Will we ever be together again? 43.1.4.5>46

[Omsweetom]

Hello, this is my 1st time posting a thread. I've been reading a lot on this forum to help me interpret some IC readings. A one-year long distance relationship has ended 2 months ago. He's under pressure from getting married by his family, he's Indian, I'm also older and it was easier to end it... However in the past few weeks we've been exchanging quite a few messages in a very sweet and kind way, making me confused about the nature of this relationship, there is a very special spiritual connection between us amongst other very positive aspects. So in the past few days I have been casting many readings. Not ideal for a clear head, so I'm hoping for help and more insight into this situation and relationship that is confusing me... I'm not sure what to do next, which is trying to approach him only as a friend and develop this new friendship or starting a new romance with him, and my last reading is really hard to decipher as I'm quite new at interpretation.Line 1, H28 seems to describe the relationship as it was before, maybe it was not the right time...Then line 4 and 5 and the resulting H46 seem to be quite hopeful for a new, different approach to a romantic relationship... What do you read / understand from this? All help would be welcome, thanks for your answers

 

[Omsweetom]

Any thoughts on 43.1.4.5>46? Need help

I also asked 'who is he for me?' Got 63.2.5>11, is he now gone out of my life, After Completion? And I have peace 11?Then I asked 'who am I for him?' Got 46.1.2.4 >55It seems that, as I've helped him in his dark moments and sort of put him on a steadier, healthier spiritual path, I might be that 'helper' who have influenced him out of negative ways... Any thoughts?Oh and I also had 54 unchanging 'how to hope for a romantic evolution with this relationship?', well somehow this one seems to sum it up... But you know how it is, the Y is always evolution so even though the unchanging form seems quite inauspicious, I still have hopes...Would love to hear any comments, thanks in advanceI use coins and these are casts within 48h. Also had 'how to improve communication within the relationship?', got 19.4.5.6>10, so is 19.4 meaning there might be someone else? How to tread carefully 10? I'm already very cautious not to invade with messages etcThanks for your help and answers

 

[Omsweetom]

Please anyone? Thanks a lot

 

[diamanda]

Will we ever be together again? 43.1.4.5 > 46
A terrible mistake (43.1) with severe consequences (43.4) and a struggle to unroot weeds (43.5). And yet the person will manage to get over all this. Have you actually ever met this man in person?

Who is he for me? 63.2.5 > 11
The woman loses her privacy - her carriage stops moving till she gets the curtain back (63.2). The person in the west (I assume that's you) receives blessing by sacrificing something small and true. The person in the east, however, kills their cow (63.5). Him being Indian, this imagery sounds terrible. Perhaps this means that what is a small sacrifice for you, would be a huge loss to him. This could be referring to him marrying to please his family... but I'm not so sure. If he values his family and his culture so much, why did he even bother with a long distance relationship for a whole year? It sounds absurd. Anyway, 11 advises to make peace with how things stand. Make peace with the loss of the curtain, and any sacrifices made.

Who am I for him? 46.1.2.4 > 55
A true honest person, who would sacrifice both small and huge things to create abundance.

how to hope for a romantic evolution with this relationship? 54 unchanging
You can most possibly have some more time 'with' him, if you are happy to be the mistress.

how to improve communication within the relationship? 19.4.5.6 > 10
He's in some sort of clique. You need more information on this. Act with kindness, and... be careful, you're walking behind a tiger.

 

[Omsweetom]

Oh Diamanda thanks for the help. Yes I have met him 4 times in 12th months, every time we spent about a week together.I'm not sure I understand the 43 to 46 interpretation, it seems that it will be a terrible mistake to be with him again?

 

[Omsweetom]

Could you please explain a little further who is the person in 43 to 46 who manages to get over things, what are the weeds? Bad things in him, between us or the relationship?

 

[Omsweetom]

For 63 to 11, he loves his family however he's already not living within the established standards and because he lives at home with them, they put loads of pressure on him for not being married yet. And without knowing this, I was putting some pressure on him also during the relationship...However as H54 is showing, I was not happy to be the 'mistress' or to have to hide... When you say 'mistress' do you mean the unmarried woman or what do you mean exactly?

 

[diamanda]

I believe there's another woman. From 54, and also in 43.1.4.5 > 46 one of the hidden lines is 32.5 (the man has changed his mind). I've heard and read this scenario so many times - two people are having a thing between them, then suddenly, and after a long time, religion or family suddenly become issues. Of course it's always a lame excuse. How come it was not an issue to begin with, if it's so damn important?

In 43, a man wants to get rid of a woman. But he goes about it in the wrong way and it becomes very difficult. I believe he will string you along for quite some time more. You'll struggle to break free from this. I'm really sorry that I can't see anything more positive.

 

[diamanda]

For 63 to 11, he loves his family however he's already not living within the established standards and because he lives at home with them, they put loads of pressure on him for not being married yet. And without knowing this, I was putting some pressure on him also during the relationship...However as H54 is showing, I was not happy to be the 'mistress' or to have to hide... When you say 'mistress' do you mean the unmarried woman or what do you mean exactly?

Him being an adult, and yet being treated and also behaving as a little child, and still living with his parents, is disturbing. 54 shows there's another woman (and I don't mean his mum. I mean erotically).

 

[Omsweetom]

I will read and reflect on your interpretations further because there seems to be a lot to understand.When you say a clique for 19 to 10, maybe it's a group of people he is at the moment? He has just completed a spiritual training that I have advised him to take and he's currently doing volunteering work in an ashram environment. It is also something that I regularly do and somehow he seems to follow my spiritual path... And this is why we have started to talk again, after the completion of his yoga teachers course... He has become vegetarian like me during the training, so the sacrifice of the cow, well, I'm thinking of something yes to do with his family as you mentioned in H63...And what do you mean by making peace with the lost curtain? Can it be referring to me losing some d something precious to me, like my real self? Does it mean I didn't value myself enough during this relationship?Because in a way I feel greatly relieved about not having to do what I did for him, the sacrifices? Like I was losing myself a little too much....However this 11 Peace, making peace might be referring to also having learnt so much and still learning now about myself, about ways to love differently... Also our spiritual growth is the main reason for this relationship...So if you see anything more in the readings, I'd love to hear about it. In the meantime, thanks ever so much for your helpful interpretation, there is so much yi gives and you are helping a lot.Greatly appreciate your replies Diamanda

 

[Omsweetom]

I was also wondering about another woman for a while now... So yes it could be possible... What would be the best way to ask questions regarding my well-being in this relationship and a future that is meaningful between each other?Do you suggest a line of questions to adk the Yi?Thanks again

 

[diamanda]

Omsweetom, I don't know what losing privacy / cover can mean in your case. I've seen this line mean sending naughty photos to a guy, but of course it can mean so many different things.

I also can't know what kind of clique he's in. For all we know, he might be in the PUA community or the MGTOW community, or who knows what else.

What I do know is that when a man chooses a woman to be with, their main criterion is not that the woman is a good spiritual advisor. As about your own well-being, obviously it would be good to choose a man who is there, with you, sharing your life, your days. You said you've already split up. In my opinion it's not a good idea to persist and force something which is not flourishing from both sides.

 

[Omsweetom]

Diamanda, I have not sent any photos lol no, but maybe I was in a situation where I lost my integrity, sort of complying with rules that I didn't really under stand, yes I was confused...As for the man who was there, sharing my days etc, I had this before for 16 years and sometimes I miss this time, but most of the time I don't... I have a strong desire for stability yes but it can be in a non-conventional relationship of some kind, maybe this relationship for a while suited my needs of the unknown, the mysterious and the spiritual and we have spent many great times in these areas with loads of respect and kindness from both sides.However when I'm wondering about doing it again but differently yes I know, it sounds awkward, I've asked these questions to the Yi and as per your comments it seems not such a great idea. But because he's very present now and sweet, you can see why my heart went for the 'new romance' etc... Thanks again for the readings

 

[diamanda]

Yes, I so know how our heart can go for the unknown, the mysterious, and the unconventional. I totally understand your need for this, after 16 years with someone. And yet our 'heart' can be very misleading. It's useful to take facts into account. His current words may be sweet, but facts show that he doesn't want to commit to you and he split from you. Maybe you're ok with something unconventional and so far away, but not many people would be. Most people want physical presence, companionship, sex.

Just some thoughts. Wishing you well.

 

[Omsweetom]

Thanks for the thoughts. Your words have been underlining some actual facts, the reality of the present situation and the status of this relationship. There are some things that are not working.I wish it was different hahahahahaha. For now I'm concerned about my well-being. I'm friendly with him since we parted in March, caring and kind. The 'heart', the real one has told me to do these readings and they have shed some light on this confusion I was in, confused by my own desires and blinded by them. So thanks for the 'putting me back on track' so off I can go and grow now. I will post further readings if and when it's appropriate on the Evolution of this friendship or other topics. Thanks again for your time Diamanda