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Martinus777

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Hello everyone. This is my first post here, but I have been studying iChing and these forums for a while now.

I'm a lawyer and have been working for the same firm for over 10 years. I have been doing well, working very hard etc. and hoping to make a partner in a couple of years. I am also gay and out at work with a supportive boss and certain colleagues.

However, recently, someone apparently well meaning (but not in a direct position of power) at my work told me in confidence that I may have a harder time getting promoted because some people at my work dislike the fact that I'm gay and would rather promote someone heterosexual. This is not something I was surprised by, in a sense (I suspected something like this) but naturally having this spelled out to me, this made me feel rather despondent.

So I asked iChing and got 30.5 -> 13.

Both 30.5 and 13 seem very apt but I am not sure what they say - should I abandon my ambitions of becoming a partner and seek other opportunities - or should I simply draw conclusions from this revelation and try to prove the naysayers wrong.

Any insight would be appreciated. :)
 

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Welcome, Martinus!

Firstly, it is a little hard to interpret the results as you don't state what your exact question was. Do you remember the exact wording of what you asked?

30.5 is quite an intense line... it is about understanding one's lack of control in life, and grief over the inescapable nature of all things to eventually peak and pass away. However, it's also an auspicious line. There's power and depth and fortune to be had in being able to accept what you can't control in terms of mortality, etc. It's a quite heavy and complex line.

Modesty (15) as the background hexagram seems to describe your own position and orientation towards this situation, perhaps. I'm amazed by how calm, centered, and accepting you seem of your situation at work. I would be livid! What your colleague revealed to you is an ugly side of your superiors and the culture at your firm. Ugly and also directly harmful to you. I'd be very angry. Also, depending on where you live, it may be illegal for them to discriminate against you (as it should be)-- there's that to consider.

Without knowing the exact wording of your question, it's hard to interpret 30.5. I can see it as describing your calm acceptance of the situation-- but that's all. It does not seem to offer answers on what to do or not do.

I wish you the best of luck in moving forward!
 

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Hello mulberry,

Thank you very much for responding.

To answer your questions, my question was generally "what should I do about this situation" and more specifically, "what are my chances of getting the promotion/recognition at work despite this".

As for my reaction being mellow, I am generally a rather fiery-tempered person, but this time I really do not know enough to be mad at anyone specific... yet. This just comes in a bit out of blue and so amorphous I am not even sure how I should respond - and if at all. We of course have anti-discrimination rules and it is illegal to discriminate in workplace based on sexual orientation here (I live in Poland, which is subject to EU laws) but of course in practice it is always very difficult to prove bias based on discrimination as opposed to countless other subjective criteria.

The way I was told this was also a bit strange - generally, the person who told me this is friendly and was drunk at the moment (it was at office drinks). She is a secretary to my boss (who is sympathetic/likes me) so on one hand she may have access to certain info, but on the other she is not exactly the person making or influencing the decision. And she told me this out of blue, unsolicited, but in a way that was not hostile (more like "oh, it sucks that it is so and so"). So I guess I'm mainly confused by this. :)
 

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Thinking more about this, I think iChing is encouraging me to see the broader picture.

I think the immediate answer is "yes, you will succeed if you try hard enough" but it also gives a second answer: "but do you really want this?" - perhaps it is telling me that I am focusing too much on my ambitions, my desire to get promoted, and that life is too short to care too much for things like this...

Interestingly enough, the hexagram 30 is "fire over fire" - I don't know whether astrological meanings (which I am half-hearted about to begin with) tie into iChing - but, I'm a Sagittarius, my boyfriend is an Aries; the secretary who told me this is another Aries; and my boss is a Leo - all fire signs. Perhaps there is just too much "hot air" in the whole situation. :)
 

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