, sometimes, just sometimes, we have to look into how we are finding our own wisdom, and not just judging by what we desire to be the case. The lower lines especially indicate a situation where we are not looking deeply enough into the situation, and not using good wisdom.

By the way, I think you are lucky. I do not think you needed to get involved with this women. I would recommend against it even if she should change her mind, which she probably won't. Stay away as far as possible except for necessary interaction with the group. I sense this woman can be dangerous.

Gene
 

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the question, "What could be possible with Paul and Jane in the Future?"

48 Changing Line 5 > 46

Well, this suggests that that you could become quite influential in her life as time goes by, as the requirement here is to take things slowly with Ms. Jane but building as you go along, each little success leading to the next one. So, a relationship is indeed possible but last time you rushed her and she got all shaky and backed away from you, the lesson is to take things slowly but try, a relationship is a progression so next time don't try to take a short cut.
 

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Hi:

Thank you Gene and Willowfox for the Advice.

Paul
 

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